Visiting once the baby is here and Covid 19

[annemcmc1]

Hello, I'm a single FTM and 30 weeks pregnant! Very excited for my little boy in September but the father and I split when I was 4 weeks pregnant. We have had little contact since but it wasn't a hateful end. He wants to visit once the baby is born but I'm concerned as he needs to get two trains and a taxi to get here (he doesn't drive) and I'm worried about him holding the baby when I have been shielded since March and continuing to shield now till after the birth.
I don't want to deny him coming but I'm so torn as I want my baby to be healthy. Do I say he can come but needs to wash and change clothes when he gets here? Or do I say wait till he's 6 weeks old like everyone else?

A lot can change in 10 weeks. I would make an assessment in 8 weeks time.

@Cornishmumofone

A lot can change in 10 weeks. I would make an assessment in 8 weeks time.

Yes, I was thinking about playing it by ear but been getting a bit of pressure from the dad about times and schedules. He's not the most emotionally supportive or understanding so just trying to see what the best is for all of us.

Why have you been shielding, do you have a health condition? If just pregnancy then no need to shield, just follow the current government guidelines on social distancing. It’s likely the guidance will have changed again by September, but even if not as he is the father it would be nice to let him visit the baby before others.

Why 6 weeks? What changes when baby gets to 6 weeks?
Wait and see what things are like nearer the time. I’m also 30 weeks and was shielding initiating, but not anymore (although I am working from home). I still go to the shops, see immediate family etc.

@Racoonworld

Why have you been shielding, do you have a health condition? If just pregnancy then no need to shield, just follow the current government guidelines on social distancing. It’s likely the guidance will have changed again by September, but even if not as he is the father it would be nice to let him visit the baby before others.

Hiya, yes I have an auto immune issue and I live with my dad who is on the high risk list. I agree, I would like the dad to come visit once the baby is here but just worried about infection. I have been having shops delivered and haven't seen anyone outside of my household since March so maybe just my anxiety of it all playing a part!

@TwinkleStars15

Why 6 weeks? What changes when baby gets to 6 weeks? Wait and see what things are like nearer the time. I’m also 30 weeks and was shielding initiating, but not anymore (although I am working from home). I still go to the shops, see immediate family etc.

I just thought 6 weeks as the baby would have had a bit more of a chance to build an immune system and had some vaccinations

@annemcmc1 First vaccinations aren't till 8 weeks and before that they are protected by maternal antibodies from you!

I don't think its fair to not let the dad see the baby if that's what he wants, it is his baby too....plus like others say a lot can change in 6 weeks let alone 10 weeks.

Maybe if he can shield as much as possible at home for a few weeks (only go out for shopping and work) then wear masks when travelling (as he should anyway) then that would lower risk

@annemcmc1 baby will have had no immunisations at 6 weeks, first ones are at 8 weeks, then 12 and 16 weeks. So baby isn’t fully immunised until 16 weeks. And then they are only immunised against the vaccinations they have had. Won’t make any difference with COVID-19.