Desperate for solutions to preg sickness

[Beeperbird]

Hi, I’m a stay at home mum to a 1 and 4 yr old, the oldest starts school in sept.
I’m 12 weeks pregnant and just so so sick, I’m getting to the point where I can’t cope.
My husband is under so much pressure from work and is doing so much at home now too as I can’t go near the kitchen without retching constantly so he is doing the majority of food prep and cleaning up too. He also looks after the boys after work and does bedtime solo every day as I’m so knackered. I feel awful for the pressure that’s on him.

I’m so tired I consider it a win if the boys only watch tv for half a day at the moment, if I manage to pretend it’s broken and entertain them whilst lying on the floor with a bucket.

I’m desperate for some ideas on what I can do! I honestly feel like I’m failing my children, my husband, everything. My last pregnancy the sickness lasted until 20 weeks but it’s definitely worse this time.
Doc has prescribed cinnizarine which I take 3x daily which barely does a thing, and now Prochlorperazine but that completely knocks me out.
Doc also said stress / anxiety could be making the sickness worse and I should get more support so I’ve signed my eldest up to preschool a few mornings a week. Unfortunately my mum / sis live 4 hours plus away so can’t come help like they would have previously due to covid-19 rules.

I really don’t want to be a whinger but it all feels just awful at the moment and I reallt need some ideas!!

Thankyou!!

Nibbling on fruit helped me, tinned fruit was good.
Minimising moving makes a difference too, although I appreciate with youngsters around this might be tricky
Could you go back and see if there is any other medication that helps?
When are you taking the meds? On my worst days I had to take my anti emetic before I even sitting up in bed for it to help.

I've always felt better being out in the fresh air, OP. Even if it takes a monumental effort to get out there.... walking helps me. Although I see others have said minimise movement, so perhaps it's trial and error! Tiredness also seems to make it much worse, so can you try to get a nap during the day? Also, grapefruit has always helped me and is also listed as a natural remedy. It's very draining, isn't it?

I’d go back to the GP, you’ll eventually find an antisickness that works for you. I tried three different ones before one worked.
Chewing gum also massively helped me and gave me relief from the nausea and would stop me from vomiting. Also hard boiled sweeets too.

Go to: www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/

Ask them for advice on what meds would help. Ask them to send you something to show your GP about latest NHS guidelines on why you should be given those meds (GPs are often rubbish at this). Then call your GP and insist they prescribe it.

You don't need to feel this sick and there are meds that can fix that without making you sleepy. Especially so once you are past the first trimester.

I really hope you get the help you need.

Also, if you are taking any pregnancy vitamins, stop as they often contain iron which makes things worse. You only need folic acid and vitamin D. Possibly not even folic acid after first trimester.

I took both of those and ended up going back to GP for ondansetron which worked. A friend sent me these NHS guidelines to support my request but I didn't need it as my GP was really helpful. Hope you feel better soon x

How much are you throwing up OP? Can you keep fluids down? If you're struggling to keep anything down you might need some rehydration in hospital for a day. Has anyone checked your ketones (pee test)? If you have high ketones that actually makes the sickness worse so it becomes pretty impossible to get on top of it on your own. You can get ketostix yourself from a chemist / online to keep an eye on it at home (diabetics use them). At 12 weeks the only good news is it probably won't get much worse than this even if it doesn't get better immediately. There's a hyperemesis support thread which you should post on for lots of expert advice!

Go back to your GP? There are several different medicines you can try, perhaps you just haven't found one that works for you yet?

I'm on cyclizine, it's not working as well as it was to start with (which apparently is common) but I'm now at 16 weeks and I think it's improving on it's own (gradually.... wish it would bloody hurry up!). I find that having half a tablet at a time takes the edge of the nausea without totally wiping me out

It won't kill the kids if they're watching more TV than usual (my DD watched tonnes when I was 12 weeks!)