Is it normal to find second pregnancy this tough?

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I am 27 weeks pregnant and have a 2.5 year old DD. I am beyond knackered and feel awful about myself most days. I have put on 2 stone already and cannot believe I still have 3 months left of this. I think being locked down and trying to work and look after her (my DH is also helping) has contributed to my massive weight gain and generally feeling of misery. I am already feeling at the stage where I have to sit down all the time after bursts of activity with DD and have aged about 5 years in the last 3 months.

I know I am really lucky to be in this position but I am finding it hellish and want to cry most days. We haven't lived in the area we are in long and my worst nightmare is that I won't be able to get out to any groups and meet people when this baby is born and I'll just get fatter and lonelier. I don't know how to make myself feel better at the moment.

@EllyNC

My husband is amazing but works 5 days a week. He’s wfh part of the time and able to help me a bit then but only to an extent as he has so much to do! He’s gonna do some batch cooking for DS’s meals at the weekend tho, so that I can not have other nausea of cooking lol!! My parents would usually help me but they are shielding ☹️ We’re both quite high risk jobs so having to be very careful who we see. It’s hard enough without all the covid crap hey!!! Just focusing on that it won’t last forever 🤞🏻🤞🏻 If it’s anything like my first pregnancy it will start to ease off in about 3-4 weeks 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Awww I'm sorry. That's great he can do some batch cooking. Hold on in there then and hopefully things will be better soon. Nothing lasts forever thank god, even pregnancies!!! I really hope you start to feel better soon and second trimester brings you happier days. Zx

Oh god this thread is reassuring (I am not alone) and terrifying (what's to come!)

I'm only 11 weeks with a 3 year old, sick as a dog and already in maternity jeans I'm so fat 😭

Technically working from home but had to take so much leave because of feeling sick and tired, and DD being off nursery due to covid. Haven't even been able to tell anyone yet.

I am going to be huge, unfit, knackered and sedentary throughout. Just hope second birth is easier...

Elly - I can't cope with poos and bum wiping (hers, not mine ) , emptying the potty makes me retch every time bleurgh

@PotatoesPastaAndBread glad it isn’t just me!! We use reusable nappies and I just can’t handle them atm!!!

Second pregnancies are absolutely knackering! 27 wks with a 3.5yo at home and trying to work too. Im sure the pandemic doesn't help what with the emotional exhaustion. Im absolutely massive and needing to go to bed around 8 30 every eve just to rest. The final trimester can't go soon enough!

Just wanted to say that I found being pregnant with a toddler to run round with much harder than being pregnant the first time. Dont be hard on yourself xx

I found my first pregnancy really physically easy and was walking miles the day before I went into labour. I'm 36 weeks, just went for a very slow stroll with my 2.5 year old of about half a mile and feel like I might collapse with exhaustion! So much harder this time!

So glad that I found this!! I am currently 40+6 and ready to explode!! I'm running after my 2 year old and I am honestly close to breaking down. I'm not sleeping, I hurt everywhere and I can barely move I am so big...throw in a toddler who thinks it is fun to try to jump over my bump every time I try to lie down...I feel like I am slowly breaking down.

My last pregnancy was a breeze...if I had know how hard this was, and that lockdown would get worse rather than better, I think my son would be an only child....

Just adding to this! Also online my second pregnancy, currently 29 weeks and having the worst time of it. Totally different pregnancy to my last and both boys, knackered all the time, mentally drained and just struggle each day. My body is battered this time round whereas last time I didn't do anything different to when I am not pregnant. I end up in bed at 8pm half the time after putting my firstborn to bed.

It's nice to know I am not alone in this!

@imnotateacherbut how are you doing now? Has baby arrived?
I'm really really hoping life is easier when the baby is here and can share with my husband.
Still feeling really anxious about covid and home birth (might not be able to have it if ambulance times are too high) and how I'm going to cope with a newborn and toddler with no support, in lockdown.
I really wanted this baby after my miscarriage but I'm so scared of so much.
I had some anxiety with my first but not this level. Still being sick from hyperemesis (or stress?) and feeling exhausted all the time no matter how much I sleep. So frustrating. Just wish things were better. Wish the world was in a better place like we thought it would be when planning this baby. I did not think we would still be in lockdown when he was due. Reassurance needed please.