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I just want my mum

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Rebelwithallthecause · 15/05/2020 10:01

39 weeks pregnant
Due to give birth any day
Have been isolating at home for the last 9 weeks with DH.

But I’m so lonely, scared, if not terrified of what’s to come

I just wish I could have my parents visit before I have baby or them visit after so they can meet baby

The latest government rules was just another Knock as I had been so hoping that they would allow us to see close family again and now I’ve no idea when that will happen.

There’s so many unknowns and I’ve just been crying most days.
I’ve heard about PND but can’t imagine her feeling worse than how I do now.

OP posts:
PrinnyPree · 15/05/2020 10:20

Sending hugs, I'm 39 weeks tomorrow and haven't seen my Mum since before lockdown too, we're both self isolating as she's over 70 and on top of that she lives 100 miles away and my Dad passed away last year. We had so many plans to come up and stay before and after (she even had her house on the market and was going to move nearby but thats gone to shit too) I hope this bloody virus drops off the face of the Earth soon. Sending hugs and strength we'll both have our beautiful babies soon, sorry the situation is completely shit and unfair. Xxx

BeyOnceBeyTwice · 15/05/2020 10:22

I'm 39 weeks too and my mum is in a nursing home, i really understand, it's heartbreaking that I can't see her and don't even know when I'd be able to after baby is here. Hugs, it's so shit

Catlover10 · 15/05/2020 10:26

So sorry you feel like that. The new rules suggest you can meet someone from a different household in the park or go for a walk etc, so is this possible for you and your mum to do this week?

Iwanttostayhappy · 15/05/2020 10:30

Speaking as a mum who can’t hug her daughter, I feel your pain, we are in such strange times. Keep positive as best you can.

3rdNamechange · 15/05/2020 10:45

What's the distance between you ? Could you meet her for a walk ?
Not the same as a hug but at least you'd see her.

Cazzy198 · 15/05/2020 11:06

I'm 39 weeks too and my parents live an hour away. I havent seen them since February and my mum is currently undergoing radiotherapy as she has terminal cancer. It breaks my heart that I cant see her and she is unlikely to meet her first grandchild until at least July.

Facetime just isnt the same but it's not worth the risk to my mum.

I feel your pain @Rebelwithallthecause.

My husband is amazing (he also lost his mum to cancer before our wedding) but I still feel sad and lonely most days

Original poster
Rebelwithallthecause · 15/05/2020 11:10

I’m sorry there’s so many in the same position.
I feel terrible for moaning as I know Some people are in far worse situations and losing loved ones so have been keeping my thoughts to myself for so long but coming so close to birth it’s heightened my feelings.

Unfortunately my parents are over an hour away and 70+ with health conditions too.

FaceTime really isn’t the same. I find it hard to FaceTime or even text friends right now as I’m just a one person pity party the whole time

OP posts:
Selfsettling3 · 15/05/2020 11:10

Pre natal depression is more common than PND. Please speak to your midwife about how you feel.

Hohohole · 15/05/2020 11:15

That sounds so shit. I'm sorry you have to go through it. Odds are massively in your favour that you and the baby will be fine. I know how hard it is not to worry. There is research at the moment saying children may not be passing it on so although you won't be able to hug your mum your baby might be able to sooner than thought. Please try meet your mum before you have the baby (obeying guidelines) it might give you the boost you need before you have your baby. Your mental health is so important. Mind yourself.

Lemonnhoney · 15/05/2020 11:24

I would travel to see them outside. You have both been isolating? And PPD and PND are real and harmful and it could really help seeing them in person

PrinnyPree · 15/05/2020 11:42

Don't feel terrible for moaning at all OP you can never compare what you're going through with someone else and some peoples situations may seem worse on paper but it doesn't mean you can't be having a worse time of it. I don't think I'm struggling as much as you by the sounds of it and didn't want ot come across as "you think you have it bad" more of I know a bit what you're going through, I'm in a similar boat and I'm with you in solidarity. Flowers

Take the best care of yourself OP and definitely speak to your midwife about prenatal mental health support. Xxx

BeMorePacific · 15/05/2020 17:14

I can’t imagine how tough it is for you. But I really recommend you maintain strict social distancing guidelines before your baby is born.
Once baby is here then consider garden meetings etc. But you do not want to compromise yourself or your baby at this critical stage.
So sorry you’re going through this. Take care x

newmumtobe66 · 15/05/2020 18:12

Completely sympathise with this :(

123456kent · 15/05/2020 19:28

I can’t help re family members but I can just say I gave birth 3 weeks ago and in the lead up to the birth was crying every day, feeling so down and scared and lonely. I needn’t have worried as it went so well and the current situation had very little effect on my birth. I know that’s just me, but just to say that the majority of the time there’s no reason to be scared and after the birth, touch wood, you will feel as I do now which is elated that none of the things I worried about happening, happened and actually it was lovely. It’s a scary and unique time to be giving birth.

loubert89 · 16/05/2020 10:42

My parents live in the south west and I live in the East Midlands, I feel this pain. All I want is a hug from my mum.

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