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Ideal month for due date

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JStarlight · 12/07/2020 21:38

Hi everyone, I know it takes everyone a different amount of time to get pregnant but what would your ideal month for you to give birth?
I know it makes a difference when they go to school . Example I think if they are born between Sept-dec they are the older lot so they will go to school when they are early 4 years old where as if they were born in June they would only be 3.5?

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Chewbecca · 12/07/2020 21:43

September advantage is school as you say (care not to give birth early!), plus never being pregnant at Christmas/NY but September disadvantages Include being heavily pregnant in the heat and needing to pay up to an additional year of childcare.

There is no perfect month IMO.

sel2223 · 12/07/2020 21:46

Well, I am due my first next month and I'm struggling a lot with the heat so, I guess, I would not be heavily pregnant in the summer if I really had a choice in it lol.

Also, I'm a NY baby and I hate it so I wouldn't pick that either.

In an ideal world, I think March/April would be a good time to give birth....most of your pregnancy would be in the cooler months so much more comfortable then you have the summer off on maternity and hopefully nice weather to walk with baby.

wannabebump · 12/07/2020 21:47

Personally, I'd have wanted a summer baby, but it's took a year and a half and an ectopic pregnancy for us to be expecting and due in November - so November is pretty perfect for us! There no ideal to be honest.x

MrsL2016 · 12/07/2020 21:52

I had my DS the end of March and it was a pretty great time of year really. Pregnant in the winter months and mat leave in Spring/Summer. He will be middle of the year in school too. Also for the childcare funding if he was born one week later then we would have had to pay full whack for another 4 months.

2020AUG · 12/07/2020 21:56

I'm due in August, I spent most of xmas feeling pretty unwell which wasnt great but I did enjoy that I could hibernate in Jan without anyone realise I was pregnant as not much was going on! My bday is Aug and I love having a summer bday, but maybe June/July due date would've been nice so not spending quite so long in the heat as a PP has said. I know people say it's a disadvantage for school for summer babies (I never found this though) and prefer September, but I've heard Sept is the busiest months for babies being born and heard some negative stories about hospital being too busy in Sept. I think there are advantages and disadvantages for all months, we wanted this baby so much so were happy with any month!

Sevo7 · 12/07/2020 21:56

I have DC born in May and November. The November pregnancy was definitely harder in terms of being heavily pregnant over the hot summer,it was horrific at times and then when DD was born it was hard to leave the house as it was so cold and miserable. I also realised after she was born that I have almost an entire extra year of childcare to pay for that I hadn’t thought about!

Ds was May and the pregnancy much easier through the cooler months and it was nice and warm when he was born so we got out lots. I was worried about him being younger in his year but it has never affected him as he was always mature for his age even at 4 and very bright. I think given the choice I would aim for a March-May baby.

FelicityPike · 12/07/2020 22:45

I was due late September & had my DD in July...so plans don’t always work.

Vinorosso74 · 12/07/2020 22:54

DD was due mid Feb but arrived couple of weeks early at the end of Jan. It was a good time to be pregnant as not huge over the summer, once I felt like getting out and about more spring and started, it was warm when we started weaning so she could eat in just a nappy which helped with cleaning up.
Downside is birthday is just over a month after Christmas and she could never have an outdoor party as it's too cold or wet!
She is in the older half of the year at school so will never be the last to reach the next age etc

Thegirlhasnoname · 13/07/2020 06:31

My DD is an October baby and being pregnant through a heat wave was not fun in the slightest, but she will be one of the oldest in her school year. Currently pregnant and due mid Feb (but will be going for an elective section so late January birth), already glad not to have a heatwave to deal with whilst heavily pregnant! I imagine both children will complain about the lack of outdoor birthday parties when they grow up though

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 13/07/2020 06:47

I've had one June, one March

June advantages... Six months between birthday and Christmas to spread out presents. Has had some great outdoor parties.
Disadvantages... Young in school year. Born in a heatwave.

March advantages... Was 4.5 starting school- not too old to be bored by preschool, not too young to struggle. Cooler weather in pregnancy. Her 3yr funding kicked in within weeks of her birthday (April baby's don't get it until September!)
March disadvantages... She was born during heavy snow. We lived rurally and the bad weather nearly caused us a lot of problems- the midwives got to us for the birth, but then a few days later she was admitted to hospital so I was driving on dark country lanes a few days post birth with a newborn baby).

mamaof2girls · 13/07/2020 06:58

I have a November child (my first) she's going to be 2 this year so yeah it is pretty anoyying when it comes to birthday/Christmas as it's so close together. Just had a May baby and in the nice weather you are also restricted having to make sure they are not in the sun as they can't have cream on etc and only was born in the middle off a pandemic so yeah no perfect month! But I do get it's harder being pregnant in the summer compared to the winter! X

MaryShelley1818 · 13/07/2020 07:14

My DS was born in December, I thought it would be a nightmare so close to Christmas but so far it's been lovely. We celebrate his Birthday, cards up for a week and then swap over to Christmas the weekend after. We did Disneyland Paris last year for his Birthday and will be at CenterParcs this year.
Currently 10wks pregnant and this baby due in early February so both winter babies for me.

SecretSquirreI · 13/07/2020 07:17

DD was an April baby. I think that was pretty perfect.

No heat to be pregnant in. Didn't have to worry about a tiny baby in the cold either.

She doesn't seem particularly young in her year. Plus it's a nice time of year to have your birthday.

Foreverbaffled · 13/07/2020 07:27

Spring sounds ideal! And then a maternity leave over summer with a newborn. I’m set to have my second winter baby and trudging round a park in the rain with a new baby is not that ideal. Saying that it doesn’t really matter, there is no perfect time. I couldn’t stand being heavily pregnant in the summer so did time this pregnancy to avoid that. I wouldn’t overthink it though, nature doesn’t always work out as you want.

Twizbe · 13/07/2020 07:28

Both mine were due 31st Jan. my second was planned to be another late Jan baby (though she arrived in Feb)

Pros of Jan - hospital seemed super quiet. August and September are peak season for births so maternity wards can get super busy then (Christmas oops and starting TTC in Jan to blame)
Rubbish weather matches when you feel rubbish
Spring weather matches to when you feel ready to go outside
They are older over the heat of the summer
Heavily pregnant in winter

Cons - pregnant over Christmas
Birthday very close to Christmas

NameChange30 · 13/07/2020 07:31

DC1 was born in March which is pretty perfect. Halfway through the school year. The beginning of spring is a lovely time to have a baby, it really helped my mental health to be able to get out for walks, and most of my maternity leave was in spring/summer (I went back to work in November). We got the 30h funding from 1 April (whereas if he'd been born April-August we wouldn't have got the funding until 1 September).

Now pregnant with DC2 who is due in September, pretty much exactly 6 months later, and it is definitely a pain to be heavily pregnant over the summer 🙈 I also think it is a shame for September babies not to start school until they are nearly 5, and I would have preferred DC2 not to be the very oldest in the year (I know being one of the youngest is a disadvantage too). However I think September is better than a Christmas or August birthday. They are the only 2 months that I actively avoided. (Of course DC2 could still be born in August but I'm hoping not, DC1 was born 11 days after due date so I'm hoping an early baby is unlikely!)

BirthdayKake · 13/07/2020 07:37

Hmm. I don't think there is a perfect time, although end of December/beginning of January wouldn't be great.

I've had babies in August, May, November, March and July. You can't guarantee the weather of course but having horrendous morning sickness over the summer (March baby, I'm looking at you) was pretty crap

Pea1984 · 13/07/2020 07:55

When you’ve been trying for nearly 3 years, and lost one along the way, you wont care what month you have a baby. Due in December and don’t see that as a bad month... although I would rather they aren’t born on Christmas Day I suppose. I’m also an August baby myself and I’ve turned out alright 😊

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 13/07/2020 08:06

Having a September baby is convenient for me as I’m a teacher so it maximises my time off on maternity leave. I tried for over a year though so any month would have been perfect.

DD1 is late January and it’s not too close to Christmas.

Missushbb · 13/07/2020 09:02

Older in England!! Not in scotland and don't know about NI.

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