Anyone pregnant again after miscarriage and feeling super anxious??

[MrsTtobe]

Hi, so I'm 5 weeks pg today. Got a bfp last Thursday on day AF was due. Had a spontaneous miscarriage at Easter, I was 11 weeks pg. We had been trying for 5 months before I got pg end of Jan. Mc at Easter so mid April. Had one AF that came 38 days after mc started. Then here we are.
Anyone else feeling really anxious about it? Going to the toilet is terrifying. 🙈 Also, tmi but I'm really wet which isnt helping my anxiety. Keep feeling like ive come on.

Any other pg anxious ladies? X

I've had two MCs, one at 11 weeks, one at 13. I was fortunate that the EPU offered a reassurance scan at 10 weeks this time round, which helped, but I was just as anxious, felt like I was waiting for the inevitable to happen.

That feeling was wrong though - I'm now 38 weeks. I hope for the same for you.

I got my BFP confirmed today after 5 miscarriages 2 ruptured ectopics and 5 rounds of IVF........my feelings have gone beyond anxiousness.....I think I feel detached. I absolutely don't want to get my hopes up only to be let down again. I'm supposed to be under the care of a recurrent miscarriage clinic so going to call them tomorrow to see if they are still doing scans etc

@LittleMissNaice thank you lovely. That's lovely to hear. Were yours mmc or just spontaneous?
Gosh 13 weeks must have been totally devastating, people always think it's ok after 12 dont they. We had a private scan at 8 weeks and all was fine. Heard the heartbeat etc. Then 3 weeks later started spotting. Had pink cm for 3 days then mc over 2 days. Was 100% most horrendous thing I've ever been through.
I have 2 dc already but ironically this was the only planned one. They were happy accidents. Isn't that just life eh.
Congratulations. Very happy for you. What are you having? Xx

@ivfgottostaypositive that's such amazing news. Congratulations. We've both got a long way to go but hopefully can support each other. I honestly am so angry at myself for being so negative but it's all consuming isn't it. Im thinking about it 24/7. I'm not sure my nerves can take another 8 months of this.
Over how long has all this happened to you? How old are you if you don't mind me asking? Im 36 (in 2 week's) and I just can't help feeling it's my age against me. 😔 x

I had a mmc in Jan at 12 weeks and am 17+2 now. I worry constantly, I’ve had private and NHS scans, all is well and I’m having a little boy but I still can’t help worrying all the time, after every milestone I tell myself I’ll stop worrying but then I think of something else to worry about. I’ve only just started bonding with my bump since I found out it was a boy, before then I was very detached and would barely even talk about it. It’s tough going but every day is a step closer to holding our babies.

I wish you well on your journey x

I fell pregnant at the end of November, having had a MC at 8 weeks and a blighted ovum that was discovered at 10 weeks earlier last year. I’m now 31 weeks with a little girl. I’ll be honest, the first trimester was really scary - it was really hard to let myself believe that things were going to work out this time round. We had a couple of early scans which were reassuring for us, considering the blighted ovum. Getting to the 12 week scan was a big milestone as well. Other than that, I’d just have a little moment as I went to bed each night to say to baby ‘well done us, that’s another day ticked off’. Logically, whether or not the pregnancy will be successful is already determined, not that it helps us to feel any calmer about things. But trying to keep positive has a big impact I think. I started to feel calmer after the 12 week scan, then again after our gender scan and then again after the 20 week scan. Now with only 9 weeks to go, I know that I’m not home and dry until the baby is safely here but I am generally much calmer and really excited. Wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy

@MrsTtobe

I'm 37 - 4 of the miscarriages and losing both tubes to ectopics and all of the IVF has been in the last 2 1/2 years. I have 1 DD who is 4 and had a miscarriage before her at 12 weeks.

I went from optimism when I started TTC again after having DD and thinking I had broken my bad luck when I had her to becoming completely infertile within the space of 18 months. So it's been a really rough ride not to mention the emotional physical and financial toll

Last year I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks and 11 weeks. I’m currently 14 weeks and the worry never leaves. I have no bump and my symptoms have faded so I’m massively panicking right now. I know this is normal at this stage but I just want some evidence to prove everything is okay.

Thanks for your supportive words @Char2020 and @mable88 it really helps to know we're all in the same boat. My oh so laid back and is seems so relaxed and I just feel like I'm worried literally 24 hrs a day. Yes if everything ok by 12 week scan I think I will feel slightly better but honestly until they are in our arms like you say it just won't feel real.

@ivfgottostaypositive you're so strong to have gone through all of that. What was your journey with your dd? What's a blighted ovum? Ive heard that a few times yet never looked it up?

@bee222 aww lovely try not to worry. Easier said than done though I know. I think all the symptoms and bloating eases off around 12 weeks. It did with my 2 dc anyway. Have you had 12 week scan etc? When is your next appt? Sorry for your 2 losses. It's horrific isn't it. I ended up being blue lighted to A&E 😔 x

I don't think the anxiety ever goes away completely but it will ease. I had a mc around 7 weeks last year. I'm now 34 weeks and didn't start to chill until about 21 weeks. The constant knicker checking was exhausting. Then Covid got a bit more real in the UK so that added an element of anxiety but I'm not too bad now. I've had a few wobbles along the way but I've been assured by the midwife, GP and health visitor that it's normal. If it starts to really consume you then please reach out and talk to your midwife or GP. I've found it very helpful. I had a wobble a couple of weeks ago and felt like I was going crazy but the GP spoke to me twice for a good while on the phone and I felt a lot better x

Thank you @squirrelnutkins1 very good words of advice and hopefully I will have a nice midwife that I can talk to. I do feel like it's all consuming. Im having mild anxiety/ panic attacks a few times a day just convincing myself that something is wrong. I suffer from HA anyway, have done for a few years since my mum had cancer so the miscarriage and covid and new pregnancy has pushed me over the edge I think.
I really want to feel happy and excited but instead i feel worried and nervous. Constantly. I don't want to worry oh, he will think im nuts if I tell him how I feel every time i go to the loo. 😬 x

Hello ladies, it's strange to say I know but I'm glad other people feel like I do but I'm sorry we've all had to go through similar heartache. I had two miscarriages last year, back to back. One was a blighted ovum at 10 weeks, the other I started to bleed at 6 weeks. I've just found out I'm pregnant today, I'd be due AF on Sunday but I. Am. Terrified. I can't stop researching chances of miscarriage and every little cramp or pull makes my heart sink. I'm dreading the first scan and haven't even told my partner yet 😞

Hi there, I could have written your post a year ago. I had a miscarriage in June 2018 and fell pregnant last April. It was terrifying and if I’m honest it wasn’t until I was about 28 weeks before my brain allowed me to accept that there may actually be a baby at the end of it.
First of all, it’s completely normal to feel the way you feel. The anxiety everytime I went to the toilet never went away. Neither did the general fear. But I did find ways to cope. Try not to focus on the whole 35 weeks that you have left. Just take each day as it comes. Baby steps. Focus on the next milestone whether that be a scan or midwife appointment. The more you tick off the better you’ll feel.
Talk to people. Sadly, you don’t have to go far to find someone who has been where you are now. I found my midwife really supportive; I was forever bursting in to tears with her. A problem shared etc.
We announced to close family immediately. That way I had their support immediately. I wasn’t in fear on my own.
Remember each pregnancy is different, just because the last one ended so tragically does not mean this one will.
I contacted the Miscarriage Association just to have a good cry and chat and they were awesome. I definitely recommend them for some anonymous support if you need it.
Try (!) to relax. Your little baby needs happy hormones. It’s really difficult, I know but the statistics are on your side.
Don’t rush. Let yourself go through what you are going through. It gets better everyday. Try to stay positive. It won’t be long until you see little bean and you can feel him/her wriggling away.
I’m not sure if you can at the moment but book a private scan. I had one at 16 weeks because I couldn’t take it any longer!
Be kind to yourself 👍🏻
After all my anxiety, pain and tears, my little rainbow is snoring on my shoulder, she should be in her cot but I can’t resist the extra cuddles.
Take care and congratulations xxxxxx

@LouH1981 thank you so so much. I for one really needed to hear those words. My oh amazing and keeps reassuring me but to hear that from someone who has been in an identical situation really helps me to feel positive.
Im 8+2 today. The first 4 weeks have flown by yet the days seem so slow. I HATE going to the toilet. Every time i go I hold my breath but it's slowly getting better. With each day that passes I feel a little more positive.
Im so sad for the baby i will never get to meet. We had plans for them. Names decided. I imagined how our Christmas would be this year as a family of 5 (the baby was due this Oct). But I believe that baby wasnt ready, it was needed in heaven with treasured family members also in heaven. They have sent us this little baby instead. A little gift from all of our loved ones up there. ❤
Thanks for sharing your story lovely.

@Katywoo2 I really hope you're ok. Trust me I know exactly how you feel. Its such a mix of emotions. To still be sad for the baby you lost but to be so unbelievably happy and grateful to have another chance. A glimmer of hope.
Im dreading the scan, I have such anxiety thinking about it. I don't think I will fully relax until that baby is in my arms looking back at me.
I will say though, the first 2 weeks of finding out was the hardest part. From 4-6 week I was a bag of nerves but im a little more confident (and I mean very little) with each day that passes.
Love to you, stay in touch x

I'm 38 weeks now and having a little wobble that it'll all go wrong. OH talks about baby so sweetly and the things we'll do together etc but my brain doesn't let me. It makes me feel sad I can't engage in the same way.
We just need to hang on in there ladies 💪🏻

@squirrelnutkins1 your little baby will be here any day now. I totally understand your fears and worries but I send you hope and love and strength these next couple of days/ weeks until you meet your little bundle. ❤
Do you know what you're having?
Please keep in touch these next couple of weeks and let us know when baby arrives. Give us all some hope and some lovely baby news. ❤ x

I've had 1 MC and 3 MMC spanning 4.5 years. I'm now 20 weeks and only just starting to feel slightly less anxious now I'm feeling movements and had loads of scans. I still panic when I go to the loo and check for blood every time I wipe. Which is bonkers as I didn't even have bleeding for 3 of my losses! Pregnancy after loss is terrifying.
Make sure you talk to your midwife about it.

@MrsTtobe aww thank you for your kind message. I'll be sure to update. Yes a little girl so before she's even here my DH is totally smitten and she's already got him wrapped round his finger by the way he speaks! 🙈

Hi everyone,
I am totally new to Mumsnet. I saw this thread and couldn’t resist. I’m 8 weeks and had a miscarriage last year. I am terrified, every time I go to the bathroom, I check if I’m bleeding! 🙊 I don’t have symptoms apart from sore breasts and starving all the time, I’m also 39 and that adds more worry. Having a scan on Wednesday 🤞🏻

@Frazzlerock congratulations. Another lovely positive story after your losses. Sending you lots of luck and love and a very healthy rest of your pregnancy. ❤ It's so hard isn't it. I have 2 children and only had 1 mc and im bad enough so dread to think how you must have felt.

@squirrelnutkins1 aww how lovely. I will warn you, girls are beautiful but completely crazy!🤣 My OH the same with our dd, she gets away with everything unlike her brother. 🙄 Please let us know how the birth goes etc. Very excited for you. ❤

@CristinaTi oh lovely, I know exactly what you're going through. It's so so hard and im with you completely on the toilet thing. Im 8 week's too, 9 on Thursday. Just trying to take each day as it comes. Early pregnancy is tiring anyway but with the added anxieties we all have its 10× more exhausting. I hate being worried all day long. 😔
Im 36 so not far behind you. 🤣 let us know how you get on on Wednesday 😊😘 xx

@MrsTtobe Thank you for your kind words, they are much appreciated 😘