40 weeks and miserable

[Mila12]

Just looking for a whinge and hoping there are others out there feeling the same as me! I have managed to keep a lid on my hormones pretty well throughout my pregnancy but this last week i've just felt so low, snappy and grumpy and bursting into tears over ridiculous things.

I stupidly had it in my head that there was no way i would go over my due date as pretty much all the babies in our family have come early. I was reading old threads to see if anyone had advice which could cheer me up, but so many of them are all pre-covid, with advice such as go and see your friends, go to the coffee shop, go and have a facial all of which we all cant do at the moment. Just so tired of staring at the same walls and doing the same walks every day in a desperate bid to get things moving :( anyone fancy a moan with me?

I’m not there with you but I 100% have been a sympathise. Every day I went overdue I got more and more angry. I know it doesn’t help but as soon as the baby arrives none of it matters. In this wild post covid times I would recommend:
Asking your DP if you have one for a daily foot rub (Or 5)
Plan lovely meals every evening whatever your favourite is and enjoy a class of champagne with them every so often
From a practical point of view if you like to be busy- Prep meals, ensure all clothes are sorted into size for ease, make a little nappy station for downstairs

I know it’s not helpful but you have absolutely maximum two weeks left until the rest of your life with the baby!

I'll have a moan! I'm only 34 weeks but mate, I am done. In my first pregnancy I had a flurry of weddings and hen parties throughout the last trimester, along with the MiL taking us to the theatre a couple of times and I was swimming 2-3 days a week. It was the most fantastic distraction. This time, I'm exhausted, entertaining the toddler for 12 hours a day and dreading the next six weeks.

Uh.. you weren't looking for advice, were you?! All I seem able to do is moan and eat...

35 weeks here - still working for another week and a half. Knackered. Can't wait to stop, but equally fear I'm going to be really fucking bored when I do. There's still plenty of prep to do at home with meals, tidying etc, but I would massively prefer to be sat in a cafe people watching or seeing friends or getting a massage or something.

I've felt pretty lucky as I don't think I've been massively impacted by lockdown during pregnancy, but now it's coming to the end I suspect I might start climbing the walls...

Great advice @Napqueen1234 !

@Napqueen1234 Thank you for your lovely words and ideas!! This has made me feel so much better. I'm definitely going to do those things especially going to make sure i get that foot rub!

@CoolNoMore Haha oh bless you!! Though you never know, maybe when it gets closer to the end there will be more things to do if they ease off some of the restrictions?? (probably being too optimistic but you never know!!) And I am the exact same, moaning and eating. Which makes me feel better and worse at the same time as ive already put on 3 stone!

@4amWitchingHour omg i bet you are exhausted! I was the exact same when I finished work. Hated being stuck at my desk for hours but suddenly when it was over I realised how little there was to do in the day when you can't go out. Ive never even felt this 'nesting' people talk about but my house is actually sort of clean for once - purely from boredom!

@Mila12 - I was not anticipating this level of tiredness! It's come on in the last 3ish weeks, I feel like my brain is disintegrating round the edges. Looking forward to being able to sleep at any point during the day though (as nighttime sleep is by no means certain atm) and it would be good if our flat got fully cleaned! I'm not going to make it a goal though :D

Two days past my due date here, and Sooooo fed up- my first baby was 4 weeks early so feel like I’ve been expecting this one any minute for ages. Just feel like a useless whale. A lovely mixture of bored, lazy and frustrated. And it’s really annoying to not be able to go and do all the usual things to distract yourself. So no advice, but lots of sympathy!!

@4amWitchingHour Yes definitely sleep as much as you can! Night time sleep is shit for me too atm, literally up every hour or so uncomfortable and needing to wee! And definitely dont make the cleaning priority, do whatever you like to make it through those last few weeks :)

@Porcupine83 Omg you have my sympathies too! I would totally have been expecting baby to turn up early if your first was 4 weeks early! I feel the exact same. Massive, hormonal, and so grumpy. And if one more family member messages me to 'go for a walk' I won't be held responsible for my actions haha! As if I haven't looked up and tried anything I can think of!

I'm in the same boat - 40 weeks today and my first came at 37+1 so I never imagined I would go overdue! Feeling fed up and also wrangling a toddler all day who's behaviour has been terrible the past few weeks so all I have to look forward to today is being screamed at...so sympathy vibes from me - we can do this!!!

Plus if I get one more message asking if there’s any news yet, I will not be held responsible for my actions!!

@Tentativesteps133 Oh god sympathy vibes back to you!! I'm so trying not to let it get to me but every day my frustration is building. Factor in the wonderful pregnancy insomnia as well and I just want to lock myself in the house and not speak to anyone ever again. Wide awake since 330.. so much fun!

@Porcupine83 oh my god yes. THIS is what drives me insane!

37 weeks today first one came at 36 weeks so just presumed this would be the same.

@Porcupine83 yes!! What do they expect - I'm either not in labour and fed up, in labour and not going to reply, or have had the baby and will let you know in my own time!!

Had a sweep yesterday which hasn't had any effect at all so I basically got fisted for no reason .

Sending lots of labour vibes to everyone!

@Littleelffriend oh dear, having the first one early makes it an even more excruciating wait as you expect no 2 so much earlier! Fingers crossed your second isn’t late.

Tentative steps - I have my first sweep tomorrow! Reaaaally hoping it works... they say it can take 24 hours so yours may yet still?

@Porcupine83 Here's hoping but I've had absolutely nothing - no cramping or bleeding or plug lost so I'm not feeling confident! Good luck with yours, not particularly pleasant but over pretty quickly.

Sympathies from here too - I’m only 34 weeks with my first and still working, but also am feeling bored, listless, tired, restless, MASSIVE and fed up. Expecting to go overdue too as my mum was 2 weeks over for all of her pregnancies.

I love my bump and feeling the kicks, but I can’t wait to have my body back - being able to get off the sofa without using my arms, or being able to put my own socks on will be such a treat!

@porcupine goodness I hope not! Good luck everyone hope things get moving for us all soon!

@Mila12 I feel your pain. I'm now 11 days overdue, 2 sweeps done and nothing. I was hoping to avoid induction as my partner isn't able to attend for that part because of restrictions. I was convinced it would happen naturally because everything has looked very promising from the last appointments, but it seems baby just doesn't want to budge. I probably got my hopes up more than I should have.

Pre-covid I don't think it would have bothered me as much, but you're right... with restrictions in place it's been a fairly boring time.

@Nelbert19 Oh my god yes I feel the exact same about my body. Everytime I dare have a moan about it people remind me 'You'll miss all those kicks and having the baby inside you when she's outside' and i'm sure I will in a few years time but definitely not for the foreseeable future! Desperate to be able to just roll over in bed without moving a bowling ball at the same time!

@vicki0706 Oh bless you :( You are fully entitled to the biggest moan! Although I was already over 40 weeks at my most recent midwife app she wouldn't book me in for a sweep until next week, so just praying baby makes an appearance before then but i've had zero signs, no pains, cramps, show, nothing so not feeling massively optimistic at this point. I also was the exact same being convinced it would happen naturally, but you never know it still might for both of us! Fingers crossed. Keep us posted! x

I'm only 35 weeks and I'm ready to not be pregnant now. However I totally can see where you are coming from, getting to 40 weeks if I go overdue I'm going to be so teasy 😫😫😫

I hope you all have lovely little babies to cuddle soon 💕

@happygolucky6 Thank you!!

Nothing from me 😀

Nope, no movement over here either!

I ended up having the induction at 13 days over. Baby boy arrived at exactly 42 weeks. Tough labour but worth it. Hope everyone else has got on OK.