16 Weeks and not feeling pregnant! Please help!

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I just think I need some reassurance.

I'm 16 weeks today, I have a small bump its lovely and cute and I've seen baby in the 12 week scan as usual but I don't feel pregnant.
I'm not excited, I don't connect with the fact that I'm growing a tiny human and it's really worrying me.

I had no pregnancy symptoms so if I hadn't been tracking getting pregnant I probably wouldn't have known until last week!
I pee way more than I used to and I've gone up a clothes size but that's about it.

I'm just extremely worried because I think I'm supposed to feel 'bonded' with baby and get all excited but I'm just not.
I guess I'm just panicking that I won't be a good mum because of it too.

Is anyone else feeling this way? Or has anyone else felt this way?

I 100% felt like this and until I went to the 20 week scan I felt like I wasn't even pregnant.

Just wait till u feel movement then u start to bond alittle. Just relax and don't worry about what you should feel because every single one of us has different feelings At different points

I'm 8 weeks with no symptoms and feel exactly the same. Was hoping the 12 week scan would sort me out

I could have written this! I'm 27 weeks now and if I didn't have a bump and he wasn't kicking the crap out of my on a daily basis I wouldn't know I was pregnant!
I didn't show until I was around 17 weeks (ish) and even then it didn't phase me.
My turning point was when I had my 20 week scan and found out we were having a little boy and he was healthy that I finally let go and just cried with relief and happiness!
Some ladies don't feel like mommies until they give birth! We are all different!
I'm also having an easy pregnancy to date but I'm not a fan and f being pregnant! I'm just looking forward to my baby boy arriving!
You'll get there don't worry! 🥰🥰

16 weeks is still pretty early. Everyone reacts differently to pregnancy so try not to worry about making yourself feel a certain way. That feeling of connection will come whether it's at 20 weeks, 30 or even after the birth, and you will be a wonderful mum regardless xx

Im 16+4 and feel the same. I have hardly any symptoms and also due to having an anterior low lying placenta have not felt any flutters etc either. I know everything is growing well and the baby is healthy as I had to have an amnio but I think until I feel kicks/have an actual bump and know what my baby is, I will struggle to get really attached and bond with it.

Are you planning on finding out what you are having at 20 week scan or any earlier? This may help you feel a connection earlier if you can refer to them as 'he' or 'she'.

I agree with other PP's in that we will all get there eventually and mum mode will switch on as soon as we meet them! xx

I had a reasonably symptom free pregnancy and couldn't really get my head around the fact that I was actually pregnant. Whilst I obviously wanted my baby to be ok, and was so relieved when growth scans etc showed she was doing ok, I would say that I didn't bond with my DD until a few weeks after she was born - she arrived by traumatic EMCS which probably didn't help.

Honestly, it's ok to feel like this. I love my daughter like nothing else, but it was actually only recently I felt that rush of love people talk about, and she's months old now. Everyone is different, don't worry, it will come.

I had awful pregnancy sickness until 12ish weeks and it still didn't feel real until sometime after the 20 week scan. I have bonded more since ~24 weeks. Prior to that I would forget until I caught sight of my reflection or shadow and see a bump forming.
There is still loads of time to bond

I feel the same way! I’m only 6 weeks pregnant but I don’t feel pregnant at all, have had no symptoms and only found out on Saturday! This baby was only half planned (long story) so I am feeling quite shocked and confused right now! But I’m hoping the excitement and bonding will come soon, thinking or getting an early scan to spur me on! I’m a massive control freak so things that happen out of my control/ outside of ‘the plan’ really throw me off so just struggling to process atm!

Thank you for your reassurance ladies, it's very much appreciated!

@Shawla92 We're definitely finding out what we're having, I think you're right it will be better when we find out so we can refer to it not as an it!

I’m 14 weeks and tbh don’t feel pregnant at all. No symptoms, and no bump yet. I just look like I’ve got a bit fat. It’s quite a depressing stage I think where I just feel really flabby and horrible in my body but nothing really to show for it! Just trying to keep the faith that once bump emerges I will start to feel better. I do really want the baby, and am quite the attached to it already, just wish it would make a more visible appareance!!

I'm currently 15 weeks pregnant & most of my symptoms have disappeared! I have to keep pinching my nipples to make sure they still hurt 😂 I'm booked for a gender scan in 2 days but I agree with the other ladies, I don't think it'll feel truly real until you feel it/can refer to it by name. Try not to worry.

Don't think you have anything to be worried about.
I found the last 8-10 weeks is when it feels bit real that you are actually pregnant and you looking forward to meeting the baby that is pushing & poking you.
Good luck

I'm 16+4 and don't feel pregnant, I just feel fat!
My friend is a few weeks further along than me and she said she felt hers moving from 16 weeks onwards.
Even though my 12 week scan was fine I'm a little apprehensive after suffering an ectopic in November and a MC the year before that and don't feel as though I can get excited about it yet. I'm worrying about my 20 week scan

Hi,

I'm 20 weeks also had barely any symptoms, been pretty much feeling my usual self which is great. But still haven't got my head around the fact I'm having a baby. We have had our 20 week scan and we still don't feel excited yet nor have we bought or looked at buying anything. I think everyone is just different and there's no right or wrong way

I'm glad to read this (in that other people are feeing the same as me and I know I'm not mad!!)

I found out I was pregnant last week. I found out I was being made redundant on the same day, so I've been worried about money and job prospects for the future. Crazy I know but I wanted to bring a baby into the world when I was secure with a job. I've been more worried about work, than excited about my pregnancy! I don't feel pregnant at all. No fatigue, no sickness, boobs aren't sore. Just missed period and BFP.

Booking private scan for 8 weeks incase 6 weeks doesn't show a heartbeat and I spend too much time worrying x