Getting annoyed at everyone!

[Saraj09876]

32 weeks now- Basically, I have had anxiety for years, but have stayed what I feel was relatively calm throughout this pregnancy so far up until last week when I had a bit of a flap over my scan photos looking weird- I was convinced there was something wrong with his face!
So I paid for a private scan, 5 mins up the road, out of my own money, all my partner had to do was drive me there and got to come in and see as well (which I thought would be nice anyway considering he hasn't been allowed to a scan since 12 weeks), all was fine, babies face okay as well and £59 for some reassurance for me was well worth it. (I knew I was being a bit silly but thought what is the harm?)
I think because of this when I'd felt reduced movements the last couple days, instantly I was dismissed as worrying over nothing again, by both partner and my mum.
So I waited a day with little to no movement, even when they did happen they were faint, trying not to cause a fuss but did mention 'can't really feel baby again today'-just to be ignored.
It got to 11pm the next day and Iv jumped in a bath desperately trying to encourage some movements but nothing and called the midwife, explained that I have felt baby but not in usual way, and she said to come in for monitor which came out fine.
Walked an hour to the hospital and back today because I didn't want to bother my partner when working from home to take me to the scan she had suggested the night before- the midwife said baby had turned around, hence why the movements felt different... so things WERE fine, but also I was right, his movements were different!
My mum has sent me Facebook messages saying I am just causing drama over nothing, and my partner has just said 'yeah well we just need to avoid any unnecessary trips to hospital' when Iv told him what my mum said.
Sat here thinking that I get where they are coming from, but if I lost this baby due to ignoring signs like that, nothing really changes for them, it would be on me.
Getting frustrated at getting brushed off as if my worries are invalid, both my mum and partner are good people but feel like I could bite their head off at the moment because they just don't get it.
Going to have to talk it out with them both tomorrow so this doesn't turn into a volcano but not sure how to approach it :/

That sounds really difficult OP. You should trust your own instincts and always call the midwife with reduced movements. Don't wait for their approval. All the best for the rest of your pregnancy.

Always trust your own instincts
As for the Facebook messages - I wouldn’t even reply to them. Only you, your midwife and medical professionals knows what’s best for you and your baby.

Are either your mum or your partner medical professionals who trained specifically in maternity?
Are either of them aiming to birth this baby themselves?
No?
Oh, okay... that makes you the expert in comparison.
Anxiety or no anxiety, you are the responsible adult for this child and they can either support your concerns or respect that you know best.
They sound like they're antagonizing your anxiety anyway.

It goes without saying that tou did the right thing. You shouldn't have had to walk to the hospital though, shame on your husband

I've had a few episodes of panic over reduced movements too (31 weeks) and I'd be mortified if my partner or mum basically told me to stop causing a fuss.

You did the right thing and if it happens again make sure you go in again. It is always better to be safe than sorry x