When are you introducing grandparents?

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Just curious for those due in a few months - have you started thinking about when you'll introduce grandparents?

I'm due in October with my first baby and feel really conflicted as my parents live in the US. I'm hoping the 2 week quarantine lifts by then, but even so, I feel a little nervous about them visiting fresh off a plane with a newborn. At the same time, I feel heartbroken at the thought of my parents not meeting my newborn baby. What would you do?

Personally with current situation in the US there is no way I would risk the grandparents being near my baby. I know it's so hard but in the long run it's better for your family. Imagine you let them have a cuddle and your baby ended up with Covid? Would be far more heartbreaking imo.

Though saying that the US could have gotten everything under control by October but doesn't seem likely.

I’m due in 5 weeks and both our families live a few hours away. We have spent ages thinking about this and have decided they can visit when baby is 1-2 weeks old if they stay in a hotel when they are here. Normally when they visit they stay with us but we don’t want to risk it and also I will probably be anxious about breastfeeding so want to feel comfortable with my boobs out if needed and not worry about them being around 24/7!

I know some people are having grandparents visit straight away and others seeing baby through a window so it’s just what you feel comfortable with I guess.

@erised24 they're in an area that isn't too badly affected, but even so, they could easily pick it up on the plane and not have any idea! It's so hard!

@Havlerr that sounds sensible. It's hard enough hosting parents, let alone add a newborn into the mix. I did think of the window thing too, but in my case that's no different than a FaceTime call ☹️

Could your parents fly over a few weeks before you are due and isolate so that when baby is here they should be all clear? Then stay like a week or two more before going home? 🤔

I'm due in August and my mum lives in Florida. She's thinking by October she'll be able to visit but I really doubt it. I've forewarned her that if infection rates don't start coming down she'll have to wait. It's heartbreaking but there's nothing else to be done.

My parents live abroad too and we have decided that it will sadly need to be FaceTime only until the situation settles down. I just don't want to take the risk of my mum in particular travelling internationally and getting sick as she has several risk factors and is pretty much shielding where she is.