Is this normal after multiple miscarriages in pregnancy

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Hi ladies

I'm 3 weeks away now from meeting my rainbow baby. I cannot shift this low scared feeling of her being stillborn. It's so sad :(

Iv had two miscarriages last year and this will be my first baby.

I'm absolutely terrified this baby is my absolute world. 😢

I think it is perfectly normal. After 4 losses myself, I immersed myself in the babyloss world and now know far too much so I have the same fears. Can you speak to your midwife about it? they might be able to help you. I'm so sorry about your losses x

I'm in the same situation. 37+4 and I still don't believe this will end well after ivf treatment and 2 miscarriages last year. I keep thinking back to when I had nipt tests and scans wondering if they have missed something. I just keep thinking with all our bad luck we'll be the unfortunate people to lose our baby. I am trying to push those thoughts away but it's hard.

I didn't believe my baby would arrive safely until she was lying next to me after my c section.

I had an undercurrent of mild depression throughout my pregnancy which I'm pretty sure was due to not trusting everything would be ok.

The moment DD was born I snapped out of it and just felt a huge sense of relief.

Just try to keep busy between now and baby arriving and try to rationalise that statistics are in your favour for everything being ok.

I think it is completely normal. I felt exactly the same when pregnant with DD after 4 miscarriages. After experiencing pregnancy loss I think it is just so hard to believe that you will have a baby until they are here, no matter what the statistics or anyone says to you. Not too much longer to go now though.

DS was born 5 weeks ago and I still found the first trimester stressful, but on the whole I was much less anxious during the pregnancy. Probably in part because DD kept me distracted from ruminating on things too much.

Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy and all being well you'll be enjoying cuddles with your little one soon.

I'm so sorry for your losses lady's.

I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one as it's extremely hard to talk to other people about it that have never experienced loss as they sort of think I'm over reacting and it makes me wonder if I have a problem.

Iv had a good cry today. Sometimes just makes me feel better.

Pregnancy after loss has been one of the hardest challenges of my life I think. The first trimester I was so anxious. I wasn't as bad through the second but I think this covid situation hasn't helped me with my anxiousness in the third.

I will mention it to my midwife when I see her next week. Iv also got problems down below with a condition that's flared up so I'm not sure if a natural delivery will be off now which is on my mind a lot to :(

Xx