Hubby & family gender disappointment!

[SassyPants87]

Hi all

I think I just need to rant because I'm pissed off! My husband really wanted a boy but we found out we're having a girl. Which I'm thrilled about as I didn't care what we had. But he just couldn't hide his disappointment! You could see he was trying to come to terms with it!
He said it's because he wouldn't know what to do with a girl, who would he play footy with etc and I said he can do all of those things with a girl!
He also said if we had a boy first it wouldn't have mattered what the next one was!!!
I am of indian heritage where it's traditional to want the first born to be a boy (god knows why).
And then when I told our parents I got 'ahhhh the next one can be a boy'

I LOST MY SHIT! And told them I wouldn't be having any more kids! Lol

They all apologised to me and said as long as the baby is healthy that's all that matters but now I can't help but feel everyone's initial reaction has made me feel shit! I know this baby isn't unwanted and everyone will love her unconditionally. But it's just ruining the experience for me now :(

I don't know if anyone has experienced similar, just struggling to let it go

My husband was the same , " in our family the first is always a boy" etc, and then he got all pouty when it was a girl. Boo hoo.

He ended up being a great dad to her, and by the time we had our 2nd he was like " oh another girl would be great, girls are the best !"

Your DH and his family will fall in love with your DD - they'll be fine.

OP follow Pink Ladoo on Facebook, they are fighting against the stigma against baby girls in Indian culture. It's unbelievable that people still think like this in the 21st century.

Well, my husband's Irish grandmother had seven girls. I'm sure she'd have had more if her husband hasn't died at 45. I think it probably is a bit harder for men, women will love and bond with any child but because men are a bit more at arm's length I think they just feel insecure about bonding, so a boy is reassuring. It'll be fine, people say no end of crap all the time. Wait until you have a two year old boy and the shop assistant tells him the unicorns/rainbows/pink isn't for them....boils my piss.