Pregnant in lockdown and feeling low

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Hey guys, 23 weeks pregnant in lockdown and just feeling really down, I know I have lots to be grateful for but can't seem to shift the sadness. Anyone else feeling this way?

Yes I'm currently 34+6
Not exactly how i ever imagined my 1st pregnancy to go.
Midwife appointments on my on.
Attended a growth scan on my own yesterday & while i loved seeing my babygirl on the screen i wish my OH could have seen too.
Also looking like it may only be my partner in during labour, i wish my mam could be in there too.
Again i feel the same so so grateful but so low and sad too

Its my first pregnancy too, my husband wasn't allowed in for the anatomy scan and i haven't met my midwife in person yet. We keep joking that nobody will have seen me pregnant (I was 12 weeks when I started working from and staying home) but inside I just want to see my family/friends and have some normality before our lives change with baby here.

Sending you lots of hugs and best wishes for your last few weeks, I hope they change some rules over the next few weeks so your mum can be with you during labour xx

I feel the same. This is not how I thought it would be..

Going to appointments alone wearing a mask and gloves..
Midwife appointment's over the phone rather than F2F..
Not being able to go shopping for basic things like maternity bras or cute baby clothes to start feeling the feels..
And haven't seen my friends or family since week 6 which is the worst..I miss everyone so much and at this rate they won't see me pregnant at all

Yeah I’m 30 weeks today and struggling, I’ve only left the house to attend a couple of antenatal appointments in two months now. Feel like a prisoner. I’m not risking leaving until way after the baby is born so have at least another 3 months of this.

Me too didn’t bother me much at first but the last week it’s started to really get me down. Waited 7 years for this pregnancy and had ivf treatment and always dreamed what it would be like to be pregnant and go shopping with family and friends and enjoy buying for my baby. Sounds stupid but the little things really do matter. All that matters is that my baby is healthy and my friends and family stay safe, just bit depressing not seeing anyone and staying in but I guess everyone feels like that. I’m also worrying my mom won’t be their during labour as I wanted both my husband and mom.
Not due till October so hopefully things may change. Scans on my own are horrible too but I’ve had private in between.
I feel guilty moaning as I know so many women are waiting for fertility treatment and I can’t imagine how it feels having that put on hold going through all of this too. Just not how I imagined it would be at all, it’s also made me anxious x

I’m 15 weeks and struggling too, I’m just so teary at the minute. I’m just missing normality, work, seeing friends etc. I’m longing for routine - this last 8 weeks feels like the longest 8 weeks of my life, and I am unsure when/if I will actually go back to work (Im a secondary teacher). Being a FTM too, it’s so hard to go to appointments alone. I had a bleed at 8 weeks and my other half was literally told to leave me in A+E and go at sit in the car. Luckily after a scan (alone) the baby was fine. I also feel like I’m missing out on vital checks (for UTIs etc) as every appointment up to 28 weeks will be over the phone. Which is now just making me even more anxious. I have booked a private scan at 16/17 weeks so at least me and my partner can experience one together.
I literally long for a day when I can go baby shopping with my mum just to start me getting excited. At the minute I’m stuck in a limbo between not feeling pregnant and not sure if being pregnant during a pandemic is a good idea. Which I know is ridiculous as I’ve wanted children for a long time (and this baby was very much planned). I know I shouldn’t feel like I do as there are people in the world who are facing much worse scenarios at the minute, but it just sucks!

Feeling down as well... I'm 11+6 weeks in and also having asthma i'm pretty much chained to my small apartment. I feel like this virus and pregnancy joined their forces to ruin my life, taking everything i love away from me.

Worst part is I cannot even get into the spirit of becoming a mother; I don't "feel" the baby and connect with it. I cannot get excited. All i feel right now is anxiety.

@Rainbowafterthestorm @carlablack
It's really odd isn't it. I feel really anxious and overwhelmed. I don't think my husband understand's either. In bed feeling very teary.

Feel like I've picked the worst time ever

I'm the opposite. I'm sad about lockdown for other reasons (but that's a different thread) but pregnancy wise (currently 36 weeks) I've been able to work from home up until now, so lots of extra breaks without raised eyebrows, no driving an hour to and from work, no having to meet up with friends insisting on a baby shower, one last meet up before the madness, shopping trips etc.

Also when baby arrives I'm not going to feel that I must have the house perfect for unannounced guests and I get to have DP at home with me for longer (he is also working from home). The only sad part for me is that the grandparents are not going to be able to meet the baby until later on.

Also my first baby.

I'm the exact same, 23 weeks and feeling so low! Totally feel out of control and really not doing well with the lockdown.

Even just the little things as PPs have said, nobody seeing you pregnant and not being able to shop in person for baby clothes and baby anything! Always try and think what I'm grateful for but it's becoming more and more difficult.

Hugs to you all xx

I'm 30 weeks tomorrow with our first, long awaited baby, and really struggling emotionally too.
I've been working from home for what feels like a lifetime, and missing out on all the little things throughout pregnancy is having its toll!

Baby is healthy, and I am so so greatful and I am hoping for a safe delivery 💛

Trying to stay strong for this little one, but some days just feel like everything is too much.
Take care ladies, hopefully things will improve when our little ones are here 🥰

Feel like I've picked the worst time ever
@New2020 This is why I cried day and night in my early weeks. We're planning on having one child only and this is how it goes down? Life's not fair

Yes I totally feel you. I'm only 9 weeks pregnant but the sickness and exhaustion has been next level. I can't tell anyone yet, I can't visit friends and family when I'm feeling so rubbish, everything I eat or drink I throw back up again and I've pretty much been lying in my pyjamas trying not to vomit for weeks now. Is so depressing. I'm terrified of a MMC as I've had one before and it was found at my first scan so add that anxiety into it and I'm just really low. I didn't think I could feel so bad - I just hope I start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel soon and that we can start mixing with friends and family and the sickness and exhaustion eases. Lockdown has been awful

33 weeks here and exactly the same. I’m so down all the time and don’t feel excited at all. I’m angry and snappy and partner is working away which makes it worse.

I’m the same. On one hand I’m happy that I’m exhausted and can spend time resting at home. Plus my care and appointments doesn’t seem to have effected, and my hospital has been great.

But on the other hand, I’m alone, and lonely. Thought I could share my pregnancy with friends, family, and do things with them prior to giving birth. Speak about it, pick things out, go shopping. But instead I’ve been in “isolation” since 8 weeks. Now 17 weeks, and haven’t seen anyone other than medical proffesionals. Makes it not seem real.

If you think pregnancy during lockdown is bad, try mat leave whi h started for me on match 1st, with a toddler in tow. Sorry I should be more sympathetic, but hopefully by the time your babies turn up lockdown will be lifted or on the way to getting there. 🤞

Your not alone OP

26 weeks here, first pregnancy with baby girl due in August. Talked about starting a family for 2 years but waited for the 'perfect' timing to start trying for a baby. We worked our bums off to save our house deposit and got cracking as soon as we were ready to view places. We found our perfect starter home, put an offer in and then COVID happened. This was in Feb... it's now May and nothing has progressed because valuations can't be done, we're stuck in a house with DPs dad and sister who are up until 3am every night keeping us awake despite me being 7 months pregnant and still having to get up and function for a full days work on 3 hours sleep.

Not how we planned for things to go, hate going to appointments alone and scared of how things will look come August, but have to keep reminding myself that despite all the craziness going on right now, I have something amazing coming at the end of it and she keeps me going through all the stress.

Chin up, we're literally the first women ever to go through something like this and we're doing pretty well

I'm 35 weeks, but with 2nd (and last) baby. On the one hand, I feel a bit bad that this pregnancy seems so much less of an event than last time. On the other, it would probably feel like that anyway as after baby #1, it's only really you and close family who care. I'd be getting fewer midwife appointments anyway but it has been a bit shit - they just aren't as interested in questions, feels rushed every time. Have had crippling sciatica this time, and had a physio appointment over the phone. So pointless! We're supposed to be moving house as all this kicked off too, so I can't spend £ on private treatments or scans.

There are advantages though:

• not having to drive to work
• Not having to dress for work
• not having to constantly swig gaviscon at work, talk about pregnancy at work, pee at work etc
• perfect excuse to make DH do all dreaded food shopping
• having time after the birth to ourselves without in-laws descending practically before they'd sewn me up like last time! They are sweet, but a bit much
• spending more time with DH and toddler DD before the true newborn chaos happens. Potty training, done!

My heart goes out to you ladies who are FTMs though. Pregnancy is a wonderful time, but it also lasts seemingly forever and most women are emotionally up and down at the best of times. You'll get to meet your gorgeous babies soon, and then it will all be worth it. Good luck everyone! [Flowers]

Yes I feel absolutely rubbish about it. This is my second pregnancy so i keep comparing it to my first, no lockdown, baby shopping my happy days away and eating out with friends/family. This is another world completely :(

I feel you. 38 weeks and a FTM. I feel like I've grieved the loss of a normal first pregnancy. All the plans are out the window. Some of its a blessing, some of its a curse. I think it's ok to feel sad about it. You can postpone a wedding, a birthday party, but you can't postpone birthing your first child so it's ok to feel down.

I've found friends don't really get it either so I've stopped talking about how it makes me feel.

Hi I'm week 34+3 and I've been feeling so low for a week... anyone else who feel that way... is it normal or im getting depressed?
Don't want to meet with friends im not motivated to do anything at all and im not feeling exited about anything:(

I found out I was pregnant 2 days into lockdown. And I thought, "Oh well, at least all this will be over by the time baby gets here!"

Don't look to me for fortune telling skills!

It's been rubbish though. I have this irrational anger towards some of my friends, who seem to have just completely forgotten I'm having a baby in 5 weeks' time. But the thing is, they can't see my bump and they haven't seen me face to face since March - or maybe they've seen me briefly once or twice in the garden (we're in Wales where rules about meeting have been stricter all through). So it's not surprising if my baby isn't front and centre of their thoughts!

Hello all. I know this thread hasn’t been active in a while but thought I’d post just in case anyone is still there. How are you all feeling? I’m almost 35 weeks pregnant with DC2 and feeling low. It’s been a stressful pregnancy as the 20 week scan detected some brain abnormality so have had to have lots of consultant scans (some alone due to covid). Our last appointment was very positive and I know I should be thankful for that but I still feel very down.

I miss seeing my friends and family properly. I am a very sociable person and this just doesn’t feel like a natural way to live. My 2 year old is going to have to stop nursery until baby is born as they keep having covid cases there which means he now won’t see any other children really either. Keeping him entertained at home all the time is hard/ impossible but the only option is freezing cold walks outside.

I don’t even physically go to work now as I’m a teacher. To be honest, the thought of having a newborn and toddler with no baby groups or ability to see friends and family is filling me with dread. I had PND with DS1 after a traumatic delivery and was so hoping that this time things would be better (planned section this time as a result). DH is working from home and will get paternity leave so again I know things could be worse and I should be thankful but it doesn’t change the way I feel.

I also tried to potty train DS1 recently (2.4 years) and it was a total disaster. His is literally the only one in his peer group who isn’t. HV who did he 2 year check (over the phone 😢) said it’s fine and to just leave it especially considering new sibling on its way but I just feel totally useless as a mother. Like I’m totally not cut out for this. Yet very soon there’ll be 2 to deal with (and as a result of the brain abnormalities DC2 may also have additional needs, we won’t know until they are born).

Sorry that was a bit of a stream of consciousness. Just needed to get it all out there. sad

@Mommaplaysthebanjo that sounds really tough and just want to say you are doing amazing. I am only in early pregnancy but can totally relate with feeling like I am not cut out for this when things don't go to plan.
But we are just tough on ourselves because we care and I am sure you are a lovely mum. Also, my first is 2.9 and not potty trained. Nursery aren't bothered and there are plenty like him. Boys are just slower. Everything will be OK x

Also, we don't know how the Covid situation will evolve but in any case by the time your LO is here we will be that little bit closer to spring and better weather will really help. I think we are going through the toughest bit now, hang in there. If you've managed this, you can manage anything!