No sympathy/support from partner

[lydia771]

I am currently 7 weeks with my first pregnancy and I am really suffering with sickness and I have 0 energy. My partner has absolutely no sympathy for me and is annoyed that I can't do things I normally do like go for a long walk with him, help decorate the house etc and that I'm mainly resting/napping.

He says all I do is complain, there is so much tension between us. He keeps asking me to do things with him that I'm just not at all up to doing (this mornings example help him paint the garden fence whilst I'm clearly running to the bathroom every few minutes) and then he just sulks with me and we start snapping at each other. I'm trying to do what I can,I go on short walks with him but I can't go far without wanting to just collapse! And we don't even talk the whole time it's awful.

We are both on furlough and stuck at home so I imagine we wouldn't be in this situation in normal circumstances.

I wish I could zap into him how I feel, I keep trying to tell him but he says I'm OTT and 'how can the baby who is only a few mm's big be affecting me so much'. We normally have an amazing relationship but I have honestly never felt so lonely in my life, I thought I'd have so much more support from him.

Even today, I said 'please can we go and get a McDonald's before our walk' as that's the only thing I felt like eating as I'm off everything and he said bluntly 'yesterday you could only eat bland foods, that's not bland' - he's just being so argumentative?!

I don't even know if anyone can give advice I just desperately needed somewhere to vent 🥵

@4amWitchingHour I love your reply and echo your sentiment exactly! Twat 👍

He sounds like an absolute arse! Has he shown signs of being so unkind and unempathetic before? If it was me I don't think I'd be able to get past this. Can you get his mum to have a very severe word with him? Not that you should have to, he should be cherishing you not making you paint fucking fences!

Personally I'd get rid of him now, your life will be so much easier and less stressful without the asshole.

With DS1, by 7 weeks I'd lost 1.5 stone and been hospitalised 3 times with hyperemesis. Can you imagine going through the rest of a pregnancy and raising a child with such a miserable shitbag. He will continue to pile the pressure on you.

@alwayscrashinginthesamecar1
Love your response! Couldn’t agree more

I sympathise mine was like that in the beginning and even now at 24 weeks I'm still falling asleep early evenings. I explained I was doing my best, and basically prioritising OUR child. If you can, get his mum on side, works a trick 😉

Jesus it made me sad reading this, not what you need when your hormones are all over the place as well! He sounds horrible so I hope you're okay!
I'm 21 weeks now and full of energy for now but I remember the 1st trimester and it was horrible, I kept saying to mine shall we just stick at the one child since I definitely didn't want to repeat how horrendous I felt. Headaches, tiredness, throwing up- sometimes it came from my nose!! Literally just the minute you wake up you feel shitty!
My partner held me when I threw up and even cleaned my sick out of the sink, he brought me food and cleaned the house. He could see how wiped I was and whenever I tried to do something, he'd take over and tell me to rest. I'd kick yours out until he does some research, he sounds vile- sorry!