Constant worrying following bleeding

[gettingupearlyzzzz]

Hello lovely lot!
Having a really tough pregnancy and just looking for some words of wisdom or positivity to get me through it! This is my second pregnancy (DC at home, normal pregnancy), and was all fine until 14 weeks when I had a big bleed. I totally thought I was miscarrying and had to wait 24 hours until I could see anyone....awful in itself! Baby was thankfully all fine and bleeding subsided! Since then (3 weeks ago) I have had continual brown blood, sometimes not much and sometimes more. Sometimes with large stringy bits (sorry TMI) and now the blood as changed colour, still brown but much lighter and more of it. Makes me think the bleeding has started again.
It's Sunday so no one really to talk to about it but worried sick. My MWife said call any time, so I will later on, but I know what she'll say, only worry if it's red. I'm worried it's going to turn red now.
No one seems to want to sit down and have a conversation about it, EPU discharged and said speak to MW, and although she's sweet she doesn't seem that bothered. It's like I just need to suck it up and hope it doesn't happen again!

I have booked a private scan before my 20 week for reassurance but they won't do anything else but scan, I really want someone to actually examine me to determine where it's coming from (they didn't know last time!)
Also been reading horror stories of how COVID impacts negatively on the placenta and I had COVID Symptoms about 5 weeks ago!

Thank you for reading the essay! Any ideas lovelies? Feeling super down in the dumps and not sure how to get through the coming weeks and months!

I've had constant blood in my pregnancy (30 weeks now, first baby). It's got to the point where I've said to my midwife "I think it's normal for me". It varies from being red/small clots to brown/pink and mixed with discharge.

I ended up being sent from my midwife to the hospital who did a scan (low lying placenta) and took a few swabs to see if there's an infection that could be irritating my cervix - I've just had a text from the hospital asking me to go pick a prescription up so I'm presuming it's something like BV..

My blood has never been heavy really, when I got for a wee it's there in wiping (usually in the morning) and id day 5/7 days of the week, sex doesn't make it better or worse. It's strange, but I'm hoping we've found the answer now!

Thank you for your reply @Babyshine2020, I really hope that it's something like that.
The blood has turned red again and I have some cramping
I am at my wits end and the EPU don't seem interested because if 'I'm having a miscarriage there's nothing they can do'!
18 weeks on Wednesday and feel very scared and worried x

My mum had bleeding with me, but, well, it turned out ok! Loads of luck OP.

So sorry that you are going through this. Also sorry that EPU weren’t more helpful. If it’s red blood I think the nhs website does suggest you should speak to someone about it so I would be looking to go into EPU to see someone even if just for some reassurance or guidance. I’m really surprised by their response. I had bleeding (bright red) last week for the first time at 14wks & my mum is a nurse and said to call a&e who told me to come in (before 20 weeks you have to be seen by them and not EPU at first). I had to wait for a couple of hours but then got seen by EPU who got the Doppler out and checked and there was still a heartbeat. That night it went brown and stringy so I went back to EPU (they said call at any time once you have been seen once) and doctor got Doppler out and heartbeat was still there. They said I only need to call or come back in if it is bright red blood again at which point they would check for the heartbeat with a Doppler. Do not be shy about calling them up, if you are in pain and have red blood I would call them even and say you are worried and would be grateful if you could pop in to be seen given that it’s red blood. Even if they can just given you some reassurance. Really hope you are ok and sorry that you are going through this x

Just checked the Tommy’s site and yes, after 12 weeks for bleeding the advice is to go to local A&E or contact your local pregnancy unit to arrange to be checked. So I would give them a call or head in. And I know easier said than done but try to keep as relaxed as possible and think about breathing slowly to keep calm as stress is unhelpful (again sorry this is what my mother suggested I do so I sat in A&E doing breathing exercises which is good to keep calm). Good luck!

Thank you for your response @Peaches2020, I'm
Sorry that you've had to go throu similar issues, but I am so glad you're ok, did they say what it was?
Last time it happened to me (also 14 wks) I went to A&E and got referred for the EPU the next day. I spoke to them on the phone earlier and they basically said nothing can be done until Tuesday and unless I'm gushing blood to sit it out as
Nothing could done for the baby anyway. So it's a horrible waiting game until Tuesday when I can call the docs and get referred or it gets a lot worse and I go to A&E. either way it's a horrible situation....bleeding for anyone in pregnancy is just so horrific!
I've just got to hope it'll be ok. I like your idea of breathing and trying to stay calm, I think I need to try more of this to try and get throu it all! Thank you again x

I had a big bleed at 14 weeks followed by 2 other smaller red bleeds, then brown bleeding with back ache on and off for 2 weeks. Now 22 weeks with a healthy baby. It is awful to sit through it especially at the moment but what I would say is try to be positive, to relax and take it easy. I know it’s easier said than done. And do call your maternity assessment if anything changes, you are not an inconvenience about stuff like this. Massive hand hold and we are all here for you X

That’s encouraging @coffeeorwine!
@gettingupearlyzzzz - EPU just told me it was fairly common to bleed and they said it’s probably caused by everything just moving and stretching into place “down there”. Apparently nothing we did that caused it or could have done to avoid it, but just to “take it easy” when it happens, keep calm and avoid heavily lifting is all they said. And to rest but still move around a bit (ie not total bed rest!). Hope you can go in earlyish tomorrow and get the answers you need. Really feel for you as I was very worried when it happened to me last week but hopefully all will settle down x