Scan at 10am...bricking it

[Maidmummy]

Let me just start out by saying this is my 4th baby so you would think I'm an old pro at scans and stuff by now but I'm really not I'm an anxious trembling mess, I'm having a private scan done and all I have are thoughts that something's gone wrong or my dates are way off.

My MW has me at 8w5d today but if I go by my regular cycle I'm 8w1d but I know I ovulated later than normal and I'm probably more 7w2d. When I made the appointment the lady on the phone was like "oh we need you to be 7 weeks at the earliest otherwise we won't find baby" which I know is a load of bull as when I had a scan with DS1 my dates were off and he measured 5w5d and they found him looking like a little peanut with a flickering heartbeat so I know they can find them earlier. Doesn't help when symptoms keep hitting and missing, oh my God how do I calm these nerves I'm shaking just writing this contemplating whether to go or not 😔 on a cheerier note I'm having a ball winding DP up that it's twins 😂 he says he's gonna cry if it is 😂 x

Definitely go! Won't make you feel any better just prolonging it! Good luck. Hopefully 10am comes around quickly for you! I am the same. Never sleep the night before scans!

Aww OP. It’s an anxious time!

Why would you not go? If you didn’t go then surely you would feel worse?

The not going is my weird thought that if I don't go then I won't know if something's wrong a bit like "what you don't know can't hurt you" IYKWIM but I know deep down I need to go, doesn't help that they have shut the waiting room off, I have to be there dead on 10am no earlier no later and it's straight in to the scanning room so I don't even get the 5-10 mins waiting time to try and mentally prepare myself for the possible worst 😔

It’s not weird, it’s self preservation! I had a private scan in similar circumstances a couple of weeks ago and actually found it far more efficient! Was collected from the car, straight in and straight out.

you don’t need time to prepare yourself for the worst. thoughts are not facts OP!

Just get there early and wait in car for a bit! Then head in when you feel ready. You've got this!

I always found scans horribly nerve wracking too. You've booked this scan now so go for it, you have no reason not to and chances are you're going to feel great afterwards! You will come back and tell us how it went won't you?

I was so nervous for our first scan for same reasons as you and everything was fine. It is rare to get bad news at a scan but as bad news is more traumatic you hear about it a lot more on here than you do people having successful scans. Good luck and post a picture when your done ☺️

How was it?

Thank you for your messages seems I had nothing to worry about, baby is measuring 7w5d and looks like a "giant jelly baby" as the sonographer put it lol, all's looking well with a strong heartbeat of 170bpm, feeling a lot more calm and relaxed now x

Yay! Congratulations! Time to relax and enjoy it now 🥰