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Don't want a C Section :(

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blue122 · 02/07/2020 17:37

I am 36+1 and baby is breech. I have been told today the possibility of him turning now is very slim as I am a first time mum and he is measuring very big. My midwife has basically told me that because I don't think I want to try an ECV I am going to need a c section.

I know nothing can be done and the most important thing is that baby gets here safely and healthily but I guess I'm just really upset about it.

Any positive c section stories to cheer me up?☹️

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Luna321 · 02/07/2020 20:40

I had a c section as my first was breech but we didn't find out until I was in labour so that was a bit of a shock! At least you know in advance 🙂 They gave me the choice to choose an emcs or continue with a natural breech birth, I chose c sec and I'm glad I did. Recovery was great, wound healed nicely and I was up on my feet after 6 hours. Driving after 4 weeks. I found it absolutely fine looking after my son.
I'm now pregnant with my second and was hoping for a vbac this time but guess what this one is breech too! I'm still hoping they will turn but I'm trying not to get my hopes up. I completely relate to that feeling of being disappointed.
Trying to focus on the positives of a c sec such as knowing the date (roughly) they will be born and being able to plan around it, they often book you early 39 weeks so you know you won't go overdue and have that horrible waiting game. Not having to go through the pains of labour. (Although I'm not saying c sec is completely pain free but it's a different kind)

TokyoSushi · 02/07/2020 20:42

Gosh have one! I was almost torn in two and felt like I'd been hit by a series of buses after my natural birth, my ELCS was like a mini break! I wouldn't hesitate to recommend one!

TokyoSushi · 02/07/2020 20:42

Gosh, have one! I was almost torn in two and felt like I'd been hit by a series of buses after my natural birth, my ELCS was like a mini break! I wouldn't hesitate to recommend one!

Boobahs · 02/07/2020 20:45

I had an EMCS with my first after a 5 day failed induction, recovery was hard after they'd been messing with me so much, pessaries, drip, breaking waters, etc, I was in hospital for 8 days.

Second one was an elective, much calmer, better for baby, had him Thursday afternoon, home Friday night, walking around the park Saturday morning.

If there's a chance that you'll end up with an emergency C-section, I'd opt for the elective any day of the week. Honestly, when baby is here, you won't care how they got here as long as they (and you) are safe and healthy. Good luck! X

Oct18mummy · 02/07/2020 20:48

I had cesearen as baby was transverse - he kept moving on day of cesearen he had moved again, wasn’t head down but not transverse anymore. Get them to scan you before the cesearen to see if baby has moved and look at spinning babies website. I went with cesearen the procedure itself was fine, I was out walking with pram a week later but it took me 6 weeks to feel “normal” again.

ALC1985 · 02/07/2020 21:00

I had an emcs despite being very anti c section prior to the birth, it was a dream compared to my horrendous induction/labour, it was such a positive experience I've elected for a Cs with dc2. I recovered very quickly and was in little pain after, up walking and showering within about 8 hours and out pushing the pram about on day 4, wanted to push the pram on day 3 but dh wouldn't let me!
Don't be scared of a c section.

LittlemissAWOL · 02/07/2020 21:03

I recovered easier from an elective section than I did from my first vaginal (ventouse with episiotomy) birth.

I'd say by day 4 I was back to normal. Obviously people heal differently so I can't say you'll be the same but that's my experience. I found it best just to get up and get on with it afterwards and midwives encouraged that as the best thing for a quick recovery.

PoodleMoth · 02/07/2020 21:14

My first birth was natural and very straight forward, second was an emcs and in all honestly I found the recovery from the C section much easier! I could still look after baby fine. First few days were painful getting about but you need to take it slow, and I had to sleep sitting up. After the first week I was doing school runs for my eldest some days and by 2 weeks I felt great!

Discoballs · 02/07/2020 21:25

Loving all these positive c section stories. I think they get an unfairly bad press.

TwinkleStars15 · 02/07/2020 21:31

@Davodia what a bullshit post.

OP, I can assure you that my bits are perfectly fine after a normal vaginal delivery, no pissing or shitting myself, ever. Funny considering it’s the natural way to birth a baby

itsnotfair10 · 02/07/2020 21:35

I had an elective section due to placenta prévia with my ds. I was terrified but it was a very calm procedure and I was in and out of theatre. I had to stay in for a couple of days as was having issues with feeding but recovery from the procedure was relatively good. We lived in a second floor flat at the time and apart from taking what felt like years to get up the stairs I was able to be pretty mobile. The scar is neat and I've had no lasting effects.

It doesn't matter how a baby is birthed into the world, just that you love him/her when they get here. I'm sure all will be absolutely fine

ThatLibraryMiss · 02/07/2020 22:00

Funny considering it’s the natural way to birth a baby

The natural way isn't always good. What I wanted was a lovely natural birth, just breathing through the contractions, soft music and candlelight. What dear kindly old Mother Nature had in mind for me and my baby was death.

Natural childbirth, assisted or not, does terrible damage to some women's bodies. You were lucky to escape that. Other women are not.

Wolfgirrl · 02/07/2020 22:09

To be fair OP vaginal birth is hardly EVER as you imagine it to be - soft glowy lighting, birthing pool, happy emotional mum and dad etc...

About half of first time births are induced which means being hooked up to a drip, no moving from the bed. A quarter or so end in forceps or vacuum (usually performed in theatre). Another quarter end in EMCS after hours of exhausting labour. And of the ones that are 'straightforward' you can still have episiotomies, a really long latent stage, blah di blah. Anecdotally I would say only about 10% go exactly as planned.

I had a forceps delivery, it was fine but after a 12 hour labour on the induction drip I was exhausted and don't remember too much of 'the moment' which was a bit of a shame. The forceps were performed in theatre so bright overhead lights, didn't get to choose music etc.

You've got the chance for a brilliant birth, where you will be very conscious and rested and able to 'enjoy' it. Play the music you want, chat to the staff, make a really good memory. It will be amazing ❤

SallyWD · 02/07/2020 22:11

I wish I'd had csections. I have prolapses of my uterus, bladder and bowel from vaginal births.

loutypips · 02/07/2020 22:18

I had a section as baby was measuring big and breech. Also had a failed ECV. I am the world biggest wuss. I faint when having blood taken. But, you know what? I really enjoyed the experience. It was nice and calm, music playing, answering questions on pop master and a happy, safe birth.
If I was having another baby I'd go for another section, recovery was fine, much less than having my gallbladder out! I suffered with that!
Like you I was really worried about it, but for me it turned out the best. I just wish it could've been filmed!

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blue122 · 02/07/2020 22:39

These responses are amazing. Don't feel anywhere near as scared as I did earlier today. Amazing to hear how lovely a c section can be! Thank you all so much 💐

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Zelda93 · 02/07/2020 22:50

I had to have a section wasn't emergency but natural just wasn't happening. Up until three weeks before I thought I was having a section anyway as dd was in the position. I can honestly say it was amazing the nurses were so calming , it wasn't scary just exciting, the birth was great . The first couple of days were painful but I was out after two days and fine waking about.. I was driving after two weeks and pretty much back to living my life .. if I was to get pregnant again I would choose the section as I now know what will happen and nothing about it was scary!!

rosegoldwatcher · 02/07/2020 23:09

@blue122

These responses are amazing. Don't feel anywhere near as scared as I did earlier today. Amazing to hear how lovely a c section can be! Thank you all so much 💐

Ah... the combined power of the Mumsnet strikes again!

fedupandlookingforchange · 03/07/2020 08:48

I asked my insurance company about driving after 2 weeks, they said its fine. I didn't lift the baby and the car seat together, just took the baby out of the car seat.
Glad you are feeling positive about a c section.

BeMorePacific · 03/07/2020 08:56

Would you consider a breech vaginal birth?
Rarer in the UK since a 2000 paper categorised them as dangerous, but this was disproved. Vaginal breech birth prior to this was not considered high risk.
If your baby is in a favourable breech birthing position it is very doable. xx

BeMorePacific · 03/07/2020 08:58

I did have a ECS, and it was an amazing experience. Unfortunately my recovery was around 8 weeks, and I was pretty ill. But I don’t look back on it as a negative experience. By husband did all baths etc, but I didn’t feel like I was missing out. xxx

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blue122 · 03/07/2020 09:25

@BeMorePacific sorry to hear your recovery was hard but I'm glad you don't look at it negatively and didn't feel like you where missing out 😊

A couple of people on here have asked whether I have considered vaginal breech birth but I haven't replied yet. It is something that scares me anyway, but my midwife said it's not something to consider at the moment anyway as the way he is laying means there is no part of him in my pelvis. So she said he would be impossible to give birth to vaginally like this and this has been his same positioning for weeks. He's a stubborn little one 😊

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BeMorePacific · 03/07/2020 09:34

@blue122 so many people that have elective C sections say their recovery is a lot quicker.
You can also have playlists, and make it a nice experience. It’s the most amazing experience, you can ask for immediate skin to skin too if that’s something you want xx

MindyStClaire · 03/07/2020 10:22

I had an emcs following a failed induction two years ago. It was brilliant, not at all urgent feeling. The op itself was fine, DH was there and got to cut the cord. Breastfed in recovery and went on to exclusively breastfeed for nine months with no issues.

My recovery was a little slower than some on here, it did take the six weeks or so to feel fully normal. But I'm talking about things like pushing the pram up the steep hill, lifting the baby in the car seat and twisting to get in the car etc. From 24 hours on I was able to do everything with the baby that I needed to, and DH went back to work after a fortnight as planned, I went for plenty of walks just chose flatter routes etc.

Having an ELCS on Monday with DC2. Haven't wavered from that decision since recovery with DC1.

boymum4 · 07/07/2020 21:19

(I am the op by the way I've had a name change)

Hi everyone, so glad I made this thread when I did as I have been booked in for a c section on Friday when I will be 37+2 due to a scan today showing reduced growth and oblique breech so risk of cord prolapse. Thank you all for your encouraging stories 💐

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