I wonder if anyone can help me in my sad confusion. I’ve had pretty regular periods since they started again when my son turned 11 months (just in time for my 43rd birthday). A couple of months ago I had sex around my fertile time and my period was very late. Convinced I was pregnant, I did two tests within a few days of each other (at 5/5.5 weeks): both negative. The things that made me think I could still be pregnant were the fact that 1) my sister got several false negatives with DC2, and 2) my period still hadn’t come. At exactly 7 weeks, I started spotting – something that carried on for 5 days with no change – until three days ago, when I got proper period-type blood, some cramping, and passed a round blood clot the size of a big raspberry. My doctor sent me to A&E to get checked out, where a very rude gynaecologist told me I couldn’t possibly have ever been pregnant because I hadn’t had a positive test. It’s left me in a weird mental space because I feel I can’t grieve the miscarriage I half-assumed it was, yet can’t let go of the idea that I might have been pregnant at some point. Any similar experiences? My partner started talking about the menopause, but I really think/hope it’s not that. I feel fertile and had a perfect baby at 42. I was really hoping to have another.