Telling DSD news

[Xiomara22]

So we've been thinking ahead of how to tell my partners daughter that we're expecting.

She's 11 and is already a big sister (her mums 2nd child) this will be our first and I can't wait to tell her she's been after another baby sibling for a while.

Any ideas? Tia

A scan picture in a card maybe

I think her DD should tell her himself without you being there, she may be really excited but perhaps a little apprehensive about the news, this is surely a moment for her and her Dad to have alone together?

I definitely dont think you should be excluded. You're the one actually having the baby! If she is excited/wants a little sibling then there is no reason to expect she wouldnt be anything other than happy.

My partners daughter was always going on about us having a baby and telling us to get a move on. It would have been weird to not be there when she found out, and I was super excited to tell her as I knew how happy she would be! I can see why if you dont know 100% that she will be happy you would want to leave her dad to tell her, but if you're sure it will be positive news then it would be weird you not being there!

I like the idea of a scan photo in a card as the other PP suggested. I'm sure there are loads of creative ideas out there.

Also just because you're a step mum doesnt make you any less of a family unit all together. I just cant get over how weird a suggestion it is that you shouldn't be there if theres no reason to suspect it wouldnt be a positive thing, which from what you've said it sounds like she'd be really excited.

When I told my stepdaughter that we were expecting I got her a new T-shirt which said "fab sis" and gave it to her. Explained what it meant and asked if she would help us announce it to everyone else. Took a picture of her wearing the top holding my scan photo. She was excited for a little baby but also felt really included. It was really lovely. Kinda wish I recorded it now!! 🌸

Thanks for all the replies and ideas. We have a really strong relationship so I'll definitely be there when we tell her. We're currently decorating her room for her so we may coincide telling her the news with the reveal of her new room, she's picked out her paint and wallpaper herself but the rest will be a surprise for her