Pregnant with 18month old

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So I'm looking for some advice, I have a very wild 18month old son who is still breastfeeding to sleep, we are trying to stop this but it's very difficult, he doesn't sleep through the night or in his own bed, he is 100000% a mummies boy & rarely settles for daddy. I've just found out I'm 9weeks pregnant & im terrified how am I going to cope? Has anyone else been in a similar situation and has any advice? I don't want him to feel replaced or left out. I think he will take it quite hard. I have no family near me to help out & my partner works full time, I've not slept since I found out & my anxiety is sky high! 😭

You poor thing it is a stressful situation but try not to get yourself too worked up, these things honestly work thereself out in the end! I had a similar situation im currently have a 16 month old and am 14 weeks pregnant. My anxiety has also been sky high since I found out worrying about my unborn baby and also how I would cope with a very hyperactive none sleeping toddler! I did loads of research a few weeks ago and ordered a book called the baby sleep solution by Lucy Wolfe. I know it sounds cheesy but it’s honestly changed my life. I had a toddler that wouldn’t go to bed till gone 10 then would wake within a hour or so and be in our bed tossing and turning all night until I gave in about 4 and got up with her. After following the sleep training book she now happily self settles her self at 6.30pm and sleeps right through till 5am, yes that’s early but she’s always been a early riser and I’ll take that when she’s in bed for 6.30 🤣 . I honesty never thought I would say my little girl is sleeping through she was the worst sleeper ever!! I was so sleep deprived for a good 14 months of her life it was torture. I would defintely recommend that book and I swore I would never do sleep training as I hate the controlled crying method however this is a lot kinder and doesn’t break your heart nearly half as much . Good luck and I’m sure you will get a solution before you're new bubba arrives x

I'm 23 weeks pregnant with a teeny tiny tornado of an 18 months old so I feel your pain. He climbs on everything, he walks into a room and just grabs stuff and throws it. He is and absolute wild child 🤣 we were also BFing up until 17 weeks but aversion and a decrease in milk supply put an end to it then although by that point he wasn't fussed and could take it or leave it, we adjusted bed time so that I sit downstairs with him on my knee and he falls asleep now whereas we used to go up and feed to sleep. I felt like changing the entire situation was better for him. Lots of people are talking about reading books to their toddler about new siblings, mine would.just throw the book. We got him a doll to try and prepare him and he hates it 🙈 he's back in nursery next week so I'm going to ask them if they have any ideas about preparing him. Litrally no advice but solidarity!

I could have written this!

I'm 10 weeks and have an 18 month old son I'm still breastfeeding to sleep and through the night and co-sleeping!

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I’m 21 weeks with a 21-month-old so will have a similar age gap. He was still breastfeeding when I got pregnant but self-weaned when I was about 8 weeks (I had hyperemesis so not sure if that was a factor). He’s not quite grasped what’s going on yet but I’m not worried about him as I think he’ll just adapt. He’s already done such a massive amount of growing up in the last few months that I almost feel it’s impossible to know what he’ll be like in 5 months!

36 weeks with an 18 month old here!
I wanted a small age gap though. I think it'll work out well in the long term.

I’m 10 weeks and have a 17 month old very active daughter! I’m so glad I’m not the only one in this situation! Can feel that way sometimes.
Until three weeks ago I was BF on demand overnight. What I did was bought the time forward every night so if she woke after 4 she didn’t get a feed, then moved to 3 etc until I cut it out completely. Took a little over a week but I think she’s sleeping better for it. She’s not sleeping through yet so we cosleep after her night wake up (hoping that’ll change soon!)
Since last week i started stopping BF to sleep. At the moment she gets 30 mins of BF then lay down in her cot for story and I put womb sounds on and rub her back. I’ve been going in and out of the room too to try to help her learn to settle without me. Since then she’s gone to sleep in her cot every night which has never happened before!
Hope you find something that works for you!x

Hi, I’m in a slightly different situation but here for solidarity. 17 weeks pregnant with an 11 month old. He’s still rocked to sleep, we weaned off feeding to sleep a few months ago. I don’t know how I’ll get him to sleep when baby 2 arrives but I guess there was a point where I thought I could only feed him to sleep too. I’m thinking about some kind of sleep training but there’s always something - this weeks heatwave, teething, a development leap... excuses from my side probably!