Cold feet at 6 weeks

[blueyedblondie]

I am 6 weeks and 5 days pregnant and the last few days I have been thinking seriously about my options. When I first found out I was pregnant I automatically knew I was keeping the baby however I've started to get cold feet and I'm seriously debating on terminating my pregnancy. I've done so much research and have seen a few times that my hormones are through the roof at this stage and have thought maybe it's a mix of hormones and fear talking? I have discussed it over the phone with my midwife who said to seriously think about it and try and get support from someone else. I have confided in my partner about it and he said he will support me no matter what decision I make. I don't want to go through with terminating and then regret it instantly as once it's done it's done. The pregnancy wasn't planned but I have always been maternal and loved the idea of having a child. I know nobody can tell me what to do but I just wonder if anyone has experienced similar? It's more advice I'm after as it's such a tough decision to make and I really don't want to make the wrong choice. Thanks.

Hi OP.
Our pregnancy was planned and after I found out I was pregnant I didn't really react. I wasn't excited or even scared.
Then around the 7 week mark I thought to myself 'what have I done' and seriously contemplated if I had made a huge mistake.
I think what you say is right and hormones play a major part in our thought process.
I really suffered with extreme mood swings in my first trimester and it wasn't until my 20 week scan that I actually started to get excited that me and DH were going to be parents. I was happy about it when I went for the 12 week scan but the excitement was later.
The first trimester varies massively with all women. Whilst I never really had any physical symptoms, I had physiological issues. Anxiety, panic attacks etc.
I would just say keep talking about your feelings to your DP and other close friends and family and get the support you need.
No one should force you into keeping the baby or not keeping it, but they should (hopefully) aid your decision on how you move forward.
Hope you're ok 🥰

@lockdownpregnancy thank you for taking the time to reply I really appreciate it!

I'm so relieved I'm not alone in this feeling. I also think as I've had horrendous morning sickness it's just made me go a bit crazy and feel like I want it gone but the fact I'm debating it speaks volumes and maybe it's really not what I want...

Did you just ignore the feeling of "what have I done" and ride it out?

I didn't ignore it. I spoke to my friend about it and as soon as I started talking about my doubts I realised that I hadn't made a mistake and I was just feeling a bit crappy.
I was fortunate with my lack of symptoms and pretty much cruised through the last 24 weeks without any real suffering like some women, but you do have the odd day, when you feel like total shit that you do think 'what on earth have I got myself in to!'
Symptoms can really take a toll on you mentally and physically, especially sickness and headaches. My best friend suffered and when I say suffered I mean, SUFFERED!!!! She hated every single second of her pregnancy and hers was not planned either, but she had her baby girl in February and she said she was worth it.
In times when you do have those doubts, it all falls away when you see you little bundle on the screen at your scan.
I had an early scan at 7 weeks as I was in pain and when I saw my lil bundle on screen I just sobbed. I knew right there and then I was meant to be a Mommy.
🥰🥰