My cousin lost her first pregnancy about 18 months ago at 37 weeks gestation- still birth, no medical cause was ever found. Even though she lives abroad, when it happened, I tried as much to comfort her over the phone, etc. We don't talk often, but keep in touch via messages and when we do talk we "catch up".
Yesterday, I posted a quote on my WhatsApp status - and she replied with a love emoji. After telling her the quote reminded me of her , she said "by the way we lost another pregnancy in January at 6 months gestation-hypoplastic right ventricle". I suspected she was pregnant but was really hoping for a rainbow baby & didn't want to ask until she dropped this news. I replied with some messages of condolence.
The thing is, I'm 33 weeks pregnant with twins (will be my 3rd and 4th baby) and not sure if to tell her or what to say. I didn't tell her up untill now as it really has been a difficult pregnancy and other than those that are close by, no one knows I'm expecting and those that do know don't know it's twins. I know she will be happy for me, and there is no way to actually hide the birth from her as we have a massive extended family where news of births/marriage are shared widely.
Is there ever going to be a "good time" or a good way to tell her? How to proceed please.