Wanting another baby but worried I’ll develop postnatal depression again.

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Morning!

Pretty much what the header says. Has anyone on here had postnatal depression and gone on to have more children? I can feel myself wanting a second child but am so anxious about it, not being able to cope with two etc. My son will be three in June so there’s likely to be a four year gap.

I read that there’s a 50% chance of you becoming unwell again so it’s very hit and miss. I really struggled during the newborn period and am fearful that I just won’t be able to manage.

Would love to hear your stories.

Thanks

Hi
I had pnd with my dd, she'll be 4 the same month this baby (if all is well) is due.
We always wanted another but I was scared about pnd again and I had HG too so that's partly why we held off a bit longer

I have a long history of mh though between Ed and depression/anxiety so I think that's a factor but I'm trying so hard to think of what went 'wrong' last time or attributed to pnd. I know it's not always brought on by something but in my mind, if I can make any changes to feel like I'm doing something then it doesn't feel as scary, if that makes any sense?

I'm 10 weeks tomorrow and mh is a bit poor at the mo due to the pregnancy dreams, lockdown and being so sick but I'm trying to take bump pictures, write a line or two in a diary and look back at dd baby pictures.

I know for me that issues with breastfeeding played a big part and a medical condition too so I'm on different medication this time and seeking very early advice and clarity on if I can nurse this time or to prepare myself mentally if I can't before the birth

I would also suggest talking to your husband, gp, friends or family who may support you.

It doesn't always happen twice and if you really want another baby then go through with your plans
Pnd is not your fault and having it once doesn't necessarily mean you will have it again, but if you do then you and your partner may know which signs to look for and get support a bit earlier
Your midwife will probably also keep a closer eye on your mood and offer support during your pregnancy which may help

All the best