Hi all, I’d like to hear from other mums about this situation... I’m a 28yr old mum of two girls ages 9&7. I got pregnant young and didn’t have positive experiences due to relationship issues and being young and not ready etc. Suffered post partum depression and needed a lot of help and support from family and mother in law to get through the tough years. Now things are great - kids are older, more self sufficient - oldest is in school. But our youngest has adhd and behavioural issues that got her expelled from private school in December and we have been homeschooling since. She’s a handful to say the least.
I thought I was done having children because we are enjoying this stage in life and I am honestly looking forward to being in my late 30’s with an 18 and 16 year old.
However lately I have been having very strong urges for another baby. I’ve just gotten off birth control a few days ago and conversations are happening about trying in the next couple months to get pregnant. I get excited when I think about another baby, but then quickly get overwhelmed by all the fears and we haven’t even decided yet!
How will I cope?
We have just started sleeping again, and I don’t do well with no sleep or broken sleep. Will I be able to manage everything? I don’t depend on my husband for a lot of help with kids or house duties as he has a very tiring job and works 6 days a week and isn’t home until after the kids are in bed.. he also leaves for a week every month for business trips so I would be doing mostly everything on my own. I also don’t have much family around - my mother in law suffered a stroke and is in a wheelchair, grandparents and siblings all live hours away. Not many friends either however we are part of church community..
I guess I am just worried that it will be too much for me and obviously once baby is here there’s nothing I can do about it but just suck it up. Fears of not being able to cope and having to give up my children haunt me because I had very depressive thoughts like that when my youngest was a baby.
Ugh.. :(