Partner calling me lazy 37 weeks

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I'm 37 weeks, on crutches with pelvic pain. Today I found out baby is a breach& I've been booked in for an ecv monday. I understand the risks of emergency c-section ect.

It's 9.20pm, my partner has just started calling me lazy because I didn't want to walk up the shop. I pushed him with my arm, out of the way as he was blocking the door& I wanted to get my phone. He said " if you push me again I'll knock you out".

He told me about how I love the attention& that I'm going to call his dad/ my mum& make him out he's the bad guy. I don't know what to do, I'm so confused& scared about everything that's going on. He said some really nasty words. I'm in no way scared of him, I'm just fed up

Is he normally like this? Calling you lazy when you're 37 weeks and on crutches then threatening to 'knock you out' is not ok, OP. I'm not surprised you're fed up.

Does this happen often? That is very abusive behaviour and not acceptable ever, but especially in your condition! Xx

Gosh, I'm so sorry that you're going through this just a few days before the birth of your baby! You are literally about to have major surgery, he should allow you to make the most of some rest! Unacceptable behaviour whether he meant the words or not. Are your family local? I hope you're okay OP xx

@sel2223 No he isn't normally like this

@Birdy1991 he's never normally like this- he's probably stressed but it isn't an excuse xx

Is this the first time he has ever been like this with you?

I'd not stay in a home with someone who had threatened to knock me out. Can you go to your family?

First time or not can you go and stay with someone where you're safe, fuck cv rules?

How old is he? It's a very immature comment. He needs to get a grip.

I'm going to be going to my mums house. They have been strict on the coronavirus guidelines& I have to. I'm sure there's a section for cooling down an argument to.

Hope all is well OP x

I know it may seem like just a flippant comment. But a decent person wouldn’t threaten to knock anyone out! no matter how stressed they are.
Once a baby is added into the equation you need to be a team. Work together even when you’re sleep deprived, and at your wits end.
I’d recommend you give the National domestic abuse team a call. They’ll be much better versed on these things.
Him saying that is a clear threat, and in my opinion is a massive warning sign. I’m glad you can go and stay with you parents and I hope you’re ok.
Take care xxx

That's terrible OP What a selfish pig he is!

I'm glad you are going to your parents. Will you be able to stay there after your baby is born? He doesn't sound like he would be very supportive or caring after you give birth especially if you need a c-section.

I hope your mum spoils you and you get some peace and rest.
Good luck for Monday

Good luck 💐

How old is he ? Was this a planned pregnancy ?

In all honesty, this sounds abusive and makes me concerned about what he may be like once the baby has arrived. Really concerning.

Lots of men change when their partner is pregnant, if they have abusive tendencies it comes out then and doesn't change, they get jealous that someone else is going to get all their partner's attention. X

He threatened to knock out his heavily pregnant partner.

You know you can't be with him, right? That's not OK in any world.

I’m sorry op, but threatening you during very late stage pregnancy is classic start of abuse.
Staying with your mum to cool the situation down is a good start but be on the look out for controlling or emotionally abusive behaviour - trying to separate you from your family or friends etc. Any threats of violence no matter how they are dressed up.

You need to stay at your Mum's as long as possible. After major surgery & having a baby, that pig of a man won't look after you. & You will need looking after.

That’s awful and abusive. Good idea to go to your mums