Pregnant and don’t feel happy?

[jademoll1910]

Please no judgement. I’ve just found out I’m pregnant, I’m 23 but I don’t want to be another statistic young mum. I have a career planned but I can’t face aborting a baby who did nothing wrong. (I’m not pro life or pro abortion Its just how I feel). However I feel embarrassed at the thought of even telling a doctor I’m pregnant let alone my family/ my boyfriends family. We’ve been together 4 years but his family are really judgemental and I feel like this is a huge part in my decision knowing I’ll be spoken about by them. I really don’t know what to do.

How far along are you? You can have a medical termination up to 10 weeks so if it's still early you dont have to decide right away, you've got time to talk it through with your partner or anyone else. 1 in 4 women will have a termination, its absolutely nothing to feel ashamed or guilty over if it's the right decision for you. It will never be an easy choice but it'll likely be easier than raising a child that you aren't ready for. Be kind to yourself in that respect!

For what it's worth, I'm struggling to feel happy about my pregnancy too and I'm 27, married and have a stable career, so you aren't alone. For some people the shock and overwhelmed feelings take longer to go away. It's a huge deal. I've had great support from my doctors though, so dont be afraid to turn to them. Midwives can also provide support if you are struggling.

Also, dont let other people's opinions cloud your judgement. It's your life, it doesn't matter what other people think!

Good luck whatever you decide x

Just to let you know that it is completely and utterly normal to react the way you have. No judgement 💐

Even when you're trying for a baby and it's much wanted it's normal to feel like this- hormones have a lot to answer for. Take your time and think about what you want. Time is on your side

No judgement OP, its very overwhelming, you sound very sensible so I'm sure whatever you do will be for the best