6 and 7 week scans 'inconclusive', dates well behind AND brown bleeding - so confused

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Hi everyone, I guess I'm looking for some reassurance, but I'm very aware of how my situation could end (having had a miscarriage in March) so I'm trying to strike a balance between being realistic and retaining some hope for this much-wanted baby...

I'm so confused by what's happening in my body at the moment. I'd be so interested to hear from anyone who might have experienced anything similar!

According to my dates (LMP started on 3 May, I have a regular 27 day cycle and my BFP came on 27 May) I should be 7 weeks + 3 days today. But I had a private scan a week ago today (when I thought I was 6+3) which could only see a gestational sac and a yolk sac but no fetal pole, and the sonographer said I couldn't be more than 5 weeks to 5 and a half weeks. Went home and tried to relax about the date discrepancies (though I'm very sure of my dates, so the thought on a revolving loop was 'does this mean the embryo isn't growing'?), but then on Thursday last week another spanner flew into the works in the form of brown discharge/some dark brown bleeding. It's not heavy - just about fills a small pad in a 24 hour period, way lighter than my period would be - but it's consistent and showing no signs of stopping. I was referred to the EPU this morning for a scan, which again was 'inconclusive'. A week on from the last scan, this (different) sonographer also said "what I'm seeing doesn't match your dates (7+3), you can't be more than 5 and a half weeks"...which again makes me think my embryo just isn't growing. However, on the flip side, they did see a tiny fetal pole today (CRL measured 2.5mm) and my MSD - mean sac diameter - measurement seems to have gone from 6mm at last Tuesday's scan to 8.4mm on today's scan. Keep telling myself this seems like some very small progress, but am I just deluding myself given both sonographers think my pregnancy is at least a week or 1.5 weeks behind the dates I'm very certain of, and this brown discharge / light bleeding still isn't showing any signs of going away? The bleeding with my miscarriage back in March was much heavier, quicker and bright red, but...

I have to wait another 10 days for the next scan, so I guess I'm just floundering around wondering how to prepare myself emotionally in the meantime. Part of me thinks I should just accept the dates being so far off combined with the bleeding probably means this pregnancy is going to end in miscarriage like the last one, but the other part of me is desperate to remain hopeful in case there is still a much-wanted little life in there trying to grow (slowly)...so the hopeful side is wondering whether I could've just implanted really late (despite the BFP on 27 May, which doesn't really stack up!?) and have a slow developer on my hands, and the bleeding could just be something like the uterus expanding? Driving myself crazy with trying to convince myself either way!

Apologies for the essay - just so confused. Really grateful for any thoughts/experiences at all - thanks so much ladies x

Oh p.s. meant to say, I've had low level period pain for the whole pregnancy so far - not super painful or anything, just feels like normal period pain would do on a not-so-bad day. Not sure what that means! Only other symptom has been sore boobs but that's diminished in the last week or so...I know symptoms can come and go, but again the fluctuating symptoms are worrying me a lot in combination with everything else

I'm in the same situation, exact same dates as you too but measuring 5 weeks 6 days???

However, I had red bleeding clots and very mild pain that lasted 24 hours. I've never had a miscarriage but the amount of blood and clots made me convinced I had (tho I thought I would of had more pain)

I had my scan and they seen a yolk sac, no feral pole or embryo yet and I've been told to wait 2 weeks and the might scan me again.

I don't really know why I'm posting, just that I know what you're going through and how frustrating it is. I hope you're okay and it's a positive outcome for you

Xxx

Thanks so much octobersky, really appreciate your post. Sounds like we're in similar situations. I really hope your next scan shows progress. Sooo hard to wait for 2 weeks though isn't it? The uncertainty is so difficult.

If your bleeding has stopped now I think that's a good sign? The miscarriage I had back in March progressed from light bleeding to very heavy (much heavier than a normal period) within 12 hours with only fairly light pain, and the scan I had the next day showed nothing at all in my uterus, so it was all over very quickly. I've read on other threads on here that light bleeding (and even clots) can be normal in early pregnancy, for various reasons, so I don't think bleeding is always a bad sign.

Are you certain of your dates? I wish I was less certain of mine or had a less regular cycle, as then I could hope I just got my dates wrong and the pregnancy is measuring the right size after all. So tricky isn't it.

Let me know how you get on? Thanks again for sharing. I really hope it's a positive outcome for you xx