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Terrified of MMC

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zscaler · 16/05/2020 11:20

Hi all,

I am approaching my 12 week scan (it’s just over 2 weeks away) and I am really anxious about the possibility of a MMC.

I’ve never really had very strong symptoms - some bad nausea at times, some food aversions and sensitive boobs, but I have found these fluctuate massively and some days I don’t feel any symptoms at all. I’m so worried that I will get to the 12 week scan and the baby will have died without me realising.

I have spoken to my midwife who has been reassuring, particularly since I have had no bleeding whatsoever and only very minor cramping, but I can’t shake the fear.

Has anyone else had similar minimal symptoms and it all be fine? And how likely is it that I’ve had a MMC with no bleeding or cramping at all?

Thanks so much in advance x

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Eskdale2004 · 16/05/2020 11:31

@zscaler I had what was classed as a MMC two years ago. However, I’d had 2 episodes of bleeding. One episode at 6-7 weeks, had a scan and all was fine. Explained the bleeding away as cervical ectropion. Had another bleed at 10 weeks and my symptoms had stopped dead around the 9 week mark. Had a scan at 10+3 and baby had stopped growing at 9+3. They classed it as a MMC and when I’m on forums I refer to it as a MMC for ease BUT I don’t actually think of it as a MMC as I did have signs.

I think the number of women who go to their 12 week scan with absolutely no idea anything is wrong (no bleeding etc) and get given bad news is very rare.

FWIW cramps are perfectly normal and I take them to be a sign of everything growing and stretching as it should be.

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Maybelatte · 16/05/2020 11:32

Probably not reassuring but I had no bleeding or cramping with my MMCs. With the second MMC I had two early scans showing a strong heartbeat but it had sadly stopped by the 12 week scan.

Having said that, I’ve also had two successful pregnancies with minimal symptoms. I think the only real symptom I had was the need to pee constantly but had no nausea or anything like that. Conversely, I did have every symptom going with my second MMC yet I still miscarried.

I know it’s a worrying time but the odds are in your favour, MMCs are quite rare.

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Jen493 · 16/05/2020 11:47

I had very mild symptoms like you described which seemed to basically dissappear by 9 weeks. I was anxious as well approaching my 12 week scan but everything was fine. I now have a healthy 4 month old 😊. Every pregnancy is different. I stopped 'feeling' pregnant about 9 weeks and didn't start feeling it again till around 20 weeks when I started feeling movement.

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Prettylittlelady · 16/05/2020 18:11

Hi @zscaler about 5/6 weeks ago I posted a very similar thread asking about how commune MMC were. I was approaching my 12 week scan and quite terrified. I had one episode of very very light spotting at 7 weeks and a scan has confirmed all was fine at thy point but I still couldn’t shake the fear. I had some symptoms but not severe/strong like you hear some people saying.
Anyway - I had the scan, all was fine, I was measuring one day ahead of what I thought and I felt so much better after knows my baby. I’m now 18+3 and my 20 week is approaching. I’m sure I’ll have the same anxieties again, I think it’s part of being a Mum!
I understand your anxieties. You’ll be fine. Sending a big hug xx

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Prettylittlelady · 16/05/2020 18:12

That should say how common!

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Pygmyseahorse · 16/05/2020 21:36

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Is it your first?

I have a dd and had losses before between 6-18 weeks but not a mmc

My scan is at the start of June and I'm so terrified of a mmc it's unreal. it's something so hard to shake isn't it?

I would try your best to take it one day at a time and take heart with whst your midwife said.. She said the same to me too

Nothing you do can change anything, have hope and think positively
Maybe try an essential oil diffuser, pregnancy yoga, walks, those soothing colouring books, baking etc. I have a few apps and like to see the progress day by day and that's really the only thing helping just now.. That no matter what you've progressed one more day

I hope your scan goes well

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zscaler · 17/05/2020 08:59

Thank you so much everyone, and I am so sorry for those of you who have had losses

This is my first and I’m naturally quite an anxious person, so I’ve struggled not to worry about everything! But it’s true that there’s no point in worrying and it won’t change anything.

Thank you for the responses and the reassurance, it’s so kind and has helped me feel better.

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Melbs6 · 17/05/2020 09:05

Your symptoms sound identical to the symptoms I had in my first trimester. Some nausea, sensitive boobs and food aversions. These would come and go and I’d also have some cramping, like mild period pains. I’m now 26 weeks and as far as I know he’s a very healthy baby in there.

I think MMCs are extremely rare. They are more common on MN because women often come on forums for help and advice. You wouldn’t create a post to say everything is fine, so it does make MMCs seem more common than they actually are.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and I’m sure your 12 week scan will be fine