No movement 21 weeks with second

[Alicia870]

Starting to worry a bit - have my scan next week, but not feeling any movements that I can confident about. May have felt the very occasional and rare bubble but hardly anything. I'm sure I felt it earlier with first. Could there really be something wrong?

You might have an anterior placenta, I have one and didn't feel anything strong until around 22 weeks. They usually say to contact your midwife if you haven't felt anything by 24 weeks but I'm sure they'd be happy to give you some reassurance if you're really concerned at this stage ☺️

I found out at my anomaly scan that i have an anterior placenta.
I felt nothing at all until over 22 weeks. She was kicking and spinning like crazy at the scan (to the point I had to go back a few weeks later for a rescan as she wouldn't stay still long enough for them to get all the measurements they need) but I couldn't feel a thing!

Same as the above 2 posters! I had an Anterior Placenta with my first and from memory didn’t feel a thing until the 24/25 week mark. I was constantly at the hospital getting checked as I was so paranoid something was wrong with my baby. If in doubt though always contact the hospital. They’d rather see you everyday than you leave it thats what I was always told by the midwifes!

We've so sadly lost this little baby. There was no heartbeat at my scan. I now have to give birth to our sleeping angel. I'm so devastated

So sorry for your loss, sending love xx

Oh no @Alicia870 I'm so sorry to hear of your loss

Oh my goodness OP, I'm so sorry

@Alicia870 I am so so sorry for your loss xx

I’m so so sorry OP,

I’m so sorry to hear this

Oh my goodness I’m so so sorry for you. Bless your little angel.
Get in touch with SANDS. I’m so very sorry for your loss. Genuinely sending you love x

I'm so very sorry OP

I’m so sorry to hear this. I hope the next steps are as peaceful as can be for you.

@Alicia870 I’m so so sorry to hear that you are going through this. I gave birth to our beautiful boy last week at 20 weeks after finding out his heart had stopped beating a few days earlier. If you there is anything you need to know about the process or anything else then please let me know. I felt so scared before going in to be induced, as I expect you are, but you will get through the physical process however hard it is x

Alicia that's so sad. I'm really sorry, how very unfair it is.

So very sorry for your loss.

I delivered my baby son in the early hours of Thursday morning. Would love to share his name here but for privacy I won't. He was so fragile. It broke my heart to see him that way. He's so loved ❤️

I'm so sorry for your loss. Absolutely tragic. X

I’m so sorry about your beautiful boy, please do seek counselling if you need to speak with someone outside of your support system. Look after yourself OP x

They are fragile. But remember he didn’t suffer and felt your love.
They don’t know most of the time why these things happen. Nature can be cruel. He was your beautiful boy and he will always be with you.
Sadly there are so many women who have been through this sadness. Contact SANDS and let them help you. Xxx

Thanks for the messages. We have been given lots of sands info and a memory box from them. Grief is coming in waves - I so wish I could have saved him.

You poor thing, of course you wish that. It's an awful, awful experience and I am sure the grief will feel overwhelming. Very glad you are getting some support. I feel really sad for you and your little lost baby.

It does come in waves. Cry and scream as much as you need. I coped by planning memorials and little celebrations of my daughters short life. I wrote a letter to her to go in her coffin. I’m sorry I hope this isn’t too much! I planned what she would wear and got her a tiny bear. Her funeral was small and beautiful. I didn’t want anyone to look at me so it was very small. I made a little area for her at home with a few pictures and her scan photo. You just try and celebrate what you have. People gave me money instead of flowers for the funeral and we gave it to Tommy’s and a local hospital. It was £2500 in the end.
It’s all awful but you carry on and you did have a baby and you want to celebrate that.

I’m just so so sorry.
Your son is very special and he always will be. It gets better and you start to move on but they are always with you and even though I have more children now I still feel her.
I’m sending you and your little boy lots of love.
My heart breaks for you. None of this is your fault you did everything you could.
I’m so very sorry.

Thanks so much. I will absolutely cherish anything we have to remind us of this little darling. We're having a funeral following the post mortem. Just a small family gathering. My husband is already planning a charity fundraising sports challenge to raise money for sands, who have been so supportive. We'll do it in his name. He will never be forgotten- although he only made it half way he is still my baby and part of our family and his soul still goes on. Thanks everyone