Grandparents and coronavirus

[MrsJaneyp]

Hello
I'm due in July with my first and I'm wondering what you have all been doing in relation to grandparents and friends meeting your newborns or what you will be doing ?
I know my parents are going to want to have cuddles etc but I'm not comfortable with it
Any advice

Hi, I'm 40 weeks today! We are planning on letting people meet our little one in the garden but they won't be having cuddles! I feel really bad for my parents as they have shielded for a full 12 weeks due to a condition my dad has, however my mother in law is carer for the elderly so my husband said it would be unfair if my parents got cuddles and she didn't, so no one is having cuddles to begin with!

You never know, things may have changed again by July, do what's makes you feel comfortable!

Good luck with your pregnancy! 😊

It's whatever you're happy with.

Our DS was born 13 weeks ago so just before this all started but means GP's haven't met him a lot at all. We've just been videocalling and sending photos but MIL decided for us and has been turning up at the window anyway ha!

Congratulations! Do remember when arranging logistics that you will have been in hospital and theoretically could have picked something up, so it's not just about protecting the baby it is also about protecting the visitors. Particularly important if your dad is shielding.

My parents live in the countryside and are isolating apart from the odd garden meet and supermarket shop. I do not see them As posing a risk to our baby, I see myself, baby and hubby as being a risk to them having been in a busy London hospital. I will want to wait 1-2 weeks to reduce risk to them, but once I think we pose no risk I will certainly be expecting them to cuddle the baby.

I Think it’s very dependent on the lifestyle of your parents And where they live.

I’m really struggling with this. Due in 7 weeks.

My logic at the moment is that if social distancing is still in place (which is likely) then garden meet ups will be fine but no holding etc.

I’m honestly dreading telling my parents and MIL this as I think they will think I’m over reacting. But between them they have been volunteering at food banks, mixing with family members who will be going back to school and various other things that I haven’t been doing (as I’m a nervous wreck !).

I’ve read that social distancing could be in place until a vaccine is found, which is a depressing thought, and I guess I would have to reevaluate.

It’s so hard and sad.

Thanks guys. It's so difficult
Let's hope we are through the other side soon x

I've made the choice that if it's still like this in July when I'm due no one will get to cuddle my baby. This is because the grandparents are currently either bus drivers or working in schools.

I also feel like as much as it's horrid and we all love to cuddle new family members she isn't a toy so she doesn't HAVE to get passed around for a "turn" like everyone feels. And they can love her from a 2m distance. I'm currently not seeing or cuddling my nephew who is 2 because it's the right thing to do. Because I love him so much I'd never ever forgive myself if he got poorly. Hopefully my family will feel the same about mine.

And I know it maybe me being irrational but I'd never ever forgive my family if my baby became ill. It would ruin relationships. So I'm not going to risk it until things get better.

Don't let people make you feel bad for saying no to touching now. We've waited nine months for these bundles of joy. We protect them with everything 🥰

I genuinely get this so much! I had a conversation with my mum the other day about this, my first is due in July also and it's my mum's first grandchild. She is classed as vunerable at the moment she sees no issue with when he's born that she will be able to hug him, even though I've stated how unhappy I am with this. She seems to think that because she has bought a lot of baby stuff that gives her the 'right' to have cuddles.
Im just dreading when he is here because she's rather over powering and I think she will do everything she can in order to hug him. X

I'm due in 2 weeks and no-one other than DH and I will be holding our baby for the foreseeable. I feel bad for my parents as this will be their first grandchild and they are so excited, however, I'm not comfortable with breaking the social distancing advice.

We will take him round to their garden so that they can see him (at a socially acceptable distance) but that's as close as anyone will get until things settle down a bit more.

My baby is 7 weeks old and no one from our family has held her. It's my parents first grandchild and they have been making me feel guilty about not letting them, making remarks that "X let's her parents hold her baby" and "we've been round to X's house and held her grandchild". I was considering letting them hold her soon but they have made it clear they dont care about the lockdown rules any more and arent even making an effort to stay 2m away from people so I dont want to risk it. It makes me so annoyed