Good comebacks to people asking for another baby?

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Married for 5 years, 14 weeks pregnant here. This pregnancy is a very well planned one and we're not having anymore kids due to our financial situation.

These past 5 years we received so much pressure to have kids. Some of these people were complete strangers to me. Some relatives went so far as to give me a long speech on how contraceptive methods caused fertility issues and should be avoided...

These people are silent and content now that I'm finally pregnant. But I know that as soon as this baby pops out, I will have to answer an overwhelming number of "When's the second one coming???" questions from all kinds of people.

I need good comebacks. I want answers that shut them up for good. I don't want to have to defend the choice we made for our lives. Have you been subjected to this kind of nosy behaviour? How do you respond?

@stairgates I love that one!

@Pebblexox it really gets annoying doesn't it. I had people ask me "why does it bother you so much to hear this question?" When you hear the same question a bazillion times you get tired of it...

Prior to getting pregnant I would say "who knows when they are going to actually have a child until they are bringing them home from the hospital". Our family has a history of infertility, miscarriage and a still birth so that usually shuts them up. I'll probably use that afterwards if get the same questions, I'm hoping I won't.

I hate how involved people feel they need to be with this, it's none of their bloody business! We got married just gone a year ago and none stop since the wedding it's been 'time for a baby?/when's a baby on the agenda?/you must be trying?' And when we told people last month I was pregnant, literally the SAME PEOPLE 'gosh you didn't hang about did you!' Arghhh drives me mad! Not like we'd been together 7 years before marriage and was TTC for a bloody while
I would just smile and ask them an equally personal question

@SiaPR Yup. Yuuup. The cousin didn't actually come off as defensive at the time though, he seemed entirely convinced that they'd made the best decision. I still wanted to kill my husband, of course.

Sorry, OP, maybe I wasn't very helpful. I hope you get the advice you need.