Dinner at in laws

[Shanlou12]

So I’m 10+3 weeks my I laws who haven’t seen my other daughter for weeks have invited us for a socially distanced roast dinner (ate outside all 2m apart) but I’m worrying now should we be using their plates knives forks and they’ve cooked the food thought please

How old is your other child? Will she be able to socially distance. I would only worry about their cutlery if they were showing symptoms during the last 3 weeks. But if they had, you should not really be visiting.

@SiaPR my DD is almost 4!
And no they have shown no symptoms at all they have both been off work for the last 6 weeks and FIL only just gone back last week now ha another 2 weeks off

Cooked food I think is fine. I'd worry about cutlery /crockery but that could be me panicking. We are going to my in laws but I think I'm going to take my own drinks and not eat.

@pinkflamino561 yea I get panicky too I may cancel! They offered to cook it for us because Iv been craving one for weeeeeeks now but I will only buy my chicken from Asda (I have to have the cook in the bag ones I’m funny with touching chicken) and haven’t been able to get shopping delivered from Asda and the question is just too long so my in-laws offered to cook me one now I’m regretting saying we’ll go

It's up to you, but you have a long pregnancy ahead and social distancing is likely to be in place in some form all the way through.

I'm 34 weeks and we had PIL over for a BBQ last weekend. They brought their own plates and cutlery (I would've been happy for them to use ours), all the adults kept their distance down to sitting at different tables to eat but we did let two year old DD go where she wanted (agreed with them in advance).

It was brilliant. So nice to catch up with them.

@MindyStClaire did your DD cuddle and play etc with their grandparents?
This is why I get abit upset thinking about not seeing them for dinners and my daughter seeing them all the way through but I don’t want to put myself or DD at risk hard to know what to do

we did let two year old DD go where she wanted what was the point in separate tables and bringing your own cutlery if she was going between you? I am not judging because I probably would have done the same, just thinking that a fork is far less risk than a two year old.

Just mentioned on another thread, but in Scotland we have been advised to take our own cutlery etc.

I wouldn’t be using anyone else’s but then I don’t intend to spend long with anyone if anyone does meet with me!

I completely agree SiaPR, I wouldn't have had a problem with them using our stuff. I think MIL was worried about giving it to me, even though we've all been sticking to guidelines and they'd be higher risk than us.

DD isn't usually one for sitting in laps or cuddles and kisses, although she did hug them goodbye (again, with our blessing). Mostly she was just running around making them follow her.

It was a risk, obviously, but she hasn't been anywhere other than out for a walk in months.

I think everyone has to decide their own risk tolerance.

I don’t want to put myself or DD at risk hard to know what to do

What age are they? Because the risk is probably far higher to them than to you or your DD. You should read the RCOG guidelines, they're very reassuring that the risk to pregnant women is very low, especially before the third trimester.

@MindyStClaire they are 51 and 55!
Yea you are probably right! But I worry about myself too as I am not like massive but I am over weight and have read all sort of horror stories about it!

Ah sure they're young then! Honestly sounds like you're all pretty low risk.

But just cos I'd do it doesn't mean you should, it's perfectly understandable to prefer not to. Like I say, you have a long pregnancy ahead. Read the RCOG guidelines and mull it over.

Thanks @MindyStClaire I will have a read

Gosh this wouldn’t have entered my mind. Maybe it should have.
I used a salt shaker when buying some chips today, dh said have you got hand sanitiser and I agreed I should use some as I’d touched money, he reminded me that I’d also touched the salt. I never even thought of it.

@Lavanderpurple haha everyone is different I’m allways slightly more cautious over EVERYTHING anyway where as my partner is the complete opposite I’m constantly reminding him haha this isn’t a normal situation you would normally even thing of using sanitiser after putting some salt on your chips it’s mad!

I also have OCD so Iv always been a worrier of germs it gets tiring haha