Mother in law

[Cheryl418]

Feel like I'm going mad I've never really had a close relationship with my mother in law so much that recently there was a big falling out between my partner and her I am now 13 weeks and am trying so hard to include her in the pregnancy as we both promised to make more of an effort but feel I'm getting nothing back!

Everything is fine when I'm over in her house with my partner but I've been sending her scan photos and asking her questions about pregnancy and how to prepare and I get a generic message back then she just continues to read my messages and ignore me 😬 I dont know how else I can try and make a relationship between us so when baby does come they aren't affected by it!

I would say you dont need to be friends with your MIL. If it's all good when DP is around just be nice when you see her.
Alot of tips and ideas on babies have changed alot since our generation was born so she may not know / remember what you want to know.
I would say making more of an effort might be sending a scan photo or when baba is born sending through some photos a couple of times a week. We have a what's app group with aunties and grandparents ( and of course me and DP) where we put photos of the baby so they all feel included perhaps something along the lines of that might work so your less reliant on 1:1 conversation and she can respond if she wants.

My 1st thought is, she doesn't care. Find out if she wants a close relationship with you. (I say that bc of the fall out with her son. Yeah, you may want to rethink wanting a close relationship with her....)

Go ahead and find out 1st.
If she does, great! Go shopping for baby clothes and eat out for lunch! 13 wks, you can buy unisex outfits! (baby clothes shopping is sooo much fun!!)
If she doesn't want anything to do with you, let her be. If you dont let her be, after knowing she is not intrested in you, you will add unto yourself TONS OF TROUBLE/STRESS. (Not 2 forget what their brawl was about......)
Its about you, your husband, and this sweet bundle you are growing. Enjoy every moment bc time goes by so fast. Keep a journal, and stay positive. Good Luck to you both!!

If it was me I'd stop sending her anything

Honestly, just leave her alone. Before you know it everybody will be giving you advice and telling you that you're doing it all wrong. Someone keeping their mouth shut will be a blessing.

I do understand though how you feel though. How could anybody not be interested in their Grandchild?