Feeling like an emotional mess

[CharisA]

Hey im 18 weeks pregnant and I've been pretty full on with my emotions for most the pregnancy but I just wanted to hear from other women who feel like they are going crazy. Feel sad and lonely then angry and fed up just exhausting.

I’m with you. I’m 34 weeks and felt this way for the last 6 weeks or so. I’m usually a very strong independent person, and quite honestly felt that I could ‘beat’ or ride out the hormones and wouldn’t let them bother me. That’s a big NOPE! I just feel wobbly emotionally is the best way to put it, and then guilty/beating myself up as I should be ‘stronger’ and push thru it.

So not much advice, but yes I sympathise.

@CharisA I am almost 22 weeks with first baby and feel exactly the same. My emotions have been all over the place for most of my pregnancy too, I had an early miscarriage last November and thought once I passed 12 weeks this time I would be better but I constantly find something else to worry about.
I def feel that the whole Covid/Lockdown situation is playing a huge part in my emotions on top of pregnancy hormones. This week has been particularly bad for me, we live in Scotland and school holidays have officially started, DH and I were both on holiday and my step kids were here but we couldn't do anything for most of the week as it rained so much and all indoor places are closed. I had a major meltdown on Thursday which started as anger and very quickly turned to hours of tears, I think my 10 year old step son thought I had gone completely mad. Despite still not being meant to go into other houses at the moment I had to get out and went to visit a friend on Friday night, I burst into tears as soon as she opened the door but it felt so good to talk to someone about how I was feeling and to let all of that emotion out. She reassured me that during both of her pregnancies her hormones were all over the place too and that it is completely normal to feel you are going crazy. She also pointed out that for her that was in normal times where she could go out as and when she wanted and see friends etc and that she can't imagine what it must be like to add lockdown to the pregnancy feelings. I have felt better since then but I'm sure it won't be long before something else starts my crazy emotions again

I hope knowing other people are feeling the same helps you feel a little better

@vinoelle it's just nice to know it's not just me, just feel like being shut in with my partner isn't helping I don't feel like he understands and of course, he doesn't but it's just becoming a complete mental mess... I feel on edge and worn out every argument makes me angrier and angrier than I just cry....and feel even more worn out. It's not fun being pregnant at the moment.

@NS34 yes I think the lockdown is adding a huge amount more on top of us all, I have no car at the moment because we needed a bigger family car. So I feel very stuck my mum is coming over today but I don't feel I can't get anything off my chest because I just feel like I'm constantly saying how crap I feel and I would be sick of hearing it if I was my mum. I don't know it's constantly draining and my partner keeps pushing me.... I try and explain how down I feel how lonely it is and how emotional I am but then I wake up and we have another argument and I just u can't handle the angry it makes my tummy hurt then I cry for ages and after all that I just feel like I've been hit by a bus. It's not easy feeling so stuck and not able to get the headspace I need. And again even with a break and feeling better I know it will all go bananas again. Thank you for messaging it is good to know its not just me x

I've been on an emotional rollercoaster since day 1 of this pregnancy! Last night I burst into tears because the sofa cushion was too far away for me to reach. So far today, I've cried because the word "hedgehog" is so cute...

@GoshHashana I was like that very early on just everything made me cry being happy or being frustrated it would mean tears 😂 it's all very strange it's like my body and mind aren't mine anymore it's like ive been put in some other lady's body 😂

@CharisA it sounds like your partner isn’t being very supportive? I’m not saying pregnancy hormones are a license to be unreasonable/ a bitch - he shouldn’t be picking fights with you and sounds like he could be more understanding. In what way is he pushing you?

I cried soooooooo much in my first trimester! Anything set me off, my poor DH was terrified to speak to me just in case he made me cry 😂😂😂 I was an absolute mess! 😂
Thankfully your hormones [should] even out now you're in your second trimester. Just try and ride it out. Hopefully your emotions will settle soon 💐

@vinoelle ive tried to explain how im feeling very low stressed and not very good but I don't feel like he's really paying attention. I know it's hard for everyone right now but I feel like nothing I do is right....i start cleaning he tells me to stop because im going to wear myself out but if I stop he moans that one not done enough around the house it's a lot of things like that nothing I do seems to be enough or im doing it at the wrong time. Today he started arguing over shoes on the carpet and I just I couldn't get a word in and it made me angry he wouldn't let me speak and he just walked out the room.... We have always had a pretty good relationship the past two years we have been pretty happy but now im struggling in the pregnancy it's like he's different and I don't know how to get through it

@lockdownpregnancy yer hopefully they will calm down soon xx thank you

I stood in our local co-op earlier and cried because they didn't have any custard cream biscuits. Then proceed to cry harder when my OH told me he'd get me as many packets as I wanted tomorrow on his way home from work. I'm 28 weeks, it's most definitely normal.

@ScatterBrain912 😂 oh that really helps! Just feel mental all the time just drives me nuts. Your OH sounds like a good man! 😁 hope you get your custard creams !