Families visiting newborns this summer. Do you think it'll be possible?

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I'm due July 20th and the plan was that my mum would come stay for a week to help me and my husband out while I'm healing etc. I live in England and my family lives in Wales. We also have local family on my husbands side. Do you think by July families will be able to visit newborns? It makes me so sad to think my family won't meet my daughter for months.

Can you do meeting outside in a garden in a group as per normal guidance at the moment? I’m due in July and that’s what I’m thinking if everything is still the same as it is x

Sorry that was about your local family - not sure what to say for the rest but I would be inclined to have your mum to come and stay... things might change quite a bit by then

Hope so. I’m desperate for my parents in law to actually meet our 8 week old baby. Can’t see it happening soon though. I’m
Heartbroken they have missed the newborn stage

There are reviews happening every 3 weeks and the situation/restrictions are changing all the time.
Just try and stay positive, a lot could happen by 20th July.

My main worry right now is that we'll have a second wave and be in another lockdown by July tbh :/ though if that happens then there's not much anyone can do.

@erised13 you will stress yourself out thinking about the what ifs....truth is, none of us have a clue how life will look next month or the month after
I'm due 13th Aug and haven't seen my partner since early March as we are locked down in different countries. I don't know if there will be flights so no idea if he'll even be at the birth or not but I'd make myself ill stressing over it everyday.
We have to just stay positive. What else can we do?

The government have said their own rules are "guidelines" that can be broken if it is deemed necessary, especially for childcare/health/looking after vulnerable people.

On top of that, it is and has always been within the rules to move into another household for an extended period so no reason why your mum couldn't come to live with you for a couple of weeks. Paid for childcare has also always been allowed and many people do not really see why they can't "pay" their usual childcare eg grandparents.

So as far as you're concerned, it's not the rules that will stop you. It's more your assessment of the risk to you, the baby, and older grandparents. If you feel the risk is low, grandparents take steps to reduce it further eg do their own lockdown for two weeks before your due date, and you are prepared to live with whatever risk is there, I would absolutely have visitors.

My mum also lives in a different country and I'm planning to have her come and stay... I'm due July 3rd. She lives in a rural location and can travel safely so I'm not too worried

I’m due July 18th and have been thinking a lot about this. If nothing changes between now and then at the moment I’m thinking to self isolate for the first 1-2 weeks as we will have been in hospital and it’s safer for everyone involved. After that probably garden visits to meet baby. Depending on how comfortable I feel after that perhaps holding baby if they wear mask gloves etc.
I’m trying not to over think it just yet as so much could change, but at the same time feel I need to prepare my family for having to wait for cuddles.

Personally I think youve got to make the decision that suits you and your family and not worry about what others think!

If you dont want any family to visit, your choice. If you want to do garden visits, again your choice.

At this point and looking forward, as long as outside contact has been minimal e.g. just going out to shops and no where else or seeing no one else then the risk is fairly low.

This virus is going to be around for a while as yet and while its wise to be cautious, you can make arrangements to have close up contact with limited family members safely- you can always ask them to isolate two- three weeks before your due date!
I would have your mum isolate for a few weeks at her home and then let her come stay still!

I agree that you should do what suits you and is best for your mental health.