Feeling down

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Hi everyone! I am now 13w4d so I had my scan last week and we have told family and friends our news which has been great, everyone is so happy for us and I was on such a high last week. I feel a bit down and under appreciated by my husband this week and now I feel so guilty for feeling down because I have waited my whole life to be pregnant and I really wanted to enjoy every second of it! Is anyone else feeling like this?
One thing that has really got to me lately is that I haven’t been going grocery shopping because of COVID so my husband has been picking up a few bits here and there with my mum doing big shops but my husband always seems to begrudge shopping for me or makes me wait until it fits in with his schedule even though for one he eats all of the foods my mum has bought for me because they are the only things I feel like and for two when his mother was shielding he shopped for her all the time, so frustrating!

I feel very similar to this !
My parents have 3 grandchildren already , & I feel like they blow past everything I say especially my mother
If I say I'm feeling such & such symptom , the response is normally "I know. I've been pregnant myself"

My partner often shrugs off my symptoms as generally been unwell especially when I'm experiencing sickness or exhaustion
I've tried to involve him in everything , symptoms , information etc but sometimes he'll blow past it very casually.

The only person who seems to be interested & often rings to see how I'm doing is my sister
She's been extremely supportive but I don't want to bore her.

I guess it's because I'm super excited but also anxious so I guess I talk a lot about it.

Yes, I feel very down at the moment. I haven't even had my first scan but thing I'm about 12 weeks this week. This is my third baby, none of them have been planned exactly, but this time I feel really down for many reasons, one being I feel so ill. I'm on 2 different types of medication, but they are quite strong sedatives so helps with the sickness, but I'm bloody shattered. Struggling to work, struggling to even leave the house. I'm spending the whole weekend in the house, usually usually in bed. One minute dp is understanding but he's not used to doing anything around the house really (been a battle for years) so if it means him having to do dishes or tidy up a bit he gets moody and tells me I'm fine and I just need to push through ( that would have upset me the last two pregnancies, but this time he's swifty told to fuck off).
I had bad pnd with my last and dp was never here, so I'm dreading this time around. Ds2 was very hard work.
I don't feel excited about anything at all. We have a holiday booked for November. Usually I would be really looking forward to it. This time I don't even want to go. I'm short tempered with everyone and just feel groggy constantly!
Sorry you're feeling down OP. I hope things get better for you. Everyone tells you to enjoy pregnancy while you can, and honestly, it makes me want to punch them in the face. Pregnancy has always been a shit time for me, and if they felt like this they wouldn't be enjoying themselves either.

I’m really sorry you are both feeling down too but in a weird way I feel better to know I’m not alone.
@kirstenn123 you can talk symptoms and pregnancy to me anytime I don’t mind! I’m sure your sister doesn’t mind either, I think that’s just part of the whole thing - like you feel guilty for moaning because this is a miracle and we should be grateful (which I am) so you don’t really want to burden or bore other people with your worries. Plus all the generations of mothers before us who shut up and got on with it make us feel like wooses for complaining!
@Iminaglasscaseofemotion I really hope your sickness eases soon and you can feel a bit more normal, this is my first so I have no idea what pnd feels like but I hope you don’t get it this time round - wishing you happy thoughts x

I think the only advice I can give it's don't expect pregnancy to be a bed of roses. Honestly - most of the time I've felt rubbish, either physically or mentally. I'm 39 weeks now and this whole process is about the end point and the baby, pregnancy itself is a pile of poo.

Take the pressure off yourself to feel a particular way, and just feel the way you feel. Your husband should be properly looking after you though - my H was also like this and didn't get how the first trimester was so hard. I got him to do some reading which helped. Spell out to him how you feel and that you just need his support? Fingers crossed he steps up, and I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly (even if you do feel a bit crap )

Thanks op. Unfortunately this usually lasts through my entire pregnancy so I think that's having a big effect knowing there's another 6 months of this to come. Good luck.