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baby stopped growing

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Doughnuts12345 · 03/07/2020 17:35

I had my 20 week scan and was told that my baby had stopped growing at 16 weeks, there was still a heartbeat though. I was told to go back a week later to see if there was any change. I've just been back and baby hasn't grown but there is still a heartbeat. I have been told that the pregnancy isn't viable and that I have 3 choices: wait for things to happen naturally take a pill to help start the process or go for a D and C. Has anyone ever been through this? I have heard of missed miscarriages but not for the heartbeat to still be detected but no growth. I'm confused with what to do

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ParisianLady · 03/07/2020 17:52

I'm so sorry OP, this must be so hard to deal with. I've not experienced this myself, but didn't want your post to go unanswered whilst you waited for someone more knowledgeable to answer.

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Ledkr · 03/07/2020 18:04

Oh bless you how awful.
I had similar at 12 weeks but no heart beat and had a d and c.
In your shoes tho I'd struggle as there's still a heart beat so maybe I'd wait.
I hope you have lots of support. It's a truly awful thing to go through and I'm so sorry xx

TwinkleStars15 · 03/07/2020 18:11

So sorry you’re going through this. Did they say that the heartbeat was slow? Or what they would expect at this stage i.e 130-160 ish beats? I’ve had 3 miscarriages and been around on this threat a long time, but I haven’t heard of your situation before - although I’m sure someone will come along who had and might be able to help. I’d want to know a lot more before making a decision; is the placenta failing? What do they think has caused the lack of growth? Possible chromosome issues? Have you got another appointment booked?

bestbrowsintown · 03/07/2020 18:20

I haven't heard of this before, just wanted to say sorry you're going through this and bump your thread in the hopes someone more knowledgeable will see it.

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Doughnuts12345 · 03/07/2020 18:22

@TwinkleStars15

So sorry you’re going through this. Did they say that the heartbeat was slow? Or what they would expect at this stage i.e 130-160 ish beats? I’ve had 3 miscarriages and been around on this threat a long time, but I haven’t heard of your situation before - although I’m sure someone will come along who had and might be able to help. I’d want to know a lot more before making a decision; is the placenta failing? What do they think has caused the lack of growth? Possible chromosome issues? Have you got another appointment booked?
@TwinkleStars15 Thank you for the reply. I have had 2 miscarriages before but they were relatively early and I also have 3 (grown up) children. The heartbeat is slower than expected and they were surprised that I hadn't miscarried already. Maybe it's chance that I had the scan and there was still a heartbeat but by tonight/tomorrow it will all start naturally.
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sel2223 · 03/07/2020 18:27

I'm so sorry you're going through this OP. I haven't heard of this before but it just sounds so sad. I hope you've got lots of support around you

Wibblewobble03 · 03/07/2020 19:09

Hi Doughnut

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I had similar a few years ago. I didn't realise I was pregnant as regular periods but with pain and spotting. I was sent for a smear and an internal scan to then find out I was pregnant. The scan suggested i was 9 weeks pregnant but no last period to go from and my (now ex) boyfriend had been overseas for four months at this point. It led to the break up of our relationship and a lot of confusion that to this day I still cant get my head around.

The scan suggested I was 9 weeks pregnant, four weeks later I had another scan and I still measured 9 weeks with a heartbeat. Similar to yourself, i was given the three options. It was a very difficult decision to make and a lot of emotional distress due to the confusion over dates etc. My original symptoms of pain and spotting continued with heavy leakage (I hadn't told anyone outside of my bubble that I was pregnant). I decided to take the pill to end the pregnancy on my own terms. I had come to terms that it wasnt a viable pregnancy and felt I was just waiting for the inevitable. There was a 'what if'moment as I knew there was still a heartbeat, and I had to dig deep to listen to the rational voice that it wasn't meant to be. Whichever decision you choose has to be right for you, and I wish you all the best at this difficult time. My only regret is that I didnt seek counselling at the time.

Mmmmycorona · 03/07/2020 19:39

No advice, but just want to say I’m very sorry you’re going through this.

Roselilly36 · 03/07/2020 19:50

Flowers for you OP, what an awful dilemma you are facing, so sorry. Do what you feel is right. Wishing you all the very best.

sangrias · 03/07/2020 20:02

I have never heard of this.
No idea what I would do in your situation. Wishing you all the best.

danni0509 · 03/07/2020 20:03

@Doughnuts12345 something similar happened to me but I wasn't as far a long as you, I was around 10 weeks, I had a few early scans as the pregnancy was ivf, but things weren't adding up with measurements so they had me keep coming back but no change in measurements but there was still a heart beat so when I went back 2 weeks later and during that time the heart beat had stopped I'm sorry to say ☹️

I waited naturally and nothing happened.

So about 10 days later I had to take some tablets on the pregnancy assessment unit go home & that's when the miscarriage happened.

They said it was a missed miscarriage.

I'm so so sorry for you x

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