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Finding the first trimester so tedious

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december2020 · 26/05/2020 18:59

Don't get me wrong, I'm thrilled to be pregnant and the baby is very much wanted, just need to vent.

I'm so bored of the first trimester (10 weeks currently and it's my first pregnancy).

I feel like I'm just plodding along week by week with waves of fatigue and nausea while trying to keep focussed while working from home and keeping the pregnancy news quiet (we've decided only to tell close family and friends after the 12 week scan, assuming good news). Then there is the worry and hope that everything will be ok at the 12 week scan.

I'm a bit apprehensive to buy any items this early on, no pregnancy glow yet (but having some great speedy leg and armpit hair growth going on and some new spots) and to add salt in the wounds, no cold glass of wine or g&t in the garden on a hot summers day.

I can't wait for the second trimester to arrive!

Is it just me?

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lockdownpregnancy · 26/05/2020 19:04

Hi OP! I blinked and missed my first trimester. Currently 22 weeks and I had the realisation that I still have 18 weeks left 😫😫 so I know how you feel!
Keeping the news to yourself is probably the hardest as you can't openly talk about it.
I didn't buy anything until after my 12 week scan either, as I wanted to make sure all was well before I did.
I also waited until after my 20 week scan to buy baby clothes, as we found out what we are having.
You'll be wanting the first trimester back when you can still fit into your skinny jeans soon enough! 😂
I don't think lockdown and working from home helps either!
Just try and enjoy it the best you can 🥰

Foreverbaffled · 26/05/2020 19:23

12 weeks here and feel your pain! It’s tedious, physically draining (not to mention the sickness) and all with the worry of the 12 week scan hanging over you. Mine is next week and it can’t come soon enough.

This is my second baby. I promise the second trimester is easier.. almost enjoyable :) Good luck and congratulations!

xxxemzyxxx · 26/05/2020 19:55

Yes, 1st trimester is very tedious! I was exhausted and sick all the way until week 14. It’s harder when you are keeping it secret as well. I felt like it took forever to get to 2nd trimester..

Once I started to feel better at week 15, people started saying I was glowing.

Even now (week 21) I haven’t really brought much, just a blanket and some nappies and wipes. I am getting a few larger items from friends and family, and they were waiting to find out the sex before buying clothes and bits, so I’m waiting to see what I’ll get from them first.

We have however just cleared out the room we are turning into the nursery, so will be decorating that soon!

Don’t worry OP, you will get there!

MsChatterbox · 26/05/2020 19:57

I think first trimester is the worst one. Second is great, especially when movements start. Third is uncomfortable and impatient. I did start buying stuff in the first trimester for both pregnancies. Just one little thing a week with the weekly shop. Made it more exciting!

TrulyMiss · 26/05/2020 20:18

I feel your pain, especially this week. Really finding it difficult to work when I’m so tired all the time. Plus today brought lots of tears over silly thing. And I agree about missing a nice drink on a warm day!
Had early scans and all fine but you still worry... have another on Friday (will be 11+4) so happy enough to tell people after that and hoping I’ll feel mire energetic soon. Hang in there!

Colouringinbook · 26/05/2020 20:29

Time is different when you're pregnant! We've not told anyone and then my scan was moved back a week so it's taking even longer! I'm obviously preggo now too so thank god for the lockdown!

Third trimester is the worst IMO, time slows down again, you're uncomfortable, people will either tell you that you've still got ages to go or that baby will be here soon, you can't go more than 45 minutes without needing a wee, the unsolicited parenting advice, the unsolicited birth advice. Urgh.

Teacaketotty · 26/05/2020 20:31

The first trimester is the worst! It dragged and dragged for me - once it was over I enjoyed the rest of my pregnancy for the most part! I just felt fat but nobody knew I was expecting and felt sick all the time.

december2020 · 26/05/2020 21:00

Thank god it's not just me!

Ha! @lockdownpregnancy you're probably right! Come the third trimester and post birth, I'll probably be mourning my skinny jeans from the first trimester!!

@Foreverbaffled my scan is next week too! Though would only be 11 weeks I think. Soooo close to the second trimester now

@xxxemzyxxx you're totally right! Once i get to be open about it and pass the "first hurdle" with the scan it'll get a lot better! Aaah how exciting on the nursery planning

@MsChatterbox it's like a shit sandwich in reverse! 😂 two crappy trimester sandwiching a glory one!

@TrulyMiss yes! We're close now to that golden trimester! I wish non alcoholic wine actually tasted nice. Meh!

@Colouringinbook you're so right! Time is totally warped when pregnant! Can't believe how slow it feels right now! At least there is a bit of good being able to work from home in the first trimester and hide from the world

@Teacaketotty that's what I'm hoping! Come the second trimester, I'll be enjoying it and feeling a bit more "me" instead of Gollum in my cave hiding from everyone trying to keep my mouth shut 😂😬

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toomuchteaandcake · 26/05/2020 21:17

I'm 35 weeks now and to be honest I've been surprised at how tedious pregnancy is! Don't get me wrong there are the moments of absolute joy and elation but they are few and far between all the waiting, restrictions and boredom. I think if you haven't done it before or maybe if you haven't had anyone close go through it you have this idea that it's all action and it's really really not! Now that I'm getting to the end I can say, awww I'll be sad to not be pregnant anymore, I love feeling the kicks and the closeness we share and I love my bump, but the tedium is something I will def not miss Smile

ZaraLouise7281 · 27/05/2020 00:28

I’m the exact same! I’ve had enough & it’s not even started yet 😂 but I’m sure it’s really lockdown frustration making days crawl in. I too am working from home and if that wasn’t draining enough I’m about 7 weeks and as pleased and grateful as I am I just feel HUGE. My mum & mother in law laugh and tell me it gets oh so much worse but honestly I feel like a water balloon walking about with no energy and motivation and fed up too.
I attempted to get out in the car for 30 mins yesterday for a change in scenery & fell asleep in the passenger side, there’s no winning 😂🙈. Can’t wait for the bump showing days where I can explain to everyone I’m not just a moody draining life sucking vampire who wants to sleep all day!

UrsulaSings · 27/05/2020 00:55

First trimester went super slow. Now 25 weeks and cant believe I'm nearly in 3rd trimester. Feels like I only just had the 12 week scan!

december2020 · 27/05/2020 07:36

Yes!! Not only is there the awful first trimester boredom and keeping everything to yourself, it's amplified with all the things you can't do anymore, no booze, no stinky cheeses, no rare meats (the list goes on).

And the fact I'm so bloated and starting to get thicker... I look practically like a circle (like one of those scrub daddy sponges)) 😂

I know I'll miss it all once it's done and the baby is here and remember only the good things, but right now, get me out of the first trimester!! 😂

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Birdy1991 · 27/05/2020 07:40

I feel you but also the 3rd sucks more just to let you know 😫💞 x

Pegase · 27/05/2020 07:41

Yup also third and it sucks too. For me not more than the first as I get terrible morning sickness just differently to the first. I find the whole thing tedious to be honest - world's longest period of clock watching

Teacaketotty · 27/05/2020 08:10

Just to put some other perspective on it, I really enjoyed the 2nd and 3rd trimesters so everyone is different. You may not find it so bad!

Carabu1 · 27/05/2020 08:19

@december2020 I hear you! I’m 9 weeks now and it feels about 100 years....! Like you not telling anyone til the 12 week scan, so am counting the days til that (less than 4 weeks now...which still feels like forever!). I do also think it’s lockdown though - all the generic advice online is about ‘keeping busy’, ‘see friends’ but obvs all that is off the table. I feel so fat, from being hungry and reducing exercise intensity. And yes I could murder a g&t! But if I have a healthy baby at the end it will be worth every mind numbing minute!!

december2020 · 27/05/2020 17:10

Oh god! Don't tell me the third one is even worse! 😂

Basically we should just have 3 trimesters but all of them like the second, we need to evolve!

The hunger has started! I'm going to end up looking like a ball when we finally stop working from home and have to go to the office! They haven't seen me since early March, and I think the earliest we'll be back is once I'm in the second trimester (if not half way through it) 😂.

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