Empty gestational sac

[emmajayden971]

Hi I really need some advice/support. This week has been one of the hardest I could ever imagine. After trying for over a year to conceive and tracking cycles/ ovulation etc we found out we were expecting. I thought that all the upset and worry was finally behind us and we got what we felt like we waited so long for (I appreciate people
Have waited so much longer but anytime is horrendous for anyone). I am 24 and my partner is 28. Due to COVID we booked a private scan only to be told it was a pregnancy of unknown location and their was not even a sac. They told us to take another test in the morning and if it was stil positive to attend the early pregnancy unit. I had been taking pregnancy tests since we found out and according to my last period was 7 weeks on the day of the scan. At the hospital the next day bloods were taken and the report from the private scan had actually stated their was a sac measuring 16mm but nothing else. She said at the private scan she couldn’t see anything that made her think it was ectopic. I’ve had no pain bleeding etc. My HCG levels came back at 38,000 on Saturday and so they felt a scan would be best on the Monday. On Monday the sac had grown to 19mm but nothing more in it. They also believed to see a potentially collapsed cyst or something near my ovary but the sac was definitely where it needed to be. I am going back again on Monday (a week later) for a re-scan if they still see nothing that means it’s all over as it should be over 25mm by that point. Is their any hope? What will happen? No one took the time to explain I am crushed and I don’t feel like I will ever get through this. My heart is breaking. I am having horrible symptoms I feel sick all day and everything smells awful and I’m struggling to eat lots of different foods. My boobs hurt and none of these things had subsided which makes it worse to think my body is supporting a baby that just isn’t there. What a shattered dream.

So sorry to read this.

I am so sorry and sad to read this.

I know at the moment it feels like the world is ended (I had a MMC in March) but things will slowly get better. You will have your beautiful baby and will give them so much love.

For now look after yourself and again I am so sorry you are having to go through this pain

It was an incredibly hard experience and I’m glad I’m over the worst (physical) part of it. Been a long day with a lot of downs. Got to focus on moving forward but my head is terrified that this will happen again and how I would cope 💔

I'm so sorry @emmajayden971 - I've been through this so can imagine how you're feeling now.

Try to think of it as your womb being so comfy and hospitable that it wanted to nurture and grow a non-viable egg (if that helps you). I was told by my doctor that this is most often a sign of fertility, rather than dud eggs, and is a positive sign for the future and future pregnancies.

Sending you positive vibes and hope you're doing ok.

It's very,very unlikely to happen again (although for me it did - my next pregnancy was non-viable twins. The theory being that the egg wasn't good enough to survive the split or something l).

But even if it did happen again, it doesn't mean it'll happen the time after. I'm currently 13wks and everything (touch wood) is going well.

You sound like a pragmatic, strong and sensitive person. I have every faith that you'll be ok 💕

My emotions are very high at the moment as are my partners. We’re incredibly strong team who have waited a long time for this and the rational part of me knows I’ll be ok it’s just going to sting for a while. I admire the women who go through this, you are so strong 💓

Thank you, reading this made me feel that tiny bit more positive. I so desperately want to come out the other end of this, it’s just so hard at the moment. One minute I’m ok the next I’m in floods of tears 💓

💓💓💓💓 it's so bloody hard and unfair, isn't it?

But the vast, vast majority of women this happens to go on to have healthy babies. So there's so much hope.

It doesn't help much when you wanted this baby though, does it?

Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to be upset, angry and mourn etc. And don't be scared to post back on this thread if you need any support.

It might help you to read a book called something like It All Starts With The Egg. It gave me a sense of control- like I was feeding my body the right nutrients to give my eggs the best possible start. Although, don't take it too literally as it says some stuff like never touch a receipt again 😂