Am I too big?

[lockdownpregnancy]

Hi ladies! I'm 27 weeks pregnant and I believe myself to be HUGE!
I have a sizeable bump and everyone I see (who has yet to see me pregnant because of lockdown) have all said I'm massive for how far gone I am.
So naturally I'm now worried something might be wrong, GD, too much amniotic fluid etc etc. My anxiety is heightened because of how many times I keep being told how big I am! 😭
I have my 28 weeks with my MW next week and she said she will measure my bump then and see where I'm at n the growth chart.
I attach a photo. I apologise for it but I don't take photos of myself being pregnant. Do you ladies think I'm huge?

Hard to tell when you are sitting down but I'd say you look fine. It'll depend on how tall you are also. I'm 5'2 with a short torso so my bumps looked massive on me as their wasn't much of me to accommodate the baby so they headed outwards if you know what I me.

As PP said it's hard to tell sitting down! I feel people just love to say something about bumps, especially if you haven't saw alot of these people and now they see you with a bump (whether it's 'big' or 'neat') is not how they saw you last time!

I'm 29 weeks and keep being told I'm very neat by everybody but when the midwife did my fundal height it's measuring big! So I don't even think bump size matters too much?

You'll probably also get the opposite at some point! I'm 37 weeks and I've had "you're huge" and also "oh you've got a tiny bump!" On the same day. Depends on people's perception.

I've had the cashier at Aldi say "oh I don't think you'll last until your due date look at you!!" Cheers love.

If it helps I think you have a perfect bump for your term. It's probably just people aren't seeing you as regularly as they would of post covid so when they do see you they really see the change. It's like when you loose weight- people who don't see you often notice it more.

People keep saying I’m big and I feel it but when midwife measured last week she wasn’t concerned. I was above my line on growth chart and measuring a cm ahead but apparently you can be 2 ahead before they worry.
I’d try not to think about it until you see the midwife next week.
Is it your first baby? Midwife said subsequent bumps are often bigger.

I measured big last pregnancy and again this pregnancy - it'll just mean some extra scans which I see as a nice opportunity to see baby again.
Last time baby was slightly big but only born 9 pounds and not the 10 they predicted
This time they say it's the waters that are big but nothing to worry about.
Oh and I felt guilty in my first pregnancy that I ate too much and that is why baby was big but someone else I know who had terrible morning sickness throughout her pregnancy and actually lost weight ended up having a 9 pound baby too.

Impossible to tell in that picture but I will say that

People love to say how huge pregnant women are. I got the same all the way through my first pregnancy when I was measuring spot on

Thanks ladies. I'll see what the MW says next week.
It's just every other woman I see that's as far on as me is so much smaller. I'm only 5ft5" so I think I'm pretty big for my height.

I think your bump looks perfect 🥰
My bump is bigger than 'average' and everyone always comments on the size of bump and have been doing so since 20 weeks ha!
Now currently 36+1 and everyone likes to confirm that they don't think baby will wait until 40 weeks!
GT tests have come back all clear and growth scans show baby to be growing as expected..
Every bump is different, embrace your baby bump, its beautiful ❤️

I have a short torso and look huge pregnant. When I was 24 weeks strangers started commenting “ due any day now”. I remember locking myself up in a public toilet once crying my eyes out . I had put on extra weight too so I felt super crap about myself . At my 28 week midway appointment I was measuring 3 weeks ahead too but that went down to 1-2 weeks ahead by the end of my pregnancy.

Well my baby boy was born an average 3.5 kilo and my body shrunk back to its original size ( more or less ) within about a month or so .

Now I’m pregnant again and I hope I’ll be better prepared for my big belly !

I read a really interesting artical a few years back that basically said your bump shape and size can be genetic and is how you basically carry a baby which is unique to you. So for example your height affects it as e shorter you are the more the baby has to stick out horizontally, some women's bodies carry the baby more towards their back so a smaller bump sone carry higher up which gives a more sticking out bump or some carry low which can look smaller. I found this really interesting because I'm petite , 5 foot 1 and again in this, my second pregnancy im showing as quite big and with my first people would constantly go on and on about how big I was and it really upset me but this time round i accept it's just how my body carries a baby. I really think you should embrace your lovely bump as some women are just bigger and sone are smaller and it's all ok xx

Awww thank you 🥰 my bump is very neat but you know what it's like when people start to comment about your size. I was like this when I wasn't pregnant so even more conscious now!
I've also put on 30lb in weight to date and most of the apps say your only supposed to put on around 12-20lb per pregnant! 🤨
Personally I think it's quite cruel just make such a generalisation on weight as every woman is different as you ladies have said, everyone carries different.
Its just getting to me and making me paranoid. I think I'll feel better once I've seen the MW and she's measured me. If I'm the right size I won't care too much but if baby is measuring big and I need further tests and scan then I'll start to worry more.
I've done so well so far in my pregnancy but now I'm into my third trimester I thought I'd just relax but this is when it's gets scary! Well it is for me anyway! 😬😬😬

Shit gets real in third trimester. That's been my feeling anyway! so you're not alone there! I think it's like they become more individualised towards the end (unless you/they sit in the 'average' area) so it's easier to compare to other people, but when they're smaller gestation there still seems loads of time left to change and become 'average' even if they're behind/ahead. The closer you get to the end the less likely that will happen, hence the worry!

Oh I've put on more than the recommended weight by 20 weeks again in my second pregnancy and this time I've continued running and exercising so again I think that's just an individual thing, our bodies just know what they want to do I think x

Comparison is the thief of joy! Comparing yourself to others is taking away your enjoyment of being pregnant.

Bumps come in all shapes and sizes and it's often more to do with how a woman carries her weight, how long/short her torso is and babies position as opposed to the actual weight of your baby. Even when the midwife measures your bump, she's actually measuring your uterus rather than your full belly.

Just stay happy and healthy for your little one and try not to focus too much on others.

@UrsulaSings that comment about shit getting real made me chuckle! You're not wrong there and I'm only just there!
And @sel2223 you are so right! Comparison is the thief of joy! Well said!
I should say I'll ignore it and try and enjoy the rest of my pregnancy but I'd be lying!
I think it's a natural instinct to compare yourself to others but I know that you shouldn't!
Basically for the next 13 weeks I'm screwed, as I'll be comparing right until the end! I'll then start to compare how quickly people lose their baby weight and why they lost it quicker than!
I'm terrible! 😝🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️