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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Scared of missed miscarriage

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mintich · 09/06/2020 19:01

I am 8 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child. I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks a year before I got pregnant with my 1st child.
For some reason, I have become concerned about having a missed miscarriage (I have never had a missed miscarriage)
Every day I think of reasons that I could go to have an early scan at EPU....but I dont actually do it as I know I'd be wasting their time with a fake ailment for them to check.
Has anyone else had this sort of anxiety with their pregnancy?

OP posts:
Pol96 · 11/07/2020 15:57

I'm excited but so so scared something is wrong.. I still have nausea and still very tired.. But I'm just so anxious about it, I've not had any bleeding or any horrible cramping so I keep telling myself that you've not had any bad signs... Today's its really hit me that I have the scan in a few days.. And as its at 2pm I have to wait soo long to be seen ..i feel bad to be wishing the time away too!

Hanrora06 · 11/07/2020 19:02

@mintich so glad all was well for you!!! Flowers I was exactly the same. I had listened to Katherine Ryan's pregnancy loss podcast before I even knew I was pregnant and I'd never even heard of missed miscarriages before that, so it was always there in my mind. Plus my mum miscarried at around 11 weeks so I couldn't forget it. I'm 17 weeks today, so I'm very grateful for that.

I don't think there's much advice I can offer to previous posters who are still worried, except I guess just keep reminding yourself the worrying doesn't help. Try and really work on finding some distraction techniques- mindfulness, drawing, watching something on Netflix, reading, exercise...whatever works for you. The worrying won't make anything change or time move faster, the opposite. I just had to keep telling myself that whatever happened, would happen and there was nothing I could do, and the best thing was to try and think about something else.

By the end I did have to listen to KR's podcast again, just to hear what she said, but it didn't make any difference- she had pregnancy symptoms up until the end, no bleeding, nothing was there to warn her. So there's nothing you can do except accept it I suppose.

I didn't know about private scans really, but I don't think it would've helped me- as a PP said, things can still go wrong in the meantime in the first trimester, so it would have just been a temptation, a false sense of security, and cost me money I don't really have- and then I'd still be worrying afterwards and be no less safe.

I hope all of you are OK, and feel better soon!!

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