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OH gone off sexy time

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thejollytrolleydolly · 02/06/2020 13:30

Has anyone else experienced their partner completely going off the idea of sex or anything else related after finding out they are pregnant? If so was there anything you did to sway them? My partner is usually the one that initiates sex but since finding out I'm pregnant he said he can't because it just feels too weird. It's been 4 months now and I'm starting to lose my mind a bit πŸ˜‚ I don't think I can go the whole 9 months without!! Please help!!

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Yaty · 02/06/2020 13:41

Mines the same. First few months I was so ill I think we only did it once. Now I'm noticeably showing and the baby is moving he's gone off it completely. He says he doesn't want to hurt me or the baby. It's annoying but I dont want to force him so just something to put up with I guess.

Temple29 · 02/06/2020 13:53

My DH is the same. It was fine in the first 20 or so weeks (when I wasn’t sick) but once he could feel the baby move that was it. Said it freaks him out and I get that, was the same in my last pregnancy πŸ™„ it’s a long few months though!!

thejollytrolleydolly · 02/06/2020 13:55

@Yaty I get why they feel this way which is why I am being patient with him but there's other things we could be doing in the meantime other than full sex if you get me! I've never felt so confident in my own skin as I do now and want to make the most of it! 😁

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thejollytrolleydolly · 02/06/2020 13:56

@Temple29 I know and there's still 5 months left and then there's the healing time after she is born! I'll have gone cuckoo by that point πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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F1rstt1imer · 02/06/2020 14:08

DH just found the idea of baby’s head being close to his penis too weird! So we didn’t DTD at alll after finding out I was pregnant with DD until she was 6 weeks old! Now pregnant with number 2 and can see it being the’ll be a long 9 months!!!

LittleBoyJuly2020 · 02/06/2020 14:13

I was worried about this but my partner doesn't seem in the slightest bit bothered. We've maintained our 'every day or every other day' throughout pregnancy. Now at 33 weeks we can practically only do it in one position that is comfortable for me but that's still not put him off.

Your partner might change his mind as time goes on, maybe have a chat about it and see if you can compromise? If it's the bump that is putting him off then suggest positions where he doesn't see bump perhaps?

lockdownpregnancy · 02/06/2020 14:15

Mines the same OP. I'm 23 weeks and only done it twice since finding out I'm pregnant. He just finds it weird, as the other pp's have said.
I've got no chance until baby is born now! Good job I've got a vibrator! 😝
I literally had to beg him the second time we did it so I've just resigned myself to the fact it's not going to happen 😭😭😭
Going to see if he's up for some foreplay instead, so at least we both some sexual satisfaction over the coming months! 🀞🀞🀞

justasking111 · 02/06/2020 14:21

Mine was the same all three times, I became untouchable from the moment I told him I was pregnant. Afterwards he was counting down the days. Perhaps it is an instinctive deep seated thing.

thejollytrolleydolly · 02/06/2020 14:27

@lockdownpregnancy I think I'm going to have to invest!! It really doesn't help that my sex drive is loads higher at the minute as well! πŸ™ˆ god help us all eh?! Xx

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thejollytrolleydolly · 02/06/2020 14:30

@F1rstt1imer @justasking111 oh god! I'm starting to give up hope tbh. The first month I gave him the benefit of the doubt but now I think I ask him most nights incase he has changed his mind haha! He says it just seems weird to be doing something sexual so close to our child which I get but it doesn't help lol xx

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lockdownpregnancy · 02/06/2020 15:23

@thejollytrolleydolly my sex drive is ramped up thankfully but at the same time I do not like the fact my sex life has died a death!
I just hope he doesn't mind having sex once I can after baby is born and he's in the next to me crib by the bed! I may have to pop him his nursery for an hour every now and then! Haha! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

thejollytrolleydolly · 02/06/2020 16:50

@lockdownpregnancy good thinking! That's what baby monitors are for right? πŸ˜…

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Mc3209 · 02/06/2020 18:01

Same. I've been taking matters into my own hands, so to speak.
I am hoping sex life will resurrect once the baby is born.

MaliceOrgan · 02/06/2020 18:04

Do you actually call it "sexy time" with him? That would be enough to put me off.

MinesALatte · 02/06/2020 18:17

@MaliceOrgan crikey, bit unnecessary.

lockdownpregnancy · 02/06/2020 18:20

@MaliceOrgan a bit harsh 😬
And yes OP that's what baby monitors are for! We have one with a camera too so one eye on the baby and the other on the task at hand! At least I hope so anyway! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

7ofNine · 02/06/2020 18:25

That's what I was thinking Malice! Blush
If dh came in suggesting"sexy time" I'd find it rather a turn off.
But I'm guessing OP didn't actually say that to hers Grin

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