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Help me not be a scared wimp

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JKD1982 · 23/05/2020 19:11

Hi ladies
37 weeks pregnant today and it’s all just got a bit much. Like everyone else have been in lockdown and not seen family or friends for 11 weeks. Luckily husband is being amazingly supportive.

I am nervous for going into labour, I have a c section booked for 5 June but I don’t know what to do if he decides to come early. I really want our baby born healthily but just feeling so overwhelmed about it all. Pregnancy is so long and a newborn sounds so challenging. I want to be a mum more than anything but I am just feeling really anxious and overwhelmed about it all.
I think if life was “normal” we would be too distracted to over think, just even if we could go out for pub lunch, or pop to the shops or visit friends and family. But all the time to think and wait is making me more and more nervous.

Anyone else feel the same? Any advice? I am sure that he will be delivered healthily and the c section will be ok. Just feel nervous

Thanks

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mylittlesandwich · 26/05/2020 22:13

Don't be sorry! I hated being pregnant haha, moan away.

Increased movements isn't generally a concern but if you're worried give your midwife team a call, they're the experts and will have all the right information to put you at ease about your movements.

First babies are often late so there's a good chance you won't go into labour before your section date. Even if you do you can still have your section and it's not a traditional "emergency" with a distressed baby etc. In some ways it's nice that your baby got to pick their birthday.

I have no comparison but my c-section was lovely. Would it help if I gave you a breakdown of what my day was like?

mylittlesandwich · 26/05/2020 22:15

Also I'll add that anxiety can make you nauseous so that may well be why you feel like that. Recently I was so anxious I was actually sick.

JKD1982 · 26/05/2020 22:16

@mylittlesandwich yes please can you? I’m so so nervous. I don’t mind needles and not too squeamish or worried about pain I am petrified of vomiting and panic when I feel nauseous and especially thought of lying flat on my back (for some reason my head raised makes me less worried about feeling I’ll vomit) and having no feeling in my legs.

Please what was your experience like? X

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ThisIsHappening · 26/05/2020 22:50

@JKD1982 believe it or not, I have exactly the same fears as you. I feel totally freaked out at the thought of not being able to feel or move my legs. I'm worried that the numb feeling will come up too high and I'll panic cause I can't feel myself breathing (I depend on breathing techniques a lot to keep my anxiety in check and manage panic attacks).

I also HATE feeling sick, it gives me the fear! Apparently it's really common to feel nauseous due to the drop in blood pressure from the anaesthetic but if you mention it to the anaesthetist as soon as you feel it, they add an antiemetic to your IV and you feel better instantly 👌

I just keep reminding myself that even if I do panic, I won't be in any physical danger. And even if I was (which won't be), I'm in the best place, surrounded by the best people to help me. I find that really reassuring x

mylittlesandwich · 26/05/2020 22:51

This might be long.

We arrived at the hospital at 7am and waited with the other people who were booked in that day. When the wee ward was ready for us they took us round. They did a pre-op blood test first thing and because I hadn't completed my consent form I did that too. Then the anaesthesiologist came round to each of us too to tell us what the spinal would be like and how they would place it, she was the same person that placed my cannula. I have bad veins and she managed easily. They then went away and chose an order for us, I was first.

There was a slight delay while they waited for a possible emergency but we were sat quite happily chatting away to the other mums, one of which I'm good friends with now. They gave me my gown and left me to get changed.

I went down to theatre around 9:30. I walked down, well hobbled, I had PGP. DH stayed on the ward and was given scrubs to change into. They placed my spinal which was the least pleasant part of the experience as I'm quite overweight and obviously they have to be sure they're putting it in the right place. Once it's in the feeling doesn't all go at once. I lay down on the bed and they made sure I was hooked up to all the right things. The person you speak to most is the anaesthesiologist. They put up the wee curtain at this point and started to check that the spinal was working properly. To do this they spray a really cold spray on you and you tell them when you feel it cold. You can kind of feel that something is happening but you don't feel it cold, by the time I could feel it cold it was around my bust.

DH was then allowed in and came and sat up by my right side. The anaesthesiologist told me to tell her if I felt queasy and she could administer anti nausea medication through the cannula but I didn't feel sick at all. I was a little nervous before they started but once it was underway and I knew it didn't hurt I was fine.

They'd only been operating for 10/15 mins when DS was born. You feel pressure of people moving you around and DS was a big boy (10lbs 10oz) so they had to pull a bit to get him out. He was born at 10:02. They took him over, put a nappy on him and a hat and wrapped him in a blanket. He was placed on my chest and they did all that they needed to do which I assume was deliver the placenta and close me up but I wasn't paying attention. DS was on me and wiggling about and I just stared at him. Once they were done they took DS and popped him into his cot. They moved me over from the operating table to my bed and gave DS back to me and wheeled us through to recovery which was the same room we came from.

We had some time just drinking him in then the midwife cane back to measure and weight DS. I had a blood pressure cuff that took regular readings and bleeped like a bastard if it was low. I also had a drip of fluids and a catheter that was placed in surgery so I couldn't move too far but the midwives were a great help if I needed anything at all. They helped me get DS to latch as I was trying to breastfeed.

I got the feeling back into my legs quite quickly and could lift them myself before lunch.

We stayed in recovery for most of the day just looking at him and DH took loads of pictures. They had a space for me in postnatal at about 4:30 so I was up in time for dinner. They wheeled me there in my bed while a midwife wheeled DS in his cot.

They took out my catheter at about 5. And if I hadn't had my mum visiting I'd have been up then, I got up after she left and had a shower. Remember not to lock the door because if you need help they have to be able to get in to you.

When I was up it was a funny feeling but not one I'd call sore, just uncomfortable. They were pretty good with painkillers, I took paracetamol and ibuprofen regularly for about 2/3 weeks. They gave me some dihydracodiene to take as required, I'm sure I still have some kicking about upstairs.

The only issue I ran into was my blood pressure was a bit low so I had to be careful not to over do it, i felt fine after a couple of days. I lost a bit of blood so needed iron supplements which they gave me.

Once the catheter was removed I struggled to pee the next morning, I went to a quiet loo and was able to relax properly while a midwife watched DS and by lunch time the day after I felt much better. I would have been home that day but I was trying to breastfeed and I needed some extra help but that's a whole other story.

C-sections can delay your milk coming in, mine took 5 days which nobody told me about in advance.

Sorry that was an essay.

schafernaker · 26/05/2020 23:23

I’m with you! 37 weeks today and section booked for Thursday 🙈 it’s normal to be anxious apparently!

mouse1234567 · 27/05/2020 07:49

@JKD1982 hope you are getting on ok. My nerves are up and down. One minute I want him here now and then others times I’m really scared about being a mum and don’t feel quite ready!! I too am scared of vomiting -but in previous operations I have had I have felt or been sick but you just tell them and they pump you full of anti nausea so it sorts it. Also this sounds a bit wierd -but you are sort of high from the drugs so feeling nauseous doesn’t worry you as much as usual -a bit like if you vomit when you are drunk it’s very different to if you are sober! You are just more chilled and unaware! If I need a c section I’m planning on telling them I might need lots of anti nausea stuff.

JKD1982 · 27/05/2020 08:49

Thank you so much everyone for your support. I really appreciate it.

@mylittlesandwich really useful to hear what happens so at least I know what to expect. Thank you.

He was kicking and moving so much last night I thought it might be contractions. The pressure on my pelvis was so intense. These last few days I think are going to be challenging. Maybe it will help make me mentally excited and prepare for his arrival

Thanks so much ladies you are all so kind and supportive xx

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ThisIsHappening · 27/05/2020 12:07

@schafernaker best of luck for your section tomorrow! When you feel up to it, come back and let us know how you got on. It'd be good to hear your experience x

Pixiefringe · 27/05/2020 12:21

Can I ask how you all went about booking a c section? I never intended to have one because my first was a natural spontaneous birth and I was happy with that. But this time round I have developed an autoimmune disease and some other health/physical problems have arisen from that so I've been wanting more info on a c section. At my 28 week midwife appointment I told her concerns and she asked if I'd like a phone call from someone about it, I said yes, and nothing has come of that. Mentioned desire for a c section to a second midwife who completely skipped over it and just told me to ask my consultant. I wont see my consultant again until I an 2 days away from 37 weeks! What ambition supposed to do? Given my new health condition a natural birth could actually cause a lot more problems for me long term, but no one seems to be interested in giving me information or booking a c section for me! I've been getting very cross and anxious about it and dont know what to do. I'm 34 weeks tomorrow.

mylittlesandwich · 27/05/2020 12:28

@Pixiefringe I was about 37/38 weeks when my c-section was booked in but it varies from area to area. Nag your midwife to let you know what the process is in your area. With me I spoke to a consultant who agreed and booked me in there and then.

JKD1982 · 27/05/2020 12:44

@schafernaker good luck for tomorrow. Please do keep us posted and enjoy meeting your new arrival!

@Pixiefringe I spoke to my consultant at 36 weeks to book it in. They were very supportive

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ThisIsHappening · 27/05/2020 14:46

@Pixiefringe I told my midwife at my booking appointment that I wanted a section. She made an appointment for me with a consultant for when I was 25 weeks. My request was granted at this birth choices meeting and I received my date at 36 weeks.

Your midwife doesn't have any say in whether or not you have a c section so, If I were you, I'd demand she make me an urgent appointment with the consultant (if you can't contact them yourself) to arrange a meeting to discuss your options x

schafernaker · 03/06/2020 06:25

Just under a week after my section and I’m feeling pretty good 😊 can happily Potter around the house and get bits and pieces done, obviously no heavy lifting.

Pain wise I was up within 8 hours of the surgery, the worst pain was the trapped wind which was a pain in my shoulder, worse than the wound! I could care for Dd through all of this though and was discharged within 24 hours of surgery.

I’ve only had the diclofenac suppository given during the surgery and since have kept on top of ibuprofen and paracetamol. This has been fine for me

PixieN · 07/06/2020 13:00

@schafernaker it sounds like you’ve had a really good experience. Thanks for sharing. My CS is still around 3 weeks away but I’m still feeling anxious so this is reassuring to read.

@JKD1982 Hope you got on o.k? Your little one should be here by now as I think you said yours was booked for the start of June. Hope all is well.

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