What would you do

[Rosebel]

In hospital because my baby had reduced movements and then they did a scan. Apparently baby is moving too much even though I can't feel him but in 20 minutes he changed from breech to head down and has now moved again. Apparently he shouldn't be doing that at 37 weeks.
Anyway being kept in incase my waters break (unlikely) as its possible if I go in to labour his cord will come out first. Now at the moment I don't know how long they want me to stay in. My husband hasn't been back at work long but has managed to get 2 days emergency leave for the children.
If I'm still in Wednesday then what? As I see it 2 options
1 I leave hospital and hope my waters don't break
2 I ask my parents to look after the children but they are in their 70s so I can't really. Or would you risk it?
My youngest is 11 but autistic and she can't stay at home for the whole day with just her sister.
My hope is they'll bring my csectiion forward to this week. Then my husband can go on paternity leave but then I feel I'm being selfish to my baby. Possibly might bring it forward anyway as they are giving me steroid injection for baby's lungs.
Anyway out of the options which would you chose? What's safer for everyone?

Crikey, that sounds really tough - tbh I don't know what I'd do, probably leave the children with their grandparents if they'd be able to cope.

Bumping in the hope that someone with more knowledge sees the thread

Can your husband book holiday or negotiate extra time off? It would be better for you to stay in for observations

You poor love

Remember this will all be behind you in a few days once baby comes, so you have to focus on you and your baby now, and listen to the doctors and midwives

It looks like your husband will have to negotiate more leave - I can’t see how else you can make it work, unless any friends can step in to help with childcare?

His employers will have to understand this is a particularly difficult situation, especially with coronavirus making getting more childcare so difficult, and the risk to your parents too

You just keep cooking that lovely new baby, I think your husband will work it out xx

Sounds like your husband will have to take some sort of leave - annual, unpaid, emergency leave for dependents etc.

Agree with previous posters. Explain the difficulty of the situation to partners employers and no alternatives available and try to negotiate some leave...Hopefully they are understanding as it is so difficult.

If that fails then you have no choice but to rely on grandparents

www.gov.uk/parental-leave/entitlement

Unpaid leave for childcare emergencies is protected by law, hurrah! DH needs to have a conversation with works asap and then you need to work out what you reckon is best. Good luck!

They have given him emergency leave for today and tomorrow but they have also "reminded" him that redundancies are likely which sounds a bit like a threat to me.
Hopefully I'll be seeing the doctor soon so might have a better idea what's happening then.

Sigh. Dicks. Sending positive thoughts your way and his.

Yes that's very shitty of his employer and totally wrong. Don't let them scare you, if the company are going to make redundancies it'll happen because of their financial situation regardless of your partner taking some time off.

You'll soon be holding your new baby and feeling total blissful love, it will all come good ;)