Family making me hate being pregnant

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Here goes nothing. Im currently 18 weeks and misable. I moved in with my mother and father my sister (20 years and younger)and brother( 14years younger) for isolation as my partner is still working and using public transport.
When i found out I was pregnant the day after I told my mum wasnt one bit happy we didn't speak for a week. Sort of made up. But she Always blows hot and cold.
Now she hated the fact my partner lived in a flat which i stay 5 nights aweek and don't think she likes my partner very much.
Since isolation my partner has found us alittle house around the corner where we live now.
My relationship with my dad is rocky he doesn't like me and frankly I don't like tbe way he talks to my family I do have another brother who has to kids but he sort lives his life and pops in now and then.
I'm not scared to move in to our new house because I know when I tell my siblings my mum will kick off again. I know this sounds stupid but soon as I move out I know they will dis own me. This hurts my partner doesnt understand as he always had love and affection from his family , something my family dont do.
Frankly it putting a downer on my whole pregnancy, nobody can see what my mother is like she get jealous very easy of everything me and my bother do.
But im struggling to think i will never see my two younger siblings, nevermind bring a baby in tho this family.
Somebody tell me what to do because right now im struggling to be happy with be pregnant 😩

Ultimately if you're old enough to have a baby and be responsible for another human being then you are old enough to stand up to your parents.

That's it really. No need for all the drama.

Just because they are your parents doesn't mean they are nice people or that you will get on with them

How old are your siblings OP?

27 16 and 9

Ok so the older two you can definitely see without your parents. I think tbh you just need to set some firmer boundaries here.

I know my 27 old brother well he just won't b bothered he live his life doesnt care so wish I could be like that.
My other two I love so much and I always been the rock big sister.
I just think once I move out i just have to face the fact I might have to ssy goodbye.
This is hard part for me

That seems a tad dramatic OP. Your 16yr old sib at least you can easily maintain a relationship with away from your parents, and the 9yr old too, letters, postcards, phonecalls etc.

I think you're creating extra issues really OP. You'll move out in a few weeks, and then you can distance yourself from your parents and get on with your life.

Why does no one like your partner?

Is that why your mum will kick off when you move out?

It’s all very dramatic.

You have a partner, you’re having a baby together, you’re moving in together. It seems unlikely your family will disown you but maybe some space away in your own home away from all the angst and tension will be good for you.

I wish i could say it abit dramatic but really not.
30 years old you tell your mother your pregnant to be told she utterly deversated. (I will never for get that)
Dont know why they don't like my partner they nice to his face but nasty about him to me think mostly because he 10 years older. I been with him nearly 10 years and she alway found away to upset me about him.she ripped my scan picture up because I was going to send him a copy in the post
Her and my father dont really get on very well. Years gone by she said she leaving him but always goes back.My sister won't leave herside due to being scared she disappear (dont know where this has come from)
My family always have ups and downs sort of got away by working long hours.
So much harder to explain how I feel maybe I am over thinking it

I wish i could say it abit dramatic but really not.
30 years old you tell your mother your pregnant to be told she utterly deversated. (I will never for get that)
Dont know why they don't like my partner they nice to his face but nasty about him to me think mostly because he 10 years older. I been with him nearly 10 years and she alway found away to upset me about him.she ripped my scan picture up because I was going to send him a copy in the post
Her and my father dont really get on very well. Years gone by she said she leaving him but always goes back.My sister won't leave herside due to being scared she disappear (dont know where this has come from)
My family always have ups and downs sort of got away by working long hours.
So much harder to explain how I feel maybe I am over thinking it

Sorry if this sounds harsh but if your own mother reacts to your pregnancy like that then she seriously needs some help..and to destroy a scan picture!??!! What's honestly messed up and I think even if she disowned you for living your life essentially..then you, your partner and baby are better off without such a toxic loon to deal with. Your responsible for your own security and happiness and you alone will allow or reject such behaviour to be inflicted on you. So simply put dont put up with such childish nonsense and make that very clear. She will perhaps smell the coffee once your out and had your baby and realise what she cant get away with and wont want to lose out on her grandchild but yeah..your grown now you dont rely on your parents so dont put up with abuse.