Comments about having a boy!

[Miss2820]

Hi

Just a bit of a rant so I’m pregnant coming to 13 weeks I’m just really getting annoyed with how people are assuming I’m having a boy? Not one person has said oh could be a girl would be nice if it’s a girl just constantly oh it’s gnna be a boy definitely a boy... I know I already have a girl now so I get people would just assume it’s gnna be a boy this time around but it’s just the constant it’s definitely going to be a boy

Hi - I felt the same as you did around the same time. Because I didn’t have very much sickness (or any at all really!!) loads of people were telling me that it was definitely going to be a boy because of how sick they were with having girls... it got to the point where I actively started hoping it would be a girl to prove everyone wrong. 20 weeks now and just found out it’s a baby girl... thrilled to prove everyone wrong but also had gotten to a stage I didn’t care anymore.
Just try to ignore them as much as possible- I used to just laugh it off and say welll it’s a 50/50 chance either way!
It’s frustrating but hopefully you’ll get to a point where you can drown them all out and stop caring!

I had this as well and turns out we were having a girl, when we told our immediate family they didn’t hide their disappointment and actually complained because they just wanted a boy 🙈

To be fair I do know tons of people with a girl and a boy. I'm one of the only ones with two of the same sex (both boys). It is irritating to assume though and even worse when you do have two of the same and get told "that's a shame! Will you try again to get your girl/boy?" So rude. Loads of people are adamant they know the sex of your unborn child before you do. I always took great satisfaction in telling the ones who were wrong!

I know what you mean this is my 2nd pregnancy we already have a DD 18 months and its really grating on me all the "wouldn't it be lovely to have one of each" and "I have everything crossed you have a boy" the worst "It would complete your family if it was a boy" comments. I almost feel under pressure to have a boy! So stupid!

I've had multiple people tell me that I'm pregnant with a boy. Well, not according to our sonographer but whatever.

I think that having one of each is overrated. I grew up with a brother but if I look at all my cousins, it's the same sex ones that are closest to their siblings.

Sometimes people are just using the same small talk, it is annoying but just brush it off :) It does seem sometimes they automatically assume you will be fulfilling the ideal of covering both genders

Well seemingly everyone was convinced DS was going to be a girl - my DM and MIL were 100% sure so I wouldn't take much notice.

It is annoying though

It just gets a bit too much after a while.. like no one says hope you have another girl just always hope it’s a boy or your definitely having a boy, I did say something to my husband about it I said why is it anyone who noes I’m
Pregnant is just assuming it’s going to be a boy.. not one person has said what do you want to have?.. or it doesn’t matter what it is as long as baby is healthy and you are too..

People are dicks.

I had a girl/boy (I didn't know the Dec beforehand with either).
I got some comments like "oh aren't you clever!" Clever?? Wtf?
Other comments like "what a shame they won't be able to play together"
Or "what a pity that they won't be close. Such a shame"

They're now teens and they're very close.

By contrast my Dsis had 3 girls. Her own FIL made a 'formal compliant' in writing about how upset he was and how she'd let them all down.

I have 2 friends with 2 boys each and they had "ohhh I don't envy you" or "I can't believe how disappointing that must be"

I honestly can't my head around people's attitudes to each sex. It seems that others are never happy and just have to make ridiculous comments.

@Milicentbystander72

People are dicks.

I had a girl/boy (I didn't know the Dec beforehand with either).
I got some comments like "oh aren't you clever!" Clever?? Wtf?
Other comments like "what a shame they won't be able to play together"
Or "what a pity that they won't be close. Such a shame"

They're now teens and they're very close.

By contrast my Dsis had 3 girls. Her own FIL made a 'formal compliant' in writing about how upset he was and how she'd let them all down.

I have 2 friends with 2 boys each and they had "ohhh I don't envy you" or "I can't believe how disappointing that must be"

I honestly can't my head around people's attitudes to each sex. It seems that others are never happy and just have to make ridiculous comments.

I just don’t understand why the sex is a big thing? Like isn’t anyone able to say hope baby is healthy or something, it’s just always I hope it’s a boy or it’s definitely going to be a boy because you have already had a girl or the other one I have is oh my inlaw side is just mainly boys so your going to have a boy