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11 weeks pregnant and think I’m miscarriaging

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Sara22345 · 04/06/2020 14:36

Hi all, I’m not sure why I’m posting, probably for some hope I guess but I’m pretty certain I’m having a miscarriage.
I started getting what felt like light period pains on Sunday evening. On Tuesday I was spotting brown/ pink blood and then when I wiped it was bright red with a clot. The bleeding then stopped but the cramping continued and felt worse, particularly in my back. I had no bleeding yesterday but today I have wiped again and there was red blood with a small clot. I feel sick and my back really hurts. I called my doctor on Tuesday who contacted the early pregnancy assessment unit but due to them being busy they couldn’t offer me an appointment until tomorrow morning. I just feel like I need to be put out of my misery. The waiting is like absolute torture. I know they have to prioritise those that may be more poorly but I feel like they neglect your mental well-being because of that. Just trying to manage the pain at the moment and also manage a toddler. Feel like I’m letting him down.

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1ce1cebaby · 04/06/2020 19:44

Oh Sara I’m so sorry you’re going through this and really hope you get good news tomorrow. As lots of people have said, on here you hear of plenty of times where bleeding didn’t mean the worst. Unfortunately I miscarried on Monday at 11 weeks. But I had lots and lots of blood and huge clots so there was no real denying it for me. When I rang the early assessment unit in the morning when there was some spotting they weren’t concerned unless it was super heavy (which it wasn’t at that time). I felt let down by them too and a lack of empathy on the phone. I felt like a nuisance for phoning even though they warn you to phone if any blood at all. Due to reduced hours in the unit they did tell me to go to A&E of it got heavier after 5 when they had closed. I didn’t though as felt no point and phoned again the next day and was told to go in. I really hope you get good news. It’s good that it hasn’t gotten to much worse Over the past few days so hopefully that can only be positive x

Sara22345 · 04/06/2020 19:46

@Rainbowm that’s so lovely to hear you have a daughter after all that you went through. I totally agree I don’t think until you’ve experienced it, or feel like you are experiencing it when you don’t appreciate the impact it can have. My heart goes out to all the women who have had to experience this x

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Sara22345 · 04/06/2020 19:47

@bettertimesarecomingnow thank you x

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Splitsunrise · 04/06/2020 19:49

Crossing fingers for tomorrow Flowers

Sara22345 · 04/06/2020 19:50

@1ce1cebaby oh no I am so sorry for your loss that sounds really horrible and rubbish that you weren’t offered much comfort. I hope you’re alright and looking after yourself. Thank you for offering me hope when you must be in pain yourself x

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Sara22345 · 04/06/2020 19:52

So sorry to hear of your loss I hope you are ok?
The pain has subsided a little and I haven’t had any more bleeding since earlier. That’s interesting to know about what the clots look like etc. I’ve taken pictures to show them at the unit not that I imagine they will want to see them but I thought I better had just in case. X

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1ce1cebaby · 04/06/2020 19:56

Thank you. Like you I find it easier to chat here. Only my sister knew I was pregnant (apart from my husband) but I felt it so hard to tell her we lost the baby. I waited two days and did it over txt and said I didn’t want to talk about it. It’s odd. So glad of this site. You know we have everything crossed for you and hope tomorrow comes quickly!

Sara22345 · 04/06/2020 20:05

@1ce1cebaby totally relate to that! I have lots of lovely friends who I know will be so supportive but I just feel like I don’t want to talk to them because I don’t want them to feel upset. I find it really difficult talking about how I feel particularly if I am sad- which is really ironic as I am a psychotherapist! Couldn’t make it up could you!
Will keep you updated tomorrow. Sounds strange but I feel massively comforted from this thread in that I feel stronger in facing whatever the outcome might be x

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Sara22345 · 05/06/2020 09:35

Hi everyone- just to let you know, it’s good news! I can’t believe I’m saying this but the baby is ok! There was a heartbeat and the Sonographer said everything looked ok. I was measuring 10 weeks and 1 day. I really can’t believe it I think I am still in shock. I was so convinced I was having a miscarriage.
They couldn’t really explain what the bleeding was or why I have such bad back ache. They said it could potentially be a UTI which would make sense I guess but if it’s not that then it remains a mystery,
Thanks so much for everyone’s lovely words yesterday I found them so comforting x

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Elouera · 05/06/2020 10:13

That is such great Sara and goes to show that not all bleeding means its bad. Congrats and best of luck for the rest of the pregnancy Flowers

Rainbowm · 05/06/2020 10:15

Oh @sara22345 I am so so happy that it’s good news for you, it’s always lovely to see positive outcomes. That little monkey is causing their mummy worry already! it’s must be a girl their trouble 🤣 . Take care of yourself now and enjoy your pregnancy xx

TheFoz · 05/06/2020 10:18

@Sara22345 that’s amazing! I’m delighted for you. Have a relaxing day to celebrate!

1ce1cebaby · 05/06/2020 10:19

@Sara22345 that’s brilliant news! And lovely to hear good news! Hopefully the rest of your pregnancy is a little easier x

Sara22345 · 05/06/2020 10:57

Thank you so much ladies you have all been so kind xx

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rainbowstardrops · 05/06/2020 11:33

Fantastic news!!!!! Thanks

dixiedo · 05/06/2020 11:59

Fab news. Really happy for you. I'm 10'weeks 1 day too. Congratulations x

lc86 · 05/06/2020 12:36

Aww brilliant news xx

Sara22345 · 05/06/2020 12:51

@dixiedo oh wow are you? I haven’t looked at due date but I’m assuming it’s near New Year’s Eve?! Xx

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dixiedo · 05/06/2020 13:24

Yes ! I am waiting for the official date from the scan but early scan dated me for New Year's Day.
I'm hovering around on the Christmas and January babies threads. It will be a crazy time of year to have a baby! Hope you're feeling okay?. I feel rubbish today and Im going back to work next week. Fingers crossed start to feel human xxx

Sara22345 · 05/06/2020 20:40

Bless you hopefully in a few weeks you will start to feel a bit more human. Have you got any other children or is this your first? X

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