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[Craycraykaykay]

Just wanting a bit of advice - recently found out that I am pregnant (we are very happy) but not too sure on when to tell our parents? What have other people done? Waited until 12 week scan or as soon as you get the positive?

I'm waiting for 12 week scan

I told my parents immediately as I wanted their support if anything happened. We told MIL at about 10 weeks (and after 2 NHS scans) No one else til 12 weeks and even then only close family and friends.

We told ours straight away, along with my twin sister. Our logic was I would need the support of my parents and sister if I was to miscarry so would need to tell them then anyway. Then it wasn't fair to tell my parents and not my partners parents. I am also planning a holiday with my sister and mum at the end of August and it may effect some things so it felt fair to tell them now

I told my mum at about 4 weeks this time as I was worried about coronavirus. I have waited in the past (this is my 4th pregnancy but hopefully 2nd baby) dhs parents will be told after the 20 week scan which is next week. Most of our friends don’t know yet either.

I think it’s totally up to you. I told my mum and partners parents pretty much straight away as we wanted people to talk to about it. I was about 5 weeks at the time... i think it’s personal choice, if anything bad we’re to happen they are the people we would speak to so thought why would I not tell them I’m pregnant? Hope that makes sense! Xx

My first I told my mum at 7 weeks cause I was so excited and just wanted to talk to someone about it.. told everyone else about 10 weeks I think. I'm currently pregnant with twins, I told my friend at about 8 weeks to have someone to talk to (didn't know it was twins at that point) and then told family Monday just gone and I was just over 13 weeks I had already had two NHS scans at this point and they were happy everyone was looking healthy and growing well. If there was any doubt in the viability of the pregnancy I wouldn't have shared it to then have to tell them bad news to have everyone ask am I ok all the time. (For me this would have been much worse) I guess it's personal preference and when you feel comfortable also massive congratulations 🥳

Thanks for your messages everyone - we are so excited I’m not sure I will be able to keep it to myself but then would feel a bit bad if I only told my mum and didn’t tell my dad and brothers and sister - first baby and already lost the plot 😂

Also first grandchild 😁

I always say tell whoever you’d want to comfort you if something should go wrong. It’s horrible having to tell people your no longer pregnant or something is wrong so personally I wait until 12 weeks for family and 20 weeks for wider friends.

I told my parents as soon as I found out and around 9/10 weeks for close friends. I was too sick to really hide it and didn’t have a smooth start to my pregnancy so really valued their support. As I didn’t have an easy start though we didn’t ‘social media announce’ to let other friends know until I was around 15 weeks. Everyone is different and if you want to tell people then do! If you want to keep it secret until it’s glaringly obvious then do that too. I know some people love keeping it a secret between them and their partner but I loved telling people about my tiny baby growing 😊

I really like the idea of keeping it a secret between my husband and I - but I’ve only just found out and already feel like I may burst if I don’t tell someone (obviously no good at keeping secrets)😂 I don’t think that I will be putting anything on social media though

We told our parents and my brother as soon as we found out, we wanted to tell them just incase anything was to happen x

I waited until 16 weeks because I knew how disappointed my mum would be if it didn’t work out (also first grandchild). We’re very close but lockdown made it easier. I think it’s unusual to wait that long though.

We told our parents at 6 weeks.
And then told our brothers at 11 weeks.

I told my parents with in a week of taking the test. A week or two later for parents in law - DHs choice. My brothers and DHs siblings at about 10 weeks then others after 12 weeks.

I knew I'd want my mums support if anything happened.

We were not in any way planning a baby yet and were completely taken off guard by the pregnancy, so we told a few select people early for support. I told my best friend the day I got the positive test (she was the one to talk me out of my panic and get me clear-headed enough to make an appointment at a clinic to confirm) and after the clinic visit (about 6 weeks) we told my mother and OH's father. We knew they would both be really excited and supportive, which they were and still are, so it was a huge load off to tell them early on. Beyond that we waited until 12 weeks, as I didn't want to have to explain to too many people if something happened

We kept it our little secret until after the 12 week scan, and only then did we tell both sets of parents, brothers/sisters and a select few close friends. I'm now over 21 weeks and there's quite a few people that still don't know! We also haven't done anything on social media - we had a rough time last year with an MC so have definitely been quite private about it. X

For my first we told close family around 5 weeks.

Last year I had two miscarriages, the first pregnancy we told close family and best friends around 5 weeks but then lost it at 6 weeks, I was glad to have the support but when we got pregnant again we didn’t tell anyone, lost that one at 7 weeks and told close friends and family after we had lost it.

I’m 22 weeks pregnant now and we waited until around 11 weeks to tell family, had two scans by then and 12-13 weeks for close friends

Didn't tell a soul till 12 week scan, then told everyone that needed to know in the space of a week. Didn't make a public announcement on like FB or anything though and don't plan to.

I’m 16 weeks and haven’t told anyone apart from my mum. The longer I leave it the more I’m enjoying it being a private experience. I probably won’t mention it to anyone until I’m obviously showing (around 22 weeks maybe)

Mother and sister soon after we found out as they are the people I would turn to support throughout. My manager at about 9/10 weeks so I could get time off for apps and scans without telling fibs plus we are quite close. Close family and friends after 12 week scan then everyone else once I started to show at about 20 weeks.