Pregnant again after a loss but have had a bleed...

[Sowalk]

Hi all,

I found out I was pregnant at the beginning of the year. At about 5 weeks I started to bleed and went for a scan with the hospital. They said the blood was old, there was some in the uterus but the baby seemed ok. Went back at 6 weeks. Blood in the uterus was almost gone and baby was growing, was told to return in another week to see if there was a heartbeat. Went back a 7 weeks. It had barely grown and there was no heartbeat. Asked to return the next week. 8 weeks pregnant baby had not grown and there was no heartbeat. I had had a missed miscarriage. It was heartbreaking and I had surgery to remove everything. That was in March.

My husband and I tried again and I have fallen pregnant straight away. I have been very cautious and worried and now at 5 and a half weeks I have had another bleed. I passed a few clots and went to the walk in surgery yesterday. They checked my cervix which they said was closed meaning my body is not preparing for a miscarriage. The bleeding never even went on the pad, only when I wiped and had stopped by mid afternoon. I am having a scan tomorrow to get some conclusive news but I feel I'm just replaying exactly what happened last time and feel broken.

I am surrounded by friends who have either had babies or are pregnant and don't understand why I am able to fall so easily yet seem unable to keep them.

Any words of advise/past experiences? I feel pretty hopeless right now.

Thanks in advance.

@Sowalk I’m so sorry for what you are going through. I too suffered a MMC at the end of last year and understand how heartbreaking it is. I’m afraid that worry will never go away in subsequent pregnancies, however please please keep in mind that it is so common to bleed at the early stages (especially at 5 weeks) and all you need to do is look at some of the threads here to understand that many women do and go onto have happy healthy pregnancies so there is hope. I’m almost 9 weeks pregnant and currently have the mind set that there is nothing I can do to determine the outcome of this pregnancy as only time will tell (but of course praying that all will be ok!) and trying to remember that the odds are in our favour. Don’t loose hope. Maybe you can book for a scan at 6 weeks to get a little more clarity as to what’s going on? I have everything crossed for you and sending a big hug

Thanks for your reply. So sorry for your loss, but congratulations on your pregnancy now!

It's a horrible feeling, it's like I've been waiting for it to go wrong and now it has. I am having an early scan tomorrow, I'll be 5w and 6 days. Which I'm guessing, if baby is still there, will mean it's too early for a heartbeat and so will have to go back again for another scan to see if it is growing. My only hope, though I'm hesitant to have any, is that the bleeding seems to have all stopped now. But time will tell I guess!

I’m glad you’ve managed to get a scan confirmed for tomorrow. Even though it may be a little early to see a heartbeat, I hope they will be able to give you some reassurances at this stage. The fact the bleeding has stopped I’m sure is a good sign too. I know we are mentally designed to fear the worst (especially when you have suffered a MMC!) but try not to loose hope just yet and take it one step at a time! 💜 Good luck for tomorrow, let me know how you get on xxxx

Hi,

Have had the scan. I am further along than I though. Out at 6 weeks and 1 day! And incredibly there was a heartbeat. She showed me the bubba on the screen and I could see if beating away! I sobbed so much as I wasn't expecting it! Bleeding has all stopped and there's no sign of where it came from. She said it could have been implantation although the clots were unusual! But I am just so happy and relieved! :) Thank you for you support! Xxx

@Sowalk Aww that’s amazing news, I’m so happy for you 💕 Hope that’s helped put your mind at rest a little and the rest of your pregnancy runs a smoothly as possible!! Congratulations xxx