17+2 days and very anxious

[Yasminf1512]

i had four missed miscarriages previous to this pregnancy.
i am 43, ivf baby, pcos, underactive thyroid, and recurrent miscarriages so i am very nervous and anxious especially as i dont feel pregnant at all. no symptoms, no movement just nothing. i had a scan at 12 weeks and all was fine but due to covid my next scan is not till 19 weeks.
anyone felt or had similar experience and everything was ok?

I can't relate to your situation but I know the wait between scans is awful for anxiety I managed to squeeze in a private scan before lockdown at 16 weeks. I know there's a few places that are still doing them, would that be an option for you OP if you're feeling very anxious?

As for symptoms, I think it's pretty normal to feel 'normal' through the second trimester and 17 weeks is still early to feel movements so try not to worry too much about that

Hello there, I'm 17 +2 today as well and I'm exactly the same. I haven't had any movements (or at least I don't think I have), no symptoms, my bump isn't even that big. I just don't feel pregnant at all but my midwife did say we are meant to feel our best through the second trimester. Keep positive, another 2 weeks then you will get to see your baby again! Mine is just under 3 weeks away, I'm so looking forward to it!

I'm 16+5 and feeling exactly the same. I might have a bout of sickness every now and then but thats it. We have a private scan next week and I'm already petrified of that!

19+1. Thought anxiety would go away after 12 weeks but has gotten worse over the past fortnight. Counting down days til scan and getting more and more worried as it gets closer. Desperate to order a doppler but know that's not advised. I've honestly convinced myself I have lost baby now. Thought pregnancy/second trimester was meant to be wonderful. It helps seeing others talk about it though

Hi, I’m 16+4, aged 40 with my second IVF baby. I can’t relate to how anxious you must feel after four missed miscarriages, just awful, but I can relate to the not feeling at all pregnant - other than in my case now quite a sizeable bump already!

I’ve never had any nausea/sickness in either pregnant and am no more tired than normal life.

It does feel a long time between scans which is difficult to manage but I just keep reminding myself that pregnancy isn’t an illness and I should expect to feel well and normal. First time round I didn’t feel any recognisable movement until 22 weeks either so it can be quite late for some people. It’s impossible not to worry but do all you can to try and not reflect on the anxieties but focus on where you’re heading. It’s also common I think to actually get more anxious as a scan approaches, so do all you can to be kind to yourself. All the best to you.

I can relate to not feeling pregnant! I'm coming up 19 weeks and feel normal & no movements yet! Glad there's a lot of us feeling the same which makes it feel normal! Xxx

Thank you all so much.. you all definitely made me feel better. It’s really hard to stay positive, I keep touching my belly trying to see if I can feel anything but nothing yet.. praying all goes well for the 17 June 🤞🤞🤞🤞

OP quite early days still for movements so try not to worry. Every time yr feeling worried go to a quiet room...Try lying flat on yr bed close yr eyes and relax and let ur mind think positive thoughts... that helped me to stop the stress and anxiety

Bless you! I can totally relate to your anixety.
I had two miscarriages last year.
I'm now pregnant for the 3rd time with my rainbow baby 🤞🏻 32 weeks.

I thought after my 12 week scan I'd relax a bit but no I was the same as you. I did book a scan at 16 weeks to ease my anxiety privately.
However it's totally normal for you to feel normal in yourself. I literally remember not feeling pregnant. I was a mess between 16 - 20 weeks. Don't be afraid to contact your midwife and ask if you can just hear the heartbeat as your getting so worked up. Mine did this as I literally couldn't live my life with the worry!

Luckily I was feeling movement come 20 weeks. So hopefully won't be long for you.
Unfortunately I can't say the anixety has completely left me yet. I'm a lot better but
I worry so so much. Pregnancy after loss is so difficult. Good luck and try to enjoy it. try and think positive and I no this is so hard! 💕